Being forced to move out soon. May be pushed into LDR

[BearHugger]

I was just here about a week ago... our problems are getting better? Slowly but surely... My jealousy has been a little more under control than it was, thanks to the advice of a few people.

 

 

But now I am facing something much greater, that I have feared for about a year now. I know it's coming, but am not sure how to grasp it.

 

 

In about... *counts* 8 months I will be needing to move out of my mom's apartment. I have 8 months of freedom to save up my pennies and decide on a place to stay. Unfortunately, the area my boyfriend and me live in, is extremely expensive to live out on your own.

 

 

I keep talking to him about wanting to move somewhere warmer, but hate the idea of an LDR. Moving south, where it's warmer, or possibly just eastern area of the state - 4 hour drive away. This idea frightens me, but I am sick of my hometown, and he....I just found out last night, can't move in with me 8 months from now. He says he won't have the money.

 

 

Since our time together has been cut down (he has been working a LOT), we got to see each other last night and try to make the most out of it. I ruined the conversation by bringing up moving in... I asked him if he was ever going to move in with me. He said "Eventually it will happen! Just not right away" what am I supposed to take that as?

 

And you know, I would have been fine... I mean, originally it was my plan to move to the eastern part of the state, out on my own - but 6 months into the relationship, HE was the one who brought up moving in someday. The idea grew on me, and now I feel like I got my hopes up.

 

 

I don't feel like I can talk to him anymore than I have about this... I'm pretty sure it's only scaring him away. He seems like he wants this to work out, and want things to move forward. I don't want to seem like the woman that's "pushing things too fast" scaaary!

 

I am just sooo scared of LDR's.

 

Should I try to talk to him more about this? I would like some sort of hope, a time frame, anything...? to keep me from feeling like I am moving away from him for good.

 

The roommate idea would have been good but I really do not want to stay in my hometown anymore! Nor do I know anyone as an option for that.