Do you hate everything about your life ?

[MaxManwell]

I hate everything about my life and it makes me want to hurt people.

 

Have you, or do you hate everything about your life and how did you improve ? are you still after many years still hating everything ?

 

Or did you get used to it and trick yourself into believing that you are happy ?

[Geishawhelk]

It's not life that's the problem.

It's your attitude.

happiness, or unhappiness, is a choice.

people don't believe me when I say this, but it's true.

Just like hurting people or not hurting them, is your choice.

 

If you hurt them, it's because you feel you have some right to.

They don't see it that way.

They wonder - "What the heck's the matter with you?!"

So it is YOU. Not Life.

 

I am extremely happy.

And it's no trick.

Are things wonderful? Fantastic. enjoy it while it lasts.

Are things terrible? Bummer. Endure it while it lasts.

Both end, sooner or later.

 

It's a cliche metaphor, but life is exactly like a vast ocean of waves, peaks and troughs.... sometimes it billows and froths excitedly, other times it's just deep and dark.

The secret is to not be a Sufferer, but to be a surfer.

[MaxManwell]

Happiness is an attitude and a choice if you decide not to understand logic.

 

I have not much. Other people have a lot of things.

 

Therefore I am unhappy.

[BiAxident]

If you are able to log-on to the internet to post a message on this site, I can only assume that you are doing so from the comfort of a home. This home probably includes a roof, well constructed walls, electricity, food, and indoor plumbing featuring clean, drinkable water which can have it's temperature adjusted with the flick of a wrist. I might also wager that you have access to television and some sort of radio broadcasts.

 

If all of this is true, you have a lot more than billions of people on this planet. If even half of it is true, you are still wealthy by the standards of millions. Yet, you are choosing to focus on what you don't have. This in turn is probably preventing you from getting what you claim to want.

 

I'll bet the earthquake victims in China or the refugees in Darfur might like to trade places with you.

[MaxManwell]

If you are able to log-on to the internet to post a message on this site, I can only assume that you are doing so from the comfort of a home. This home probably includes a roof, well constructed walls, electricity, food, and indoor plumbing featuring clean, drinkable water which can have it's temperature adjusted with the flick of a wrist. I might also wager that you have access to television and some sort of radio broadcasts.

 

If all of this is true, you have a lot more than billions of people on this planet. If even half of it is true, you are still wealthy by the standards of millions. Yet, you are choosing to focus on what you don't have. This in turn is probably preventing you from getting what you claim to want.

 

I'll bet the earthquake victims in China or the refugees in Darfur might like to trade places with you.

 

That doesn;'t help me at all I am not chinese and I am not african.

 

If what you say is true people would have stopped somewhere around the dark ages and gone ' well we have food, lets be happy now' it doesn't work like that everything is relative.

[MaxManwell]

If you are able to log-on to the internet to post a message on this site, I can only assume that you are doing so from the comfort of a home. This home probably includes a roof, well constructed walls, electricity, food, and indoor plumbing featuring clean, drinkable water which can have it's temperature adjusted with the flick of a wrist. I might also wager that you have access to television and some sort of radio broadcasts.

 

If all of this is true, you have a lot more than billions of people on this planet. If even half of it is true, you are still wealthy by the standards of millions. Yet, you are choosing to focus on what you don't have. This in turn is probably preventing you from getting what you claim to want.

 

I'll bet the earthquake victims in China or the refugees in Darfur might like to trade places with you.

 

I just want to be good and to be in charge of people I want to be better than other people. I want to boss women around in an office I want to have more knowledge than other people. I don't like being a suboordinate to EVERYONE and I don't care much that I am asking a lot. If you are happy being everyone else's biatch thats fine by you but I am not content I want to be the best but I am FAILING.

 

Has anyone had a similar experience ??

 

Has ANYONE been bad and then became good ????

[Pedigree]

Have you, or do you hate everything about your life and how did you improve ? are you still after many years still hating everything ?

 

Closest thing I've been to this was 2 years ago when I was at my heaviest. I was teased, didn't have confidence, not to mention the fact that I was an introvert. Now, I've dropped the pounds (closing in on normal weight) and people hear my voice more.

