Author MikeCosseva Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 Yeah I feel manipulated in a way with all the games she's been playing, like she is getting one up me if I attend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MikeCosseva Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 whichwayisup, during that moment you brought up was when I called her a flirt. She gave me a dumbfounded face and later called me the flirt. You're right she is insecure and needs attention. The problems started when I wasn't returning her advances because of her games. For the six months I've known her she's been engaged. She is not that hot to be honest with you, she doesn't have the curves that some of us guys like. She does have a very pretty face and nice long legs. I like tall slender girls and when she knew she had what I liked, boy was she a tease. When she found out that I thought she was cute she loved it and was dying for my attention. Someone must have told her I liked her long legs becuz she stretched them out in front of me for no reason whats ever, like she was at the gym and not by my desk. She started off as a very covert flirt so she could still look loyal to her guy but her actions in the picnic changed that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MikeCosseva Posted October 26, 2008 Author Share Posted October 26, 2008 Well she finally got married. She came back from her honeymoon saying she still has a flame for me. Our coworkers know there is something between the two of us and she uses it to overplay her feelings for me in public so it looks like she is exaggerating when she really is not. I ignore these comments and still try to socialize with her as a friend and as a coworker. I still have a thing for her and it's strong but I am able to control it around her . But I can't stop thinking about her. She regularly stares at me from across the room trying to get me to look back. I make pretend that I don't notice. When she acts like this I look like I am in control but deep inside I am not. Currently she is angry at me for all this but made it out to be a work related issue in front of the co-workers. When I approached her friend about her being angry I was told she is having marriage problems and it's only been a month! I want her bad but I don't want the drama of sleeping with a married woman. I have not talked to her about my feelings which I feel is the right thing to do but the lust for her is bad. I want to communicate with her cuz I see this girl 5 days a week but what do I say? I have always been bad in expressing my feelings with someone that I am attracted to. I want to tell her that if she wants me she has to dump him. But is this the right course of action? 5 dollars for your thoughts Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 You cannot be 'friends' with her anymore. She's officially married and she's hands off. There's no point in even bothering with her, all that will happen is an affair and you don't need that. You say NOTHING about what you feel for her, you stay away! IF her marriage ends, let it be because SHE made a mistake by getting married, not because of you. Distance yourself, deal with her on a professional level as much as possible, don't spend ANY time with her outside of work, no calls, no emails, texts etc.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MikeCosseva Posted October 26, 2008 Author Share Posted October 26, 2008 I wish I could have you by my ear more often . She makes it soo tough sometimes, especially when she looks at me with those puppy eyes. But I've been strong with her while she was engaged...I think I can handle her for the time being. Deep inside I really hope she gets a divorce so I can finally have my chance with her. The first time I met her she was already engaged so I never really had that chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 This woman sounds like a nut. Why would she get married? She clearly had/has feelings for you, and it sounds like she has issues with the guy because they are already having problems. Sounds like head case to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MikeCosseva Posted October 26, 2008 Author Share Posted October 26, 2008 He has $ so that may be the reason. But you are 100% accurate, she is a nutjob . Not to be sexist but most women have to be a little nutty to be in my profession. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MikeCosseva Posted September 9, 2009 Author Share Posted September 9, 2009 An update for anyone who remembers this thread. She is STILL after me. After she got married little has changed. She is just alittle more secretive when she flirts with me, making sure no one catches it. When she's approached by another coworker she blames me as the advancer. She has tried many different tactics to catch my attention. For a week she was shaking her ass in front of my face, while during another week she was talking about how good of a cook she is to a coworker who couldn't give a rats ass about cooking, just because i'm within ears length. She gives me the bedroom eyes regularly. It's pretty much confirmed that she wants to shag, her intentions are 100 percent real. She is also extremely jealous when I interact with other women. One time she purposely bumped into a girl to let me know that but at the same time she would sometimes say how I need to find a girl to settle down with...and with a straight face. Nuts I tell ya!!!!!!!! Earlier in this thread I talked about another coworker who's the workplace slut. Well she is now separated from her husband and living with her mom. She also happens to be my stalkers BFF, which may explain why my "girl" wants a lover on the side. It worked for her friend...well until she got caught. My workplace is filled with affairs and realtionship drama. Theres one single girl who I am interested in but she works different hours so that makes it difficult to get that alone time with her. I have yet to really talk to her. I am a shy guy when around a girl I like so many girls can misdirect it as being snobby especially since most of the girls here think I am really goodlooking. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 When she's approached by another coworker she blames me as the advancer. Your entire post was kind of alarming, but this particularly stood out. She's sounds like a bit of a nut, and this may be a sexual harrassment complaint waiting to happen. I'd start documenting. Find someone in management you can talk to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MikeCosseva Posted September 9, 2009 Author Share Posted September 9, 2009 Though I doubt she would take it that far ( I don't think she would want that attention) , she is still crazy and that is one direction that can end with bad consequences. Good looking out Gorilla. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 Mike, Can you ask for a transfer or explain the situation to HR? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MikeCosseva Posted September 9, 2009 Author Share Posted September 9, 2009 Yeah at work I was saying for a while how I'm thinking about changing my hours there. The hrs I work are NOT accommodating for a single guy; which is why everyone around me have families. I'm particularly interested in the hours that the girl I like works. I'm not doing it for her, but her schedule would give me better sleep and a life after work. It's funny my stalker "Kathy" heard my interests in the other girl through the grapevine so when I brought up the possibility of leaving she said " who's waiting for you , her?" Good stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 Sal I guess you're right in a sense. You ask why would I get involved with a loser like that? It's probably the hormones. Maybe I feel she is getting married for the wrong reasons if she is interested in me. Maybe pushing 30 is making her desperate and she sees marriage as this dream that she has to accomplish before she gets too old regardless if it's with the right person. Or maybe all this is just crazy talk from me. I saw her today. We didn't get to talk much because we were both soo busy. After work I saw her by herself and I was about to approach her but she seemed kind of sad and in her own world so I backed off and disappeared. There's always tomorrow. so unless you just want a f##k, why would you even consider her? If she is crushing on you while engaged, do you think somehow if she breaks off the engagement that you are something special and she won't be looking to better deal you later. huge red flag. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MikeCosseva Posted September 10, 2009 Author Share Posted September 10, 2009 Yeah I thought I could be something special to her and I was really attracted to her....physically anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Yeah I thought I could be something special to her. think again Link to post Share on other sites
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