Jeff Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 Well, i dont know how to say this at all. I am lookinf for answears. I havnt had a real girlfreind in my life. I bet my parents think i am gay or something which I am not. I am kinda large with a 34 waist. And well my life just sucks alot. But why? I mean freinds tell me to be more aggressive to wemon. But I just dont think I am understanding. I have hardly any freinds. And the girl that was my freind just stopped talking to me. Most i dont know if there my freind or not cause they make some kinda remark or ignore me or i think tehre talking behind my back or something. I almost shot myself and I keep getting the thought. I am very shy, and when i talk to girls i CANT TALK AS MUCH AS I WOULD LIKE! And i cant help but my face turning red and i cant look them in the eye. I need help and well lots of help. Just lost and will probly get mad fun of for posting something like this but its my last change before i blow my head off... and i mean it Link to post Share on other sites
d1410 Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 Sounds like you need to talk to a counselor or someone who you can confide in. You sound like you're a nice guy who just needs a boost. Shyness can be hard to deal with. Don't try so hard with the women. The most important thing for you now is to focus on yourself. Once you're happier with yourself, people will sense this and flock to you. Take one day at a time and keep going. All the best to you. :-) d1410 Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleAngel Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 I agree with you d1410, it is very important you go and speak with someone Jeff. It is not healthy that you are having these feelings and trust me Jeff, they will and can go away. It is not worth doing anything drastic. Please go and see someone, they will be able to help. Jeff it is important that you are able to talk to someone about the things that are bothering you and making you feel and react in certain ways. I understand, how sad it is to feel lonely, but there are SO many people on this earth and as much as I don’t always feel that I get along with the majority of them there are people that are out there that are willing to be great people, who I do understand and am able to be friends with, its just a matter of having a little courage, faith and belief in yourself and you will find them. Good Luck Jeff, Stay Strong! ~PurpleAngel~ Link to post Share on other sites
Jeff Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 I will take everyones opions and advice and work something out and try to stay cool. Thx. Link to post Share on other sites
michiganmale27 Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 34 waist??? Consider yourself lucky, I have a 38 waist. I know the exact issues you are facing, because I have and to a certain extent still face the same issues you do. The three girlfriends I have had in my life were the ones to initiate asking me out, everyone says I'm cute, they never say Im fat except when they are playing with me, even though I think I am....I always have this image of Quasimodo or the Elephant man conjured up in my head. HOWEVER, don't believe it. Everyone has experienced failures rejections....Hell even rock stars that are GQ, or Covergirl material have been rejected or had to experience a failed relationship. Definately think about maybe some counseling or support group. If you want to try getting a gf, a word of advice from a shy person would be to just be around places that girls go to. I know I opened a can of worms with that, but you get the point. Just be yourself, someone will start talking to you, AND I am confident you will get asked out by a women. This is the 2000's women are much more easy going about being the one to ask out. GOOD LUCK!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Cpunch75 Posted July 17, 2003 Share Posted July 17, 2003 well if you hate your life right now the best thing to do is to take the recommendation by going to see someone who will listen to you. I had a "coach" in college who would psych me up when I had esteem and confidence issues and that gave me a definite boost!! my recommendation to you is, don't focus on getting a woman now, because a woman loves to evaluate and analize a man in terms of financial status, if he's fit, personality and if he can give her 3 orgasms in one night (lol that's my experience) and if your crashing down on yourself while youre alone, you'll crash harder with the struggles with a relationship with a woman, not to say that it's all bad, but in terms of the ups and downs. Punch Link to post Share on other sites
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