LL23 Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 I went down to Florida last year to get away for awhile from stress back home. I started waitressing down there to pay my bills. I met this guy that I waited on and we were head over heels for eachother right away. He had just moved to Florida also and we hung out that night @ the beach and walked for 3 hours talking. He grew up on his own since 13 and and a lot of baggage in his life. He hadnt been with anyone in 5 years...he was in the navy, so he was 21 @ the time. Im already 25, but I really liked this guy. We started hanging out every day and became serious pretty quickly. We went to the Bahamas together and were both extremely happy. He got along great with my father and everything was great. So, I had to go back to my homestate i nthe long run bcuz my job was going downhill and im not florida licensed. We stayed together for months after that but we started to argue bcuz we couldnt see eachother. He broke up with me one night and i flew down to florida and left him a message to meet me. He showed up and we talked and cried and everything was perfect again. I went back home and he said he was going to come see me soon. We talked everyday and eventually months later i lost it and got fed p with the fact that he wasnt visiting so i broke up with him. He said some hurtful things and started calling every day saying he should have married me and he didnt feel like he was good enough for me. I would answer and we would talk and he would cry on the phone, but i would just say come visit me thats all!!! Months went by of this and he dissapeared. I couldnt get a hold of him for 2 months and realized that i was still in love with him and moved down to florida, showed up @ his work and he was shaking and crying and said he met someone else and he loves her, nad that life was simple now and she made him happy....while he was saying this he was saying he still has feelings and still loves me but he couldnt do it anymore. It literally killed me. That was 3 weeks ago and i avent heard from him. What i dont understand is how he was so "in love" with me and he loves this girl.....any advice @ all??? Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 LL23, Welcome to the forum. So sorry to hear of the ordeal you've been going through. I know you feel like the wind has been knocked out of you, but if I were you, I would be thankful I found out now that this guy didn't have what it takes (no pun intended) to go the distance. Yes, LDRs are hard. They're a lot of work, and they aren't for the faint of heart. However, so is any relationship -- especially marriage. If you were so easily replaced in this guy's mind, do you really think the same thing wouldn't have happened at some point in time, if you had married him? TBH, it sounds to me that it really didn't matter to him who was by his side, as long as *someone* was. Perhaps his difficult upbringing is part of the reason for this. Because of all the baggage he has, chances are it's going to be a long time, if ever, that he gets his head sorted out. You were right to break up with him -- your gut wasn't steering you wrong. You're only 25 -- you have plenty of time to find someone who's right for you. Don't waste any more time thinking about this loser. You deserve and will find someone who won't think twice of making a trip to see you because all that matters is being together with you. Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
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