theobserver Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 It's been a few days since you posted this but maybe you'll read this or maybe someone else in a similar situation will find comfort in this reply. You're not the only one who feels this way I've felt this way. It's very hard to have to know your girl has been with another man who may have been "bigger" (women please maybe it's not an issue for you but it is for men for our ego) better in bed, richer etc. You wonder in the back of your mind am I living up to that? It's extremely hard to bare if he WAS everything mentioned above but she left him because he cheated or etc which is very annoying because she was your first you feel like .. damn this girl is perfect for me but am I perfect for her? When she mentioned her ex was bigger I'm sure that hurt, the question is why. Do you constantly (when you fight) ask if he was bigger, why don't you go f***** him etc etc. Push someone enough and they know what will hurt you by your outbursts and make your heart stop. This seemed to be why she said that. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you it doesn't mean it's true it just means you should stop freaking arguing and realise she broke up with him for a reason and saw redeemable qualitys to take you on as her mate and it doesn't sound like there's any cheating going on so just be glad you don't have any of the issues like other people bleeding their heart out on this forum. Talk to her about your problem but don't freak out, explain the penis comment really did hurt and you still think about it. Does she know shes been your one and only? You could bring that up but be careful she might see it as you wanted to have played the field a bit more before comitting to a relationship. I'll tell you one thing, if her ex was around even if he was with a new girl depending on how and why they broke up he would be jealous too of you in the back of his head. You're the one pounder her now all night, and your coming to the 1 year mark so it's not just a fling he's been replaced. Suck it up get over it. Make her the happiest girl in the world do not make her resent you for your behaviour or she may run off. Good Luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Carmen87 Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 Your only other option besides getting over it is dumping her and finding a virgin. It is pretty unfair to ruin the relationship simply because she was not a virgin when she came to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 I just want help getting over these feelings' date=' or at least to know that theres other people with issues like this.[/quote'] Wow, you're feeling this way over just 1 partner You would have loved being with my ex-girlfriend. Let me tell you, when we first started dating, the talk of how many people we've been with eventually came up and to my surprise her number was low, too low to believe and I was smart not to believe her. In her defense, she was trying not to scare me away, so she put me at her 3rd, which was understandable for her age. However, curiosity finally overwhelmed me and I just had to know. So I drilled it out of her and finally the, 'truth' came out. I was her 10th partner in 2 years! I'm still not sure if this is the correct number, because it took me a solid 25 minutes of asking to get that high. Needless to say, I'm not with her anymore... Link to post Share on other sites
Alex96 Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 thanks for your message theobserver it did help and put things into perspective for me, I know I need to get over this and I am trying, thats why I'm on this forum trying to find help, because I really dont want to mess this relationship up, Thanks to everyone for the replies. Link to post Share on other sites
spookie Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Wow, you're feeling this way over just 1 partner You would have loved being with my ex-girlfriend. Let me tell you, when we first started dating, the talk of how many people we've been with eventually came up and to my surprise her number was low, too low to believe and I was smart not to believe her. In her defense, she was trying not to scare me away, so she put me at her 3rd, which was understandable for her age. However, curiosity finally overwhelmed me and I just had to know. So I drilled it out of her and finally the, 'truth' came out. I was her 10th partner in 2 years! I'm still not sure if this is the correct number, because it took me a solid 25 minutes of asking to get that high. Needless to say, I'm not with her anymore... Why? And why was it so important for you to know that you had to "drill" it out of her? Link to post Share on other sites
LaughMachine Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 You should only be jealous if he is still in the picture or is still trying to contact her. In no way should you be jealous that he was her first everything. When you are her now and present. That doesn't make anything less exciting to her, unless she hasn't fallen in love with you yet. You must be young, I am young too but know that if I was too falll in love again for the second time. That I would not be jealous of their past because they love me now.. Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 Why? And why was it so important for you to know that you had to "drill" it out of her? I knew she wasn't being truthful? I'm aware that her past had nothing to do with me, but at least be woman enough to be upfront with me. I thought less of her because she didn't tell the truth right away, not by how many booty calls she had. Like I said, I'm not even sure if was telling the truth at 10. Link to post Share on other sites
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