Sw3etdev1L Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Call the psycotherapist...talk to him and see if he can work in some of the areas you are interested in working in. Stop hesitating. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Thanks for your reply, I already have started a therapy, though. Link to post Share on other sites
ZenSilk Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 So what did you choose? Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 I took the first who had an opening. It's behavioural therapy. I am not sure if it will help me a lot. I can pay for 30 sessions, so we'll see. The therapy focuses more on the now and here, instead of the why and when. I only had 2 sessions so far, so I can't really say how good it will work out. I find that, like with all people, I try my hardest to appear strong and balanced and rational. Is that bad? Link to post Share on other sites
ZenSilk Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 I haven't really been on therapy, but I've read quite a bit and done quite a lot of talking with many people, and I always found the behavioral approach a lot more helpful than constantly asking "why?". That only takes you so far... so I really hope it works for you! I guess it's normal to not be able to let yourself fall straight away. I even try to fool myself and, if I'm feeling strong for a minute, don't even acknowledge to myself that I have issues. How crazy is that... but I think you'll profit more from therapy if you can actually lay the cards on the table and speak honestly and openly about your issues. That's the one place where you know you're not putting a burden on someone with your problems, but there's a professional sitting there. So seize this opportunity!!! Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Do you know if it's cognitive behavioral or strictly behavioral? This is an important distinction. Could you be more specific about what type of problems you're looking to change? Behavioral therapy is best for targeting immediate, everyday bad habits. Cognitive therapy teaches you to change your "explanatory style" of thinking so that you don't see every bad thing that happens as a reflection on your self worth. Cognitive behavioral is good in the short term, but if you're looking to address deeper problems -- things from your past -- talk psychotherapy is essential. My advice is to see somebody who has a dynamic, flexible approach. That way they can tailor the type of treatment to your needs as a patient. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 My advice is to see somebody who has a dynamic, flexible approach. That way they can tailor the type of treatment to your needs as a patient. Problems: social isolation, lack of self identificatin, self-hate, self-damaging behaviour, emotional eating and depression. I wanted to do cognitive, but it was either this therapist or wait till septembre. So, I chose him. Basically , I think every help I can get will be better than no help. You can translate the German word both ways, but I think he goes for strict behavioural therapy. Oh well, he has to give me his diagnosis and therapy plan next week, because I'll have to file it for the insurance company. I have 28 more session to become healthy, happy, and self-confident. Tick-tack. Project right now: getting me to get a biopsy. And accepting that I am human, not a machine. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 11, 2008 Share Posted June 11, 2008 My therapist isn't sure I need help. Apparently he thinks that my self-confidence is okay and that I need to be a little less critical. Also, he agrees with the way I view myself. Apparently I am really objective when it comes to evaluating myself and there is nothing bad about this. I am a bit surprised. After all the get-a-therapy encouragement here, I was expecting to hear something different. Oh well, at least I was right. He is willing to go on with therapy to see if there are any deeper issues that haven't been talked about yet, but I feel a little weird. Link to post Share on other sites
ZenSilk Posted June 11, 2008 Share Posted June 11, 2008 I know people who see a therapist and are perfectly "fine". They don't have huge issues, but they are overwhelmed when dealing with their smaller issues. This might be your case too, and I'm sure there's a therapist or coach who can help you with that. Or you can just do this on your own. Sometimes all one needs is to know a structured way to go about those issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 Mh. Had another session today. It is strange. He doesn't feel that anything is not working for me. He thinks I am fine. Just because right now, I am not breaking down and crying (yeah, I am all cried out thank you) it seems that I can't have problems. The non-consentual sex? Happens. The self-hurting as a child? Not great, but I got over it. Being isolated? Well, there must be something I do wrong. Not liking myself? I should like myself. We talked about that 5 minutes. Uhm. Yeah. I so love myself now, thank you very much. I honestly think he has no idea what to think of me and just keeps me coming for the money. It's getting uncomfortable, because I feel more and more like a complete doofus who is crying wolf for no reason. Link to post Share on other sites
ZenSilk Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 Do you know anyone who can refer you to a different therapist? I'm sure there's someone out there who can talk to you about how work on your issues! Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 No. Every single therapist in this city is booked (yes, I couldn't believe it either) until septembre. He was able to get me a spot right now. He is nice, but... Link to post Share on other sites
ZenSilk Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 Hm. So how about looking if this therapy still does something for you and meanwhile finding out which other therapist in your town might be worth a try? You could then make arrangements for September. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 How do I find out which are good? Should I tell my therapist? They are in a network, which is how I got this therapist in the first place. I think it would be weird if he would hear from a colleague that I am looking for something else. Link to post Share on other sites
ZenSilk Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 Hmmm... I really don't know about that one. I know several people who've done a therapy so I'd go to them if I wanted to choose a therapist. I agree that it would be weird if your therapist heard from someone else that you're looking for a different one. Aren't there any other therapy groups or networks in your town? Or in a town next to yours? As I said before, there are also other kinds of guidance you can choose. How about NLP practitioners, or some sort of Gestalt therapy group? Usually you can find fliers for these, and if your therapist thinks there's nothing really wrong with you, what you might need is just to talk in a group or take advantage of coaching sessions. Link to post Share on other sites
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