LikeCharlotte Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 I have been talking to a few different men since my recent break-up and I am anxious to begin actually dating again. The problem is that despite the fact that I have no lack of interested men I am finding it difficult to really get interested myself. At first I thought my lack of interest was due to recent heartbreak. Then I thought that maybe my tastes have changed. I have spent time with several guys that not long ago gave me a little spark. Now I feel nothing and I find myself just hanging out and not interested in pursuing anything further. My friends have suggested that I might not be ready but I know I am. In the past I have always been able to maintain casual dating relationships but I feel differently now. I don't want to get involved at all unless I see potential for a serious relationship. I want to keep trying but I am getting tired of testing all the flavors when all I already know I want vanilla. I don't want to sit around alone when I can be having a nice time but something has changed inside me and I don't know how to approach dating now. I am not the bar and club type but I do go out on occasion. Lately when I meet someone new or go out with someone I thought had potential I lose interest before I even get past the gate. I find myself seeing all the reasons it wouldn't work right away when I know I haven't even really given it a chance. Am I being too picky? Is it wrong that I don't want to sit around and wait? Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 I've been there. It is like you meet someone and can see the entire relationship happen before even having to go on an actual date. I think it is a sign that you are just not open to the idea of a next relationship right now. That is okay. Actually it can be a good thing if you use the time and observations wisely. Redefine what you want on your terms. Stay away from the Rocky Road. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LikeCharlotte Posted May 29, 2008 Author Share Posted May 29, 2008 I think it is a sign that you are just not open to the idea of a next relationship right now. That is okay. Actually it can be a good thing if you use the time and observations wisely. Redefine what you want on your terms. Stay away from the Rocky Road. It could be.. or I could really just have become even more picky. I'm going to start working on redefining. No Rocky Road for me Link to post Share on other sites
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