wareagle Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Why do we keep replying to this idiots thread? I'm not sure his story is even real? It's obvious that he will not listen to anyone's advice here! Let him learn on his own, and when he comes back here and wants to listen and heed all the advice we are giving him then maybe we can help him, but until then I feel it is a lost cause!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 You will only push her away further. Your only hope is to get better alone, on your own. Either she will come back or a better woman will. Right now, you're only hurting yourself, 24/7. I'd take a break from your normal life and go somewhere for a weekend. Someplace you can relax, maybe with a friend, maybe alone. Somewhere she's never been with you. Sleep. Get some calmatives if you have to, and sleep. It's the worst thing in situations like these: deprivation of sleep. Stop drinking. It won't help you. Link to post Share on other sites
vivrantflo Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Don't you understand????? My freaking girlfriend and friend of 11 ****ing years left me for this punk mother ****er she's known x amount of months. I am so in love with her, and she comes back telling me how she wants me and misses me so much, and it ends up being a cruel prank. **** me. Yeah man, we DO understand.. we're all here for a reason.. we've all been hurt. This is why we're offering you great advice. She is playing with your emotions, because you're allowing her to. You have to go NC. You don't want to know what she's doing.. and you don't want to know whom she's with.. it's just going to hurt. You don't suck at all man, but you're acting very irrational. Leave the two of them alone. NOTHING that you say, type, or do, will change anything in regards to your ex. My ex is playing me around like a Nintendo Gamecube cause she knows she can! Man up, and ignore her calls. SHE cheated on YOU. She should be fighting to get a hold of you! Not the other way around. You're the one that got hurt here! Cut her off!! Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 And in ten minutes you'll write how you miss her and how she should just call you and how you want her back. It's a circle. You want her to suffer? Well, you did what you could. It's over. You send a mail to her new guy. And that's about it. More you can't do. You're having anger issues and they are starting to sound really serious. Get help. Get out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
sedgwick Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 You have 100% completely and totally ruined things. So far you've mentioned physical violence (dragging her out of the bar), expressed the desire to engage in more serious physical violence (choking her), you've stalked her, and you've contacted her ex. You say you're done with this girl but then you contact her current guy and ask if you should add him to your friends list. You have completely dissociated from reality. This is frightening and unhelpful. If I were her I would be terrified of you, while simultaneously thinking you pathetic. I mean, I feel that way just reading your posts. I can't imagine how she must feel. You need SERIOUS. PROFESSIONAL. HELP. NOW. Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Revenge ruined the only option you had left with her. I know you are terribly upset, but saying things of a violent nature is killing your support here. I was in bad shape before and as I stated in another post, I resorted to revenge. As soon as I acted on it, I regretted the hell out of it. I was really surprised the one I loved ever talked to me afterwards. When you hurt, you really do some dumb ****!!! Man, I know you hurt badly!!! Everyone on here knows this. No sense in looking worse than you feel by calling her derogatory names and saying things like, "I am gonna drag that B***ch out!" Just know that now you are taking things to the extreme!!!! Many people including myself do not wish happiness for our ex's and many have thought about revenge. Only sense I can make from my experience is if you wish to do revengeful things.... that person most not deserve you anyway. YYY, hold your head up and if you made this story up, you are worse than your ex!!!! People say things will improve in time. Only thing left you have is to wait and see even though the pain seems unbearable!!!! My experience has not shown to help a great deal, but I have nothing left but time!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I didn't have any options with her. She left me for dead. The only option left was to let her come back whenever she was done ****ing Mr. Wonderful (again). **** that. This is really like a car crash!! I can't keep from looking. Okay, honestly I am here for support and to give support as I wander aimlessly as I heal with the so called Time heals all. It may seem like the only option left was for her to come back when she was done. I will give you advice that was given to me and it had to be beat in my head! Why would you want someone that has done this to you??? She is where she wants to be. For so very long, I lied to myself and tried believing (hence my name on here) that she really wanted to be with me, but had something holding her back. YOU wanna know what she had? A husband that she had been married to for over 18 years!!! I fell in love with her based on her lies!!! When I got my divorce, she said she was going through same thing and that she hadn't been happy in years. I have been there man!!! For two years!!! Not as long as you, but I loved this woman more than any other woman in my life including my ex wife who I was with for 10 years or so. I don't mind giving advice even if you don't take it because it helps me heal and believe in my own mind that I am getting better!! Get it, got it, good???? Link to post Share on other sites
v33 Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Triple Y, you gotta talk to a friend about this stuff man. Have you reached out to anyone you know? I know you are hurt, pal, but you are not dealing with this well at all. If you need to chat with someone you can hit me up on msn if you have to. I can't PM you but let me know.... I know it ain't easy, but dude, you need a fresh perspective. If nothing else I can send you some good audio books on breaking up and some pdfs with help. Link to post Share on other sites
justaman99 Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I just e-mailed Mr. Wonderful a two-page synopsis of the entire last week. heh dude it's over. let it be. you're f'n nuts. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 OMG YYY You really need help! You are scaring me and I am millions of miles away and you dont even know me! Get help dude! Link to post Share on other sites
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