yellowone Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 My lady & I hhave been together 2 years. I really feel ready to start making plans about buying an engagement ring and what not. However, I have an insecurity thats really bugging me. My lady classifies herself as straight but she's bi-curious. She's had 2 prior experiences with women and she really wants to do it again. She's won't consider me being involved with another girl so a 3some is out of the question. Here comes the kicker to this issue. Ordinarily any guy would not have an issue with this. However, since my girl isn't loose so to speak she has to get to know this girl and spend time talking with her, feel her out before they make it to the bedroom. Well that's a whole nother relationship and it makes me jealous. It hasn't happened yet as she hasn't found a person who she feels is safe and her type. However, what happens if later on in life she finds a female that she wants to spend LOTS of time with? She says its not like that. She could never live that lifestyle and just wants to indulge occasionally but I'm having trouble dealing. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Being Bi doesn't absolve you from fidelity. If you don't like it and it feels like getting cheated on, she doesn't get to wave those feelings away simply because its a vagina and not a penis. It is still another person and you're looking for a monogamous relationship. No room for sex on the side in a monogamous relationship. If you should be okay with her pursuing another woman every now and then, she should be okay with you doing the same. I'm betting she won't agree to that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yellowone Posted June 1, 2008 Author Share Posted June 1, 2008 wow! So very well put. Dan Savage couldn't have said it better. Thanks you've given me a perspective that I had forgotten about. Monagamy. Link to post Share on other sites
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