 

How did I improve? Just chip away at your weaknesses until it's barely there or it's gone.

[Geishawhelk]

I just want to be good and to be in charge of people I want to be better than other people. I want to boss women around in an office I want to have more knowledge than other people. I don't like being a suboordinate to EVERYONE and I don't care much that I am asking a lot. If you are happy being everyone else's biatch thats fine by you but I am not content I want to be the best but I am FAILING.

 

Has anyone had a similar experience ??

 

Has ANYONE been bad and then became good ????

Oh good grief, for goodness' sake...

I want I want, I want!

Wanting alone is obviously not doing it for you!

 

Why do you want to be in charge of other people? (this does not bring happiness. it brings added responsibility, worries and stress.)

Why do you want to be better than other people? (you're not, and you never will be. Neither by the way, is anyone else, including me. I am no better than anyone else, and no-one is better than me...)

Why do you want to "boss women around in an office"? (This is probably the most stupid thing I have heard anyone ever say.... Why women? Why in an office? What's with the ego, Power-trip? Have you any idea how ridiculous that sounds...?)

You want to have more knowledge than other people?

And do what with it? generally, or specificaslly? Knowledge about what? Engineering? Knitting? Gardening? Nuclear Physics?

Try opening a book and start reading.....

If you're a subordinate to "Everyone" then make moves to gain promotion, or move to a company that will give you that opportunity.

You may well be asking a lot, but nobody's going to hand it to you on a platter.

These things need to be worked for, studied for and attacked with enthusiasm, vigour and determination.

 

There's the key phrase.

YOU are failing.

Everyone else seems to be doing OK.

So what does that tell you?

 

Instead of wailing about it, ask successful people in your office how they got to be where they are....

Put your energy into bringing yourself up to speed...

It's all very well bemoaning your situation, but you have to get up and go for what you want.

 

Has anyone had a similar experience ??

 

Has ANYONE been bad and then became good ????

 

That's why I'm responding. Been there, done that, read the book, seen the film, got the T-Shirt.

[MaxManwell]

No one ever really moves up do they.

[Geishawhelk]

In what sense....?

[Storyrider]

No one ever really moves up do they.

That is silly. If this was 19th Century England, you could say that.

[Lizzie60]

I hate everything about my life and it makes me want to hurt people.

 

Have you, or do you hate everything about your life and how did you improve ? are you still after many years still hating everything ?

 

Or did you get used to it and trick yourself into believing that you are happy ?

 

WOW what's wrong with people????

 

Are you sick? handicapped? crippled? hungry? dying from cancer? no roof over your head?

 

If you answer NO to those questions... then you're whining.. get you azz out there and help people who need help, volunteer, exercice, DO something, instead of brewing your misery..

[LucreziaBorgia]

I recently came out of that mindset, and have an entirely new perspective on things. I have the same things as I did before, but changing my perspective really helped to give me the motivation to make some real changes.

 

I hated the weight that I gained because of the steroids in my chemo cocktails - I joined Tae Kwon Do and am working my ass off, and changed my eating habits

I was unhappy in a dead end relationship - I got over it and reconciled with a man who truly makes me happy

I was dissatisfied with my job - I am going to graduate school to pull together my past experience and form a career I will like

I was unhappy with my apartment - I redid it and bought new things for it

My car is a piece of crap - I am saving up and building credit to get a new one

etc. etc.

 

I was unhappy, completely unmotivated to do anything about it and then *wham*, I get cancer. Then I found out just how far down real unhappiness can go. Once I came out the other side, I realized that all of my unhappiness was there by choice, and all I needed to do was choose not to be and take steps to change things.

 

I guess I was one of those stubborn "my life sucks" people who didn't see that I had any choices, and that my life sucked because of the choices I made, and that the only person to pull me out of it is me. I chose my way into that mire, I'm choosing my way out.

 

Sometimes it takes a serious kick in the ass to reset priorities and get the motivation to make real changes. I know that is what it took for me.

[BiAxident]

Sometimes it takes a serious kick in the ass to reset priorities and get the motivation to make real changes. I know that is what it took for me.

 

Very well spoken! Not to mention a great example! Kudos to you!

