Boyfriend's ex

[rrl83]

I have a problem and I don't know what to do about it.

 

I have my boyfriend's email password (he gave it to me a long time ago). I logged in out of curiosity and saw he was emailing with his ex gf AND instant messaging her.

 

I told him under no circumstances was he to talk to her because of what had happened with her, him and I in the past. Basically she tried to interfere in our relationship and wants him back. He says that he only sees her as a friend.

 

Now she has invited him to a baseball game birthday outing for a mutual friend. If he goes, should i dump him?

 

I know I shouldn't be checking his email or telling him who to talk to, but I am just very insecure and worried about cheating. Help!

[Spoonandfork22]

same situation happened to me with my current bf. His ex was meddling in our relationship as well. I know how hard this can be and how frustrating. No, you shouldnt have been going through his things, but this was the only way I found out my bf was speaking with his ex still (through text messages) so at least now you know. You have to talk to him and ask him if he is still speaking with her. If he says no you ask him again and then you will have to tell him you know he is lying. Ive also had to do that before. Its no walk in the park, guys are pretty adament about what they 'havent done' if you dont have proof. In this case you do, so hes going to have to confront the issue. Under no circumstances should he go to this outting. It is disrespectful to you and the relationship. Its one thing to speak with her but entirely another for him to start hanging out with her. Are the emails friendly? or are they flirtatious? That should tell you something.

 

This is a big communication issue and also an issue that is about what you will and wll not put up with. I think that my bf's ex still contacts him, I feel like she will never get the hint but I dont ask anymore and I dont worry about it. I know where his heart lies. Sometimes also guys like the ego boost of knowing they still have the affections of someone else and maybe he really does see her as a friend but likes the attention. I know it doesnt make it right, but just because he is talking to her doesnt mean he is cheating on you. He could just like the ego boost.

 

I wish you luck w. this...I know how annoying it is!!

[mark982]

normally i don't agree with snopping,but you two set up the ground rules for your relationship. it seems he broke one of the rules. balls in your court now.