always the homegirl.

[elephance]

It sounds like he does fancy you. How long have you known him? I don't think you said. Do spend a good amount of time together alone?

 

You mentioned that you become quite aloof, play the drunk card, or it becomes awkward. It sounds to me like when things progress to becoming 'intimate' you are not exactly prepared and then it falls apart. As such, next time you find yourself in a situation like this, just think about where this might lead, or where you want it to lead and act accordingly. You sound bright and resourceful, So I think that you should have no problems. It's just that if you have your eyes open in this regard then perhaps you will be more aware, and then more confident, and then you shall generate for him an awareness of your feelings in turn, which will make him more confident to make a move.

 

I don't think that this can be fixed. I don't think that anything needs to be fixed. It just requires perhaps for you to be aware of how you display affection and when.

 

Hope this helps.

[angelj]

I greatly appreciate your feedback.

 

I often wonder if he does, "fancy me" or if he is just comfortable and treating me as a friend. Although I try not to read too far into simple gestures, at times I feel as though he is trying to cross over the friends zone (just recently I've noticed the casual flirting) but he isn't getting much reassurance on my end.

 

Example - I watched his game one evening and then spent a fun night on the town withanother mutual friend of ours. We had a few drinks (nothing crazy) and when it came time to head home (my car was at his house) he mentioned I should come inside to watch TV. I kept urging him to call out of work the next morning because I wasn't ready to call it a night just yet! His response, "well, give me a good reason why I should and I will. . ." any other dude, I would have jumped on that chance to make a move, however I lose some of my confidence with this guy. Partly because we are chummy and partly because I almost consider him out of my league! (I know this not to be true however) I just lose some confidence around him. We ended up hanging out chummy again at his house where the remarks kept dropping like bombs because I did not reciprocate them. I attempted to leave his bedroom at one point and couldn't get his door open to which he said, "you can't leave. you are forced to say, you are locked in" Again, I blew this off and just laughed. I didn't want to overstay my welcome so I let myself out being kind and mentioning he had to work early to which he replied, "I have to go to bed, I don't WANT to go to bed, but I have to just so you know"

 

I've known him for a number of years. We have many mutual friends. We actually became close by working together one summer a few years ago. Back then I never thought twice about him and I becoming an item. Well, maybe a few times but he was involved and a good number of other girls are always interested. He is pretty aloof to that stuff as well.

 

Gimme what you got loveshackers...thanks again

[elephance]

The choice is yours. Again, I think that you need to take control. Maybe he wants you to... Which means that there might be only one thing for it:

 

Corner him, push him against the wall, and give him a big fat kiss!!

 

You'll be certain to know his feelings then! POW!

[angelj]

lol

 

If I weren't such a chicken ****, I would TOTALLY do such a thing!!!

 

Thanks for your advice. Any other thoughts are welcome!!!