White Flower Posted June 6, 2008 Share Posted June 6, 2008 My significant other and i have been together for 2years. he cheated on me the first time after 12 months, again a month later, and was just caught talking to five other women. my kids found pics and i have talked to all but one and have had to listen to how he told them that I am a crazy person that doesn't get that he doesn't want me, that we are seperated, that he told them he loved them and wanted to marry them, to lying about going to work out of town while he left me with his kids. I am so angry. I want to know why, and all he can do is tell me it won't happen again. I have to treat him like our 16yr old. i shouldn't have to do that, so i asked him today if we could go to a support group or counseling and he said no. the reason i suggested this is because he has cheated on every woman he has been with and doesnt' know why...we can't fix it if we don't know whats wrong. i love him and my family, but i am not sure i can deal with this again, and i know it is inevitable. what kills me, is every female friend i have says i am making too much of it that all men cheat???? i need some advice plz My heart goes out to you HB72. If you really can't take it anymore then start doing what it takes to break away. You deserve to be with someone who will treat you better. If he's not even willing to go to counseling to understand why he is unable to be faithful then he is not worth it. Hugs. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 6, 2008 Share Posted June 6, 2008 i need some advice plz Assume that he will not change. Then make your choice based on that. If you can live with his cheating... then stay. If not leave. I think the answer comes down to intimacy. He wont let you in... and the lies are his wall. If you think you can change him... then I pity you. Link to post Share on other sites
MrsHellnoFire Posted June 11, 2008 Share Posted June 11, 2008 How do I know if a guy screws everything is sight? Well, usually his reputation preceeds him. The rumor is good enough for me as I don't want drama or trashy men. Plus, some characteristics are easy to spot in what type of behavior they will likely be involved in .. attitude, cockiness, morals, shyness, a usual propensity towards long-term relationships. I mean, it's not that hard to figure out but some are not easy to spot. I'd watch out for the smooth talkers. Either way, a few conversations and for some it's easier to spot bs than with others. Some are even honest about their past sexcapades. haha Link to post Share on other sites
outofdarkness Posted June 12, 2008 Share Posted June 12, 2008 There ARE some decent men out there! Link to post Share on other sites
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