rose45 Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 i was talking to my boyfriend and i heard something so i asked--do you have another call? and he said yeah but it can wait..after a minute or two, i said why didn't you want to get it? and he said it wasn't his family or his boss so it can wait. The next morning i had the urge to snoop. I donot see the call in his log. His phone records all calls. For example, if you call a person twice, it does not cancel out the previous dialed call to that person or in general..it will show both. Obviously the person's call would be a missed call but nothing appears. I asked if he called the person back by the way and he said yeah and i asked who it was and he just said a guy a from work. Is this suspicous or am I being paranoid and overly concerned? I don't know what to think of this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted May 31, 2008 Author Share Posted May 31, 2008 is you are on the phone and another call comes through and you don't get it, does it always save it in the phone? I just found it weird how it is not in his log. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted May 31, 2008 Author Share Posted May 31, 2008 noone has thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Maybe it doesn't show calls that come through on call waiting. I'm not sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted May 31, 2008 Author Share Posted May 31, 2008 i'm pretty sure his does..thats the problem Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Do a test. take his phone when you have a chance call his voicemailfrom his phone then call his phone from another phone while you are on his phone stay on it until it misses the call. then hang up all lines and see if it recorded the missed call...then you will have your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 I ignore calls all the time in front of my husband, that doesn't mean I am cheating on him it just means that if I don't know who it is I can't be bothered sometimes. Though snooping means that you have a feeling he is up to something anywa Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted May 31, 2008 Author Share Posted May 31, 2008 porter, i am already very sure it will show up as a missed call just from being him using the phone etc etc tikigods, the fact he ignored while i was on the phone with him isn't that big of a deal..its the fact the missed call is not there leading me to think he deleted it. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 I was just suggesting that you make sure before jumping to conclusions. I regularily snoop through my husbands phone and when he was cheating on me he would come home with missing calls out of his call log. If you have access to his phone account you should check out his call log on his bill. This year most companies have made incoming calls listed on the bill with the number showing. Alot of men don't realize that has changed and still think deleting incoming calls is good enough. Try checking his account online. even prepaid phones have details available online. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted May 31, 2008 Author Share Posted May 31, 2008 i'm fairly certain it does show the log i donot have access to his phone bill. so he is more than likely doing something wrong/ cheating..whatever the case may be. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Just keep a closer eye on him. Keep count of the calls in his call log.most phones keep an even number of calls in the call log find out how many it keeps then check every once in awhile and see if there are more missing calls. Just don't let him know how closely you are watching him, because then he will cover his tracks better. Just try to stay calm and remember it still is possible that whatever it is really isn't that bad. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted May 31, 2008 Author Share Posted May 31, 2008 a cell phone always keeps the same amount of calls in the all calls log? what else suspected you he was cheating? i guess its always hard to tell..its hard for me to act normal around him now. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Without other serious reasons to mistrust your BF, you have absolutely no right to search through his telephones memory.. address book, etc. By your own description he is your Boyfriend... not your husband who you know to be a cheater, or even your finacee who you know to be a cheater. He is your "boyfriend" who deserves his privacy. The telephone is his private property. Leave it alone! Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted May 31, 2008 Author Share Posted May 31, 2008 i know its not ok to snoop but i did and this is what i found lakeside, you don't see it as odd in any way that the call is not there? i know its wrong what i did..but i did and found this..you think its nothing? the other person who posted said they found out a person was cheating because calls were missing Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 LMAO...yes it is OK to snoop. If the man has a problem with that he is hideing something. However it is only ok if you alow him to do the same. as to the other things that made me think he might be cheating. Sometimes he didn't answer his phone when I called for 45 min I would call with no answer then when he finally did he would say his phone didn't ring. So when I wanted to know if that was true I would count his missed calles in the morning at 20 then during the day he ignored some calls and said the same story..so when I counted missed calls when he got home it would be 17 missed calls. yes the phone keeps exactly the same # of calls some phones 20 some 120 but be carefull my husbands new phone 60 outgoing and 60 incoming but only 59 missed. so make sure you know what it holds before getting worried. or if it is a relatively new phone he may not have filled the call logs yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rose45 Posted June 1, 2008 Author Share Posted June 1, 2008 i dont know what to do though..i think he may have deleted it..maybe he didn't want me worked up over something innocent..or maybe he is emotionally/physically cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
biffster Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Rose, sometimes when another call clicks in while you are talking to someone else, the "intruding" new incoming call doesn't get recorded on the phone log .... the new incoming call will not show up on the phone ... it's as if the phone were turned off ... missed calls or incoming calls never get recorded when the phone is "off" or when there is another call in progress when it beeps in ... ... as for your being paranoid ... I don't know ... but I would not use this as evidence of him hiding a number .. really and truly .. just let this one go .. Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Whoa. Let it go already. If it's really bothering you, just go up to him and ask. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 i know its not ok to snoop but i did and this is what i found lakeside, you don't see it as odd in any way that the call is not there? i know its wrong what i did..but i did and found this..you think its nothing? the other person who posted said they found out a person was cheating because calls were missing Rose you didn't find anything... you found NOTHING and that's what has you upset. How about this: Inform your boyfriend that you believe it is your right as a girlfriend to check his cell phone address book or memory at any time without prior notice. Explain that it is your right because you choose to be his girlfriend, and if he wants you to continue to be his girlfriend he will agree to allow it. I even suggest that you extend this to his home phone, computers and all other technical devices or written notebooks. If he agree's, have at it. Oh.. you might want to start looking for a new boyfriend too. Link to post Share on other sites
biffster Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 My thoughts exactly .. and while you are add it .... might as well stick a GPS monitor up his butt too ! No, I am just kidding ... don't mean to be cruel ... but, the point is - if you are that suspicious of him ... you should perhaps question your relationship and weather or not you have deeper trust issues ... ... you need to explore this ... relationships are difficult for people with trust issues, and unless he has given you reason not to trust him .. these are issues that you must work through for yourself ... for the sake of this relationship and any others you may have going forward. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 JMO, you've already convinced yourself the call that came in that he didn't answer had been deleted, so I think you have your answer. Are you looking for someone else to kind of confirm how you already may feel? If there is that much mistrust, might be time to think about why you're still with him. Link to post Share on other sites
puppycat Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 whoa...calm down and let this guy live his life. if you keep him on such a short leash you are going to drive him away!!! it sounds like you have absolutely nothing to worry about. being so insecure and accusational will make him realize that he might as well cheat on you since he's guilty until proven innocent. Link to post Share on other sites
OceanBlue Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Geez, I hope no one uses my call logs to determine if I am cheating. Sometimes I delete missed calls, sometimes I delete all calls, sometimes I keep text messages, sometimes I delete them, sometimes I delete most but not all... There would never be any rhyme or reason to what is in the logs on my phone... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Rose, I highly recommend some therapy for addressing the constant paranoia about your bf cheating. No one can live like this. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Rose most likely you are concerned about this missed call because there is something else bothering you about your relationship. But like I was saying before not all phones record calls when you are on the other line and some may sometimes but not all the time. What else is it he is doing that has you worried he is cheating? Link to post Share on other sites
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