[Pyro]

I hate everything about my life and it makes me want to hurt people.

 

Have you, or do you hate everything about your life and how did you improve ? are you still after many years still hating everything ?

 

Or did you get used to it and trick yourself into believing that you are happy ?

 

Like others have said, its all about your attitude.

 

First thing you have to do is to accept how your life is at this moment and make the changes that you feel are needed to make you feel better about yourself. Those changes will more than likely take some time, but if you try hard enough you will get results.

[Karyyk]

I just want to be good and to be in charge of people I want to be better than other people. I want to boss women around in an office I want to have more knowledge than other people. I don't like being a suboordinate to EVERYONE and I don't care much that I am asking a lot. If you are happy being everyone else's biatch thats fine by you but I am not content I want to be the best but I am FAILING.

 

Has anyone had a similar experience ??

 

Has ANYONE been bad and then became good ????

 

So basically you're saying that you want to be a pompous a$$?

 

Personally I'm hoping you don't get what you want. That's me being an a$$...

 

Sorry, but your motivations sound all wrong. You may just want to rethink your priorities.

[BiAxident]

I just want to be good and to be in charge of people I want to be better than other people. I want to boss women around in an office I want to have more knowledge than other people. I don't like being a suboordinate to EVERYONE and I don't care much that I am asking a lot. If you are happy being everyone else's biatch thats fine by you but I am not content I want to be the best but I am FAILING.

 

So, you want to hurt people because you can't boss others around, or be "better" than they are? It sounds like you have some serious growing up to do.

[MaxManwell]

What ? So hateful.

 

I said I wanted knowledge too doesn't that count for something ? I am not entirely shallow, just mostly. What is so wrong with being honest every once in a while ? I am a man I have testicles; they make me want to do things, they make me want to be dominant, especially of women.

 

On a side note: There is a reason all secretaries are female and its is because guys like me love bossing around women. Why servers, cashiers... retails, are all female and it is because men like me enjoy being jerks to women.

 

I want for selfish reasons but so many people have many things I can only dream of right now. What is wrong with a little guy like me with relatively not much, getting a little bit angry and admitting yeah, my life does suck.

[MaxManwell]

So, you want to hurt people because you can't boss others around, or be "better" than they are? It sounds like you have some serious growing up to do.

 

No I have grown up and I realise how foolish I was to want to be a good person in the first place. There is an evolutionary imperative to help people who we are close to but thats it. Beyond that you're just playing to your own ego and sense of self satisfaction. I definently would help someone in need but, yes, I do want to be better than other people. Why the hell wouldn't I want to be ?

 

I am a strong supporter of high minimum wages; not because I give a damn about the people end up working for the minimum wage, but because I believe there are good economic and social reasons to have a high minimum wage.

[Mustang Sally]

I'll say this (again?): you sound like you need help on the order of greater than what you can glean from an internet chat board.

 

Good luck with....that.

 

And to answer the original question: No. I absolutely do not hate every/any-thing about my life.

[Geishawhelk]

What ? So hateful.

 

I said I wanted knowledge too doesn't that count for something ?

Yes, but it's up to you to learn. Nobody can give you knowledge can they? This is something you have to cultivate for yourself....

 

I am not entirely shallow, just mostly. What is so wrong with being honest every once in a while ?

No I think your perception is somewhat flawed. I think you are coming across as entirely shallow.

There's nothing wrong with honesty, providing it is based on logic, reason and good information. Your honesty is based on a misguided perception that the world owes you something, for relatively little input or effort from you.

The things you want are also hollow and ephemeral, and you think will bring you happiness.

Wrong again.

They may well bring you pleasure, but it will be fleeting, transitory and founded almost entirely upon the subjugation of others. So what you want will also make you extremely unpopular.....

 

 

I am a man I have testicles; they make me want to do things, they make me want to be dominant, especially of women.

Oh this is a great chat-up line. I'd use it as often as you can, let us know how you get on...

Correction:

let us know what hospital you're in after she's run you over. We'll send grapes and flowers.

Word of advice: Don't touch up the nurses.

That will only prolong your stay.

With broken fingers.

And you're likely to lose those testicles too.

