Are you sure you want to read this ??- It's really tricky...

[Loss 4 words]

OK...so i'm gonna get it all out there and see what other people think...

 

Is it a good idea to 'hang out ' with my step-father's ex-wife ?? A number of months back, we kinda mad out at a party and really just kinda felt good about being together and just hanging out that night.....and even a few months ago when i ran into her while i was out with my friends, she again pulled me aside and we kissed again....

 

Now yes, granted we were drinking but we both knew what was going on and made the desicsion to do it anyways....and that was that.

 

I've not contacted or seen her since that fateful night and really, i miss her company...more on a friend level than anything else. ( I do have her home phone #{thank you internet} and her email {thanks unbeknownst to my step sister..lol} )

 

So to sum it all up......IS IT WRONG TO WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH HER OR IS THIS JUST SOMETHING THAT I'M GONNA HAVE TO DEAL WITH AND MOVE ON....????

[justagirlforever]

It's really not tricky. It's wrong.

Dangerous grounds. Drop it and move completely on.

[D-Lish]

Questions for ya...

 

Do you like your step father?

Would it bother you if he found out? (because he will)

If so- would you also be prepared to deal with the consequences and awkwardness it could cause?

[Loss 4 words]

Questions for ya...

 

Do you like your step father?

Would it bother you if he found out? (because he will)

If so- would you also be prepared to deal with the consequences and awkwardness it could cause?

 

My step father is cool...we get along pretty good.

 

Would it bother me...uh yeah, it would bother me...quite a bit...and i think my life is awkward right now...can't wait...lol and who's to say that he'll find out...seriously....only my close friend knows about the story and well, i know he'd not tell anyone....at least he batter not.....

 

What could happen....well quite alot could happen...no good things...only pain and suffering...which i seem to be maxed out on right now, so that would be more of a bad thing then....but whatever....sometimes it's harder to let go of things than others and this may as well be one of the latter.

 

Sure, it could all go south and then i'm in trouble, but "greener pastures are tempting" as they say..

 

But I seriously don't see any bad side to this...I'm an adult, I can be freinds with who i want, and i'm sorta willing to take my chances and go for broke.....

[whichwayisup]

How old are you and how old is your step mother?

[Loss 4 words]

How old are you and how old is your step mother?

 

I'm 24 and she is 47 or 48.

[GPFan]

Thank you for the warning in your title. I read it anyway and am a bit miffed with myself.

 

She is twice your age, what do you think she is getting out of this?

[theobserver]

I don't think the age is an issue here. Many YM/OW (Younger Man/Older Woman) relationships can work just like all relationships have their issues, race, political views, class etc etc usual bull**** it's about the love.

 

HOWEVER, this situation is so f*cked up with her being your step-dads ex I wouldn't touch it with a barge pole. Ex or not she's crossing boundries as are you. I can understand you want to be friends but come on what you really mean is your hoping she's going to remember that kiss and eventually you can both get it on. On your head be it but be aware your step-father will resent you even if he is I presume still with your mother?

(possibly your mum will resent you too? sorry I haven't read any past messages for family history if any)

 

As a step-dad myself I wonder how I would feel in the situation. I personally would not care if you were friends with her but if you moved on to date her I would think it was because you hated me or something and this was some sort of ultimate payback I dunno, if he's a level headed guy speak to him. I'm sure you'll work something out.

 

Good Luck

[Loss 4 words]

I don't think the age is an issue here. Many YM/OW (Younger Man/Older Woman) relationships can work just like all relationships have their issues, race, political views, class etc etc usual bull**** it's about the love.

 

HOWEVER, this situation is so f*cked up with her being your step-dads ex I wouldn't touch it with a barge pole. Ex or not she's crossing boundries as are you. I can understand you want to be friends but come on what you really mean is your hoping she's going to remember that kiss and eventually you can both get it on. On your head be it but be aware your step-father will resent you even if he is I presume still with your mother?

(possibly your mum will resent you too? sorry I haven't read any past messages for family history if any)

 

As a step-dad myself I wonder how I would feel in the situation. I personally would not care if you were friends with her but if you moved on to date her I would think it was because you hated me or something and this was some sort of ultimate payback I dunno, if he's a level headed guy speak to him. I'm sure you'll work something out.

 

Good Luck

 

Yes, my Mother and my Step-Father (dad) are still together. And from what I know is that neither of them care for her (dad's ex) and well, they don't know anything and won't...it's easier that way.

 

I'm not sure what I want...friends is always good but i also keep in mind that she is who she is and well, that'll cause me trouble i the future. Could i 'date' her...no, not with a clear consice...something that i pride myself on, yet conflict alot. Right now all i'm looking for is to make a friend...as I don't have many of them anymore.

 

What happened happened and i don't regret it....people do crazy stuff when they are drunk ( 7 beers and 10 shots deep myself) and well....looking back i might have handled it differently, but....that's the beauty of hind sight.