SOS_Please Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 ...I have to ask: How many women like (or, at least can tolerate) porn? I mean, so often there are threads about women who hate porn, or are so disgusted with their significant others because they watch porn. Big whoop. I don't see why it's a big deal. I mean, I'm not obsessed with porn, and I would hope that my significant other could get off without it; however, I don't see a problem with it in moderation, and I highly enjoy watching some of it myself. Any other ladies feel this way, or am I on my own here? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 I don't mind it, as long as my boyfriend isn't watching something I find morally repellent, and I still get sex, then he and I are both happy. But, I don't think it is for me to judge those who do have a problem with it. We are all different, and what I find acceptable it is obvious others won't always. So I sympathise those who do have this problem in their relationship, and am thankful it's not in mine. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 I have a penchant for porn. I have no problem with it, watching it alone, watching it with an SO, them watching it, etc as long as it's not of the unsavory type. And by that I mean there are obvious differences between "forced" and forced, "barely legal" and actually looks like a young adult, etc etc. As long as it doesn't make me question an SO's underlying psyche, it's cool. Link to post Share on other sites
Tyra Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 ...I have to ask: How many women like (or, at least can tolerate) porn? I mean, so often there are threads about women who hate porn, or are so disgusted with their significant others because they watch porn. Big whoop. I don't see why it's a big deal. I mean, I'm not obsessed with porn, and I would hope that my significant other could get off without it; however, I don't see a problem with it in moderation, and I highly enjoy watching some of it myself. Any other ladies feel this way, or am I on my own here? I feel the same way that you do. ;)The things that happen in porn movies, is the same thing that happens in people bedrooms everyday,including mine.So I don't see what's the big deal about it either. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 ...I have to ask: How many women like (or, at least can tolerate) porn? I mean, so often there are threads about women who hate porn, or are so disgusted with their significant others because they watch porn. Big whoop. I don't see why it's a big deal. I mean, I'm not obsessed with porn, and I would hope that my significant other could get off without it; however, I don't see a problem with it in moderation, and I highly enjoy watching some of it myself. Any other ladies feel this way, or am I on my own here? You're not alone.. I like porn.. but not any porn.. I have a cassette I watch often.. it's gay porn.. I can only watch a few minutes at a time... There are good and bad porn.. I like the movies with some kind of 'realistic' stories.. I hate to watch the ones that only show the close-up on the 'intercourse' itself.. that doesn't do anything for me.. I like to see more of the 'actors'.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 Sex is a loving connection with your SO, real touch, real connection, a way to express love but porn? besides it provoke more lust, more lust, and more perverted lust, what else can it provide? connection with porn stars? you won't want to be treated as a sex object, do you? It is like material abuse, an easy way to escape reality. In the end you won't feel good about yourself. we tend to underestimate what we see, what we think, but these ideas really play major parts in our realities. Prove? just see how messed up people are these days: all kinds of depression, all kinds of perversion, all kinds of cold heart, all kinds of miserary. ALL start from our mind, what we feed our mind will determine our future Just an anther thought Link to post Share on other sites
Author SOS_Please Posted April 7, 2008 Author Share Posted April 7, 2008 (edited) Sex is a loving connection with your SO, real touch, real connection, a way to express love but porn? besides it provoke more lust, more lust, and more perverted lust, what else can it provide? connection with porn stars? you won't want to be treated as a sex object, do you? It is like material abuse, an easy way to escape reality. In the end you won't feel good about yourself. we tend to underestimate what we see, what we think, but these ideas really play major parts in our realities. Prove? just see how messed up people are these days: all kinds of depression, all kinds of perversion, all kinds of cold heart, all kinds of miserary. ALL start from our mind, what we feed our mind will determine our future Just an anther thought I don't think porn itself really has anything to do with those problems: if a man wants to treat a woman as a sex object, then he will regardless of if he watchs porn or not. It's like the argument against horror movies, "Well, So-and-So murdered those three people and ate them, because he watched Silence of the Lambs too many times." It's merely an excuse to dismiss the real issue: lack of education. People who watch films and confuse it with reality are not educated. THAT's the real problem; that's why people are depressed and miserable: they aren't educated enough to realize that film is NOT REALITY. If you think people are messed up these days, just take a look at any ancient history text *cough*Rome*cough*: THOSE were some messed up people, and they didn't have the luxoury or excuse of watching pornography. Or, better yet, look at the Victorian Era: people were depressed and miserable because they were sexually deprived; it seems the most happy people have been in this century was in the sexually liberated 1960's! Yes. I agree that an over indulgence of ANYTHING can be harmful--especially regarding sex and violence. However, I don't see the problem if educated adults want to watch porn, just like I don't see the problem if educated adults want to watch horror films. Also, I will conceed that we should feed our mind--just like our body--with wholesome things. That being said, we all need to indulge ourselves every once-and-awhile. :bunny: Edited April 7, 2008 by SOS_Please More to add! Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 (edited) Yes. I agree that an over indulgence of ANYTHING can be harmful--especially regarding sex and violence. However, I don't see the problem if educated adults want to watch porn, just like I don't see the problem if educated adults want to watch horror films. Well, how many educated "adults" cannot stop using porns in spite that their wives cannot get 'any'; how many educated "adults" become addicted to porn and cannot control themselves not to watch porn? Porn like lust is progressing: today is soft couple porn, tomorrow it will be not enough, and progress to violent or perverted porn. a man who watch porn often will carry the scenario out in real life, including how to treat their SO, they are used to the scenarios in porn that turn them on, if their wives aren't like that, they are pretty dead to their wives' naked bodies. they prefer to connect to screen porn stars than real people. I am not bluffing, if you google the harm of porn, you will be amazed Or, better yet, look at the Victorian Era: people were depressed and miserable because they were sexually deprived; it seems the most happy people have been in this century was in the sexually liberated 1960's! the truth is that the people who are too liberate about sex are the one who are mentally unstable, they are easily deep depressed Edited April 7, 2008 by Lovelybird Link to post Share on other sites
Author SOS_Please Posted April 7, 2008 Author Share Posted April 7, 2008 Well, how many educated "adults" cannot stop using porns in spite that their wives cannot get 'any'; how many educated "adults" become addicted to porn and cannot control themselves not to watch porn? Porn like lust is progressing: today is soft couple porn, tomorrow it will be not enough, and progress to violent or perverted porn. a man who watch porn often will carry the scenario out in real life, including how to treat their SO, they are used to the scenarios in porn that turn them on, if their wives aren't like that, they are pretty dead to their wives' naked bodies. they prefer to connect to screen porn stars than real people. I am not bluffing, if you google the harm of porn, you will be amazed Then I say those people aren't really educated: they are living in a dream-world. However, one shouldn't assume that men are the only ones objectifying their significant others'; the men in porns are just as objectified as the women. Who in reality really has a penis over the standard 6.5inches and can last THAT long? Not many people. It's not meant to be taken as reality, and the people who do are not living in reality. It's not the porn industries' fault, but the people who wish to live in said dream-land. Like I said earlier: are we really going to blame horror films for murderers? There have been sexaholics who objectify their significant others since the beginning of civilization! Porn may be an easy access for those who wish to use it for their unhealthy perversions (i.e. using it to objectify or degrade), but it in itself is not to blame. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 Then I say those people aren't really educated: they are living in a dream-world. However, one shouldn't assume that men are the only ones objectifying their significant others'; the men in porns are just as objectified as the women. Who in reality really has a penis over the standard 6.5inches and can last THAT long? Not many people. It's not meant to be taken as reality, and the people who do are not living in reality. It's not the porn industries' fault, but the people who wish to live in said dream-land. Like I said earlier: are we really going to blame horror films for murderers? There have been sexaholics who objectify their significant others since the beginning of civilization! Porn may be an easy access for those who wish to use it for their unhealthy perversions (i.e. using it to objectify or degrade), but it in itself is not to blame. The problem is that in all human beings there is lust rooted in us. It is like beautiful fruit tempt us at any time. It is less to do with education, but more to do with self-control. If everyone is so perfect, then there aren't cheating wives and husbands. many people so overestimate their abilities, but why cannot they JUST STOP? just stop any addiction? why there are so many alchoholics, porn addicters, adulterers. Most of human beings know what they are doing aren't right, but cannot stop doing it? why? can we blame porn for the lust that rooted in human beings? of course not, but porn nurture that perverted lust and can bring that lust to its full potential--bottomless. Sex in marriage is good, if it is expression of love and connection. Link to post Share on other sites
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