Buachaille Etive Mor Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 My impression going from what you said is that sadly, she is not interested in you (at least in that way). In any case, whether she is not interested in you or genuinely likes you but has too much on her place, it would be better to move on from her. Link to post Share on other sites
J2FT1 Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Thanks for the replies so far guys. Ok, so I've been trying to talk to her more, trying to get to know her even better, but it seems as if she is acting a bit shady. I have to be the one who goes and talks to her and she doesn't seem to excited to see my anymore. And although we don't know eachother too well, she has never acted like this towards me. We used to work together and she was extremely nice and friendly to me. What happened? As far as I know, I haven't done anything to even remotely provoke this. This is so confusing. I mean, I get it if she doesn't like me, but she's not even talking to me like she used to... Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 I say ignore her and be aloof about her and the situation. I think given time things will take a turn for the good. As I always like to say, a girl that that isn't too busy to claim that she's always busy is obviously lying. I remember in freshman of college year, I met a girl and we became pretty close friends and hungout often on campus. But if I were to ask her to hangout with me one on one outside campus or with my friends and me, she'd always feed me the busy line. Eventually the following semester we had different classes and I spoke with her much less and saw her much less even on campus. I then became high in demand because I was hardly available, and broke out of the friends barrier - whenever I'd see her she would bug me on when we'd hangout. By then it was too late because I was aloof and had lost interest in her...though it's always funny to see people wanting what they can't have, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Thanks for the replies so far guys. Ok, so I've been trying to talk to her more, trying to get to know her even better, but it seems as if she is acting a bit shady. I have to be the one who goes and talks to her and she doesn't seem to excited to see my anymore. And although we don't know eachother too well, she has never acted like this towards me. We used to work together and she was extremely nice and friendly to me. What happened? As far as I know, I haven't done anything to even remotely provoke this. This is so confusing. I mean, I get it if she doesn't like me, but she's not even talking to me like she used to... I'd personally would move on if I get that reaction. But monkey00's advice does sound interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
J2FT1 Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Since it is the end of the school year, and I'm going to college (she will be a junior next year), should I just say to her that I like her and see what happens or do you guys think that I shouldn't even bother? I have nothing to lose right? Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 With time running out, you might as well. Link to post Share on other sites
J2FT1 Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Ok, I'm going to ask her out this weekend. One more question: Should I ask if she wants to go do something, or just proclaim my love (AND over the phone or in person)? Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Invite her to join you to do something you have planned. Do not use "do you want" or "if" anywhere in your conversation. Do not proclaim your love for her. If she agrees to join you and you find you have chemistry with her, find a way to kiss her before the date is over. I screwed this up often enough in my younger years to know that it's important. If she's busy, smile and tell her you'll enjoy yourself just the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Don't proclaim your love (at least not yet), listen to Carhill, and here's hoping you have better luck with intimidating girls than me. May the force be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
J2FT1 Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 Thanks for the support so far guys! Ok, this is what I plan on saying (tomorrow at school), since I already asked her to the movies (with other friends) and she said "yes", if she was available. I plan on saying that my planned "get-together" with her was because I really like her and that I want her to be my girlfriend (blunt, bold). And that ever since I stopped working with her, I started to grow feelings for her (which I'm still somewhat unsure about). And that if she's interested I want to take her out ASAP. 2 Questions: Does that sound pretty bold for a teenage boy? Was it a mistake to have told this to one of her co-worker (which is a girl)? Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 Take it step by step, man. Make sure you perform at this get-together first (show yourself as interesting and fun, etc.) then take the next step and ask her out on a date. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I plan on saying that my planned "get-together" with her was because I really like her and that I want her to be my girlfriend (blunt, bold). And that ever since I stopped working with her, I started to grow feelings for her (which I'm still somewhat unsure about). And that if she's interested I want to take her out ASAP. Omit this part and enjoy yourself and see what happens. "If" the young lady becomes not available, ask another young lady whom you might fancy. Remember, young ladies do not control what you do with your free time; you do Enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
J2FT1 Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 Ok, so everything is set. Me and her and two other friends are going to go out in a few days but now I'm kinda worried if she even likes me. Sometimes when I know that she sees me around the hall and still doesn't make the effort to come and talk to me, I always have to go to her if I want a conversation. What does this mean? She is a somewhat shy girl. I mean, if she has to talk to someone, she will, but if she had the choice, she would rather talk to her friends. I was kinda cool with this before because if she doesn't talk to me a lot, I'm NOT in her "friend-zone." But now, it seems like a ridiculous excuse for why she doesn't make the effort to come and talk to me. She is very mannered and very respectful of people so I don't think she's being shady. And if she's simply not interested in me as a boyfriend then she should talk to me more, because we are very compatible talkers and I can make a good conversation because even teachers will talk to me about things unrelated to school. Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 Think positive, man. She might not talk to you a lot but: 1. You're not in her friend-zone as you said. 2. You've got an opportunity to talk + impress when you go out. Link to post Share on other sites
J2FT1 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Thank you guys! I needed the encouragement. Next mission: Movies So I was wondering if I should pay for her ticket. It is going to be wierd, though, because the two other person will probably pay for themselves and if I pay for her, they will think something's up. Two guys and two gals are going, including me. Should I just pay for myself? And then, when I ask her on a date later on, I will pay? Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted June 8, 2008 Share Posted June 8, 2008 Don't pay for anything until it's a date. Link to post Share on other sites
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