With any luck......

 

On a side note: There is a reason all secretaries are female and its is because guys like me love bossing around women. Why servers, cashiers... retails, are all female and it is because men like me enjoy being jerks to women .

Painfully, laughingly incorrect.

The reason men don't do these jobs is because they don't have the attention span, staying power or willingness to do these jobs. They are absolutely vital to the continuation of the economy.

See how long 'bosses' last without their secretaries, servers and cashiers.

It's due to the hard diligent work of women in these jobs, that the country is not on its knees.

 

Jerk?! Yes, I like that....

 

 

I want for selfish reasons but so many people have many things I can only dream of right now. What is wrong with a little guy like me with relatively not much, getting a little bit angry and admitting yeah, my life does suck.

Because it's all your fault your life is like that.

And actually, when you look at the alternatives you're dreaming of, and the reasons for them, I hope it stays this way for a very, very long time.

because a person with your attitude and mentality deserves all you're getting.

 

Boy, you had better shape up and get real!

[MaxManwell]

Yes, but it's up to you to learn. Nobody can give you knowledge can they? This is something you have to cultivate for yourself....

 

 

No I think your perception is somewhat flawed. I think you are coming across as entirely shallow.

There's nothing wrong with honesty, providing it is based on logic, reason and good information. Your honesty is based on a misguided perception that the world owes you something, for relatively little input or effort from you.

The things you want are also hollow and ephemeral, and you think will bring you happiness.

Wrong again.

They may well bring you pleasure, but it will be fleeting, transitory and founded almost entirely upon the subjugation of others. So what you want will also make you extremely unpopular.....

 

 

 

Oh this is a great chat-up line. I'd use it as often as you can, let us know how you get on...

Correction:

let us know what hospital you're in after she's run you over. We'll send grapes and flowers.

Word of advice: Don't touch up the nurses.

That will only prolong your stay.

With broken fingers.

And you're likely to lose those testicles too.

With any luck......

 

 

Painfully, laughingly incorrect.

The reason men don't do these jobs is because they don't have the attention span, staying power or willingness to do these jobs. They are absolutely vital to the continuation of the economy.

See how long 'bosses' last without their secretaries, servers and cashiers.

It's due to the hard diligent work of women in these jobs, that the country is not on its knees.

 

Jerk?! Yes, I like that....

 

 

 

Because it's all your fault your life is like that.

And actually, when you look at the alternatives you're dreaming of, and the reasons for them, I hope it stays this way for a very, very long time.

because a person with your attitude and mentality deserves all you're getting.

 

Boy, you had better shape up and get real!

 

Anything you say loses credibility when you say men don't have the attention span or whatever else to be a server or a secretary. You're pretty sexist.

 

No one has any advice other than the staple tool of oppression 'no one will hand you anything' ?

 

No one actually knows anything ? they just have a bunch of half baked opinions and moral suggestions ?

[Geishawhelk]

THERE'S THE POT CALLING THE KETTLE BLACK!!!

 

Me - ?! Sexist? Oh many things perhaps, but trust me - I am definitely not that!!

 

 

Men are better at some things than women.

Women are better at some things than men.

Men need women.

Women need men.

 

But to suggest that women are servers, secretaries and cashiers because men enjoy being jerks to women like this, is far more sexist than my comment.

at least I had good reason to post what I posted, and clarified.

you, by your own admission, are just a jerk.

And a sexist one, at that.

[Geishawhelk]

No one has any advice other than the staple tool of oppression 'no one will hand you anything' ?

 

No one actually knows anything ? they just have a bunch of half baked opinions and moral suggestions ?

 

well, on the basis of the advice we've given you, let me ask you three things:

 

Where are we wrong?

 

How is "No-one will hand you anything" a 'staple tool of oppression'...?

Where is the error in the statement?

 

What do you intend to do about it?

[american-woman]

I hate everything about my life and it makes me want to hurt people.

 

Have you, or do you hate everything about your life and how did you improve ? are you still after many years still hating everything ?

 

Or did you get used to it and trick yourself into believing that you are happy ?

 

 

Have you thought of counseling? That may help to get to the roots of your feelings and sometimes its a genetic thing.