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[JT]

I first met this woman 5 years ago, it was brief and she is beautiful & always stuck out in my mind. She works for the same company as me but at a higher level. About 4 years ago she became my supervisor and we hit it off as co-workers very well. As time went by we became closer and always spoke to each other about everything almost like we were best friends, at one time our place of employment thought we were dating each other because of our chemistry together. She is in a relationship that is definately not good for her and is always complaining about it around me. I really never give advice, I just listen. I would say that there is some sort of attraction between us, we always flirt but never really take it farther. Her current boyfriend hates me because she constantly talks about me around him. I can remember when her child was born I was one of the 1st people called. I am afraid to say anything to her for two reasons, 1: she is my supervisor, 2: I don't want to lose what we already have. So now what????

[Shirley]

I first met this woman 5 years ago, it was brief and she is beautiful & always stuck out in my mind. She works for the same company as me but at a higher level. About 4 years ago she became my supervisor and we hit it off as co-workers very well. As time went by we became closer and always spoke to each other about everything almost like we were best friends, at one time our place of employment thought we were dating each other because of our chemistry together. She is in a relationship that is definately not good for her and is always complaining about it around me. I really never give advice, I just listen. I would say that there is some sort of attraction between us, we always flirt but never really take it farther. Her current boyfriend hates me because she constantly talks about me around him. I can remember when her child was born I was one of the 1st people called. I am afraid to say anything to her for two reasons, 1: she is my supervisor, 2: I don't want to lose what we already have. So now what????

 

Hi

 

You should go ahead and ask her out. You'll have to ask her outside of work though. Many companies have a policy about managers and supervisors dating employees. This woman enjoys being able to talk to you. And flirting is fun. She may not be happy in her current relationship, but is afraid to break things off. But that is something that she will have to decide for herself. There really isn't anything for you to lose. You want more than just the flirting now. If she's not ready for more than that, then she will back down when you ask her out. But that will be because of her own fears. Not because of anything you do.

[Nicky]

Hi You should go ahead and ask her out. You'll have to ask her outside of work though. Many companies have a policy about managers and supervisors dating employees. This woman enjoys being able to talk to you. And flirting is fun. She may not be happy in her current relationship, but is afraid to break things off. But that is something that she will have to decide for herself. There really isn't anything for you to lose. You want more than just the flirting now. If she's not ready for more than that, then she will back down when you ask her out. But that will be because of her own fears. Not because of anything you do.

Hi!

 

I would say that she certainly has feelings for you. However, despite all the problems with her current boyfriend, she hasn't left him. They have a baby together.

 

Furthermore, whilst you still work together, I think it is a really bad idea to date. What on earth would you discuss in the evenings: you have seen each other all day. It's not the healthiest situation (voice of experience here!). And furthermore, if ever you split up, can you imagine working for her then? It really might not be quite as amicable as you would like. And as your supervisore she might stand to lose a lot if she had an affair with you, including the respect of her colleagues maybe. Is it not possible to look around for another job? Then perhaps you will be in a better position to move things along with her.

 

good luck