what can i do

[don't know]

I have been with my girl for 1 yr 8 mths, and 4 days ago she broke up with me. we have been fighting for the past couple months because she says she needs more space, i took it as she wanted to leave me, but in reality i think she really just wanted some space. i'm really good to her and romantic, i have been true and always there for her. but i have real trust problems and i tend to be possesive. i was always asking questions like, why were you there, who were you with,what was gong on. i would get mad if her guy freinds called and was constatley looking for reasurance, like will you be with me forever, and when she said yes, id be like really? i would also call all day if i was not with her, so know she left me and i have realized what i was doing to her and what i had, i girl that really loved me and trustworthy and i could not do it. i got really emotional when she broke up and i freaked out, crying, pleading, trying to keep her.now she is telling me that she needed to break up so she knows that she can and that i need to get help with my issues. We have still been talking and i'm pretty much begging for a second chance and telling her i can change, which i truly think i can. her attitude is that she does not know if she ever whants to be together again, she says she still has not tottally given up on me, but that she needs to see a real change for it to happen, but even then that it might not ever happen. she will not commit to giving me a chance, because she doesn't know if she whants to. i'm taking this really hard, i mean i wanted to marry her one day . i cant stop calling her either because i miss her so much, we have spent every night together except for a couple over the past year so i fell this terrible empty space. i started talking with a therapist on her request and for myself, which she said she was proud of me. she is still telling me she loves me and has not given up, but wont say ill get another chance. i really love her, and i think she really loves me, we had the best realationship aside from this problem, but it got to big. i think she is confused but does love me, we are not talking for a couple of days but are having dinner after those days.what can i do to get her back.

[Tony T]

To a woman, having a guy come "begging" to get back with her is sickening and a major turn off...so just stop it and be a man!!!

 

The two of you are totally incompatible. She wants a man who can trust her and who won't be on her butt 24/7 to give constant reports on where she's going, where she is and when she'll be back. She was born a free human being and she wants a man who will honor that fact. She has seen you aren't the person.

 

You may get a chance to show her you are that man...if you make some major changes. No woman in the world wants a man who is insecure and immature. That's just not what makes a woman feel good about the man she is with. So not only will you have to change...and stop bugging her...but somehow you'll have to get the opportunity to show her you have changed. That's provided, of course, you are capable of such change. But right now, you are not her Mr. Right.

 

The ONLY way you'll ever get a chance to show this lady you have changes is to get off her butt, stop calling her, stop emailing her, stop sending her messages, and make yourself scarce. What you are doing is such a major turn off you wouldn't appear sexy to even the most desperate of females.

[lakerfan]

Bro,

 

I'd have to say that your chances of getting her back are slim to none. I believe that once you show the wussy behavior, it's pretty much over. Don't worry, you're not the only one to do it; I'm sure many guys (including myself) have done it at least once in their life. The best thing to do is to move on with your life and chalk this one up for experience. Next time when something like this happens, you know not to make the same mistakes and walk away with your dignity and pride.

 

I know it's not what you want to hear, but welcome to reality.

 

Best of luck,

 

Laker Fan