Javelin Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 Dysfunctional, what is wrong with people? Link to post Share on other sites
theobserver Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 I'm extremely bias replying to this but hell you know what there's a degree of bias whenever someone gives an opinion. There is something very screwed up mentally over a man who can cheat on you, impregnate another woman and know about it and worse yet do it a few doors down from where you both lived talk about balls of steel. I'm sorry about the situation. Sorry you wanted a child with this man and had to go through 2 miscarriages honestly it hurts to my soul. I would say it's a partial if not sad blessing that you did not create life with such a man and also that you are financially independent to move out and get on with your life try not to worry about the other woman what she did is wrong but now she's pregnant but don't worry we all know she's a bitch. All focus should be on your ex who broke the trust, seems rather mellow about it and didn't have the balls to talk about it with you probably because he was too busy enjoying the cake. However he is human. Continue to be civil and go on with that move on the 1st of June. Please Please whatever you do do not let him come to your new place and dont be put in any situation where you'd sleep with him again and believe me he will try. You will also possibly be lonely during this time try and hang out with some girlfriends (no guyfriends, especially if they know your down) and go out but be careful and don't just sleep with some random guy to fill your void or date some rebound guy or perhaps rebounds need to happen. Best of luck, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. You should get through this fine. Also nice work with the shoe lol. If anyone was wondering why I mentioned I had a bias opinion below is a true story on why but essentially my reply to the OP is done. t I had a "friend"(yeah heh) Her partner had cheating on her while she was pregnant(With twins), she found out from a the mystery girls best friend who thought it was the decent thing to do to inform her. My friend confronted her partner and he confessed(what else could he do?) he then also told her he had another child with another woman in a previous relationship yrs ago. (don't get me started on this) Perhaps out of fear of being alone (which I can understand) she forgave him, although perhaps the biggest red flag early on was a comment he made when she asked if he ever saw the child or paid child support. "I'm not paying child support for that kid" was his reply (If I was a woman I would of if possible woddled myself to my parents or someone that could support me and run at that point) 2 years down the line after the chilren were born. Yup you guess it, he cheated again and dun dun dun got her pregnant. He walked out on my friend to be with the new girl and their pending child. After a rebound relationship with her ex best friend who was her shoulder to cry on (he was just waiting to tap that) she's now with someone who respects her and her kids as a package and seems happy atleast from the emails I get. The point is when I read about your guy (although description is brief) I just see my friends ex all over again. Link to post Share on other sites
Pikaia Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 I am so sorry. I've been down that road with a man who wants to live off you and then have the nerve to disrespect you in such a way. You don't need him. You could possibly try to save the relationship, but think of all the stress that goes along with trying to forgive? To me, it seems he's not worth it. Let him get a job and support himself and then see if he can find a woman that will put up with his BS. Horrible.... I will be thinking about you. Take care and always remember you deserve only the best! Link to post Share on other sites
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