all4love Posted April 6, 2008 Share Posted April 6, 2008 Me and my best friend were in a relationship for just about 20 days.We decided to quit the affair because it didnt feel very comfortable and moreover we havent totally gotten over with our ex'es.(Both of us were ditched abt 9months ago by our partners and that was our 1st relationship).I was quite content when he told me that he wanted us to be just 'friends' as of now since I was also feeling like saying the same thing to him for many days. But now I feel like no matter how hard I try not to think of him I usually end up thinking about him most of the time.Last night he was feeling really low as his friend told him that he should actually stop missing her now because for her he's like any other ex-bf she's had in life and that pissed him up to no limit.I can relate to every bit of his emotions so well since we have gone through the same thing,at the same time.I kept listening and trying to calm him down and then after a while before putting the phone down he suddenly said that he wanted to say something and said "I really love you...you're the most imp person in my life right now and dont think Iam saying all this because Iam drunk,I really mean it" To this I said "I know...but we would just remain friends and wont take this friendship any further (affair n all)". He said "...Ya we wont...I just meant to say that you're the most imp person in my life.You know you are v sweet ...and cute,the one person with whom I can share anything..." Well I know he loves me but I want him to love me 'a lot' and I want him to just forget everything.I want him to start believing in true love and not to be ''afraid".(He used to tell me not to get too serious when we were in a relationship or whatever one can call it) Guys he tells me that we are so good to be together and the 4 days he had spent with me were awesome and fun.He's just so dependent on me emotionally too but I still dont know when would he propose to me again. You know in novemeber when we had come so close,I felt Iam the only one who's so attached and attracted but later on he disclosed that he felt the same and he could have proposed to me if I hadnt vanished for a month... I sooo want him but also without any baggage...Do you think NC would work or pls tell me what do i do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author all4love Posted April 6, 2008 Author Share Posted April 6, 2008 By the way I still dont know if its a good idea to be in relationship with him as we have been each other's emotional supports and when I need him his words do wonders. When we had jus entered the relationship, I felt that he couldnt tell me things which he used to tell me before our affair.I told him I preferred to be a 'friend' rather than his gf because he wont share it that well when he felt low....I know it sounds so confusing and silly but I dont know how not to be in love with him. Sometimes I want to forget him and be single for awhile and at times I just wonder if he still has the same feelings for me which he had about 20-30 days ago,if he really misses the moments we spent together.Iam just sure about the physical thing and I know the lust is definitely there...not sure about 'love' though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author all4love Posted April 7, 2008 Author Share Posted April 7, 2008 hello...pls guys i need your point of view and if someone has been in a situation like this when you're in love with your best friend then please let me know about it.Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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