Exl Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 It took him FOURTEEN YEARS to make the call. Eheh! It probably did you feel good anyway, I bet! Link to post Share on other sites
method Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 it sounds like you broke up with him for much the same reasons as my ex dumped me. i wasnt as bad as to say i didnt care for her life because i did but i did spend a bit too much time with my friends and she felt neglected. Its been a month and i really want her back as i realise how wonderful my ex girlfriend was, id do anything to show her how much she means to me and would continue to do it. she said she just wants to be friends at the moment as shes too hurt by me to meet. i would say a big YES, by my ex leaving me i know exactly how much ive screwed up by letting this amazing girl go, and would do anything for a second chance. Link to post Share on other sites
stlnsmile Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 In my case no. Obviously, he has replaced me. I am replacable. He is doing all the things with her he did with me. He didn't blink an eyelash. And I guess I finally figured out I ment very little to him. Why I loved someone I ment so little to is a mystery I will never figure out. I guess it was because he was acting the whole time. Anyway, when I figured out I was replaceable, and obviously he felt no wrong about leaving me and putting another in my shoes, I was done. I am not replacable, and I am not dispendable. And anyone who thinks that, does not deserve my time or my love. But believe me, he has no clue what he's lost and he does not regret anything. Link to post Share on other sites
orangehose Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 While I'd like to think my ex will realize what he threw away, I sort of doubt he will. He wasn't in love with me, he cheated on me, he's screwing someone new. At best, he may feel guilty for having treated me so badly in the end and for being such a lying hypocrite. I know he likes to think of himself as a "good guy" but what he did just blows to smithereens that self-image. My wish at this point is that one day he will offer me a sincere apology for having been such an asshat. I further hope that when he does, I will be happily coupled with an emotionally available, wonderful man who adores me, while he struggles through a series of unfulfilling relationships, never really achieving true happiness or intimacy because he's never faced his own issues. This just about summarizes my view of the situation - I guess I'm okay with him not regretting the breakup, but I hope he feels bad at least for the MANNER in which he broke up with me and how he acted afterwards - pretty much jerk behavior on his part. My guy always thought of himself as such a good guu as well - very odd! Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 I hope he does realise it was his loss when his life goes to hell in a handbasket and he knows he threw away something that could have been the best thing ever.........for something that turned out to be just the same ol same ol so sad, too bad - his choice Link to post Share on other sites
foxh1234 Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 I used to wonder if she will miss me or miss what we had but it is fruitless. It does me no good and I choose to not think of it anymore. maybe years from now I will contact her and have a drink and I will ask her, like in the movie High Fidelity. Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Every situation is different... wondering about it does get pretty fruitles.. FWIW I did get a sort of apology call form my ex wife. It had been about 5 months NC.. She said she was sorry for the way things ended (she planned behind my back and moved out with any warning or even talk about divorce) She was sorry we couldn't reach out to each other when we needed to. She said that at one time I was the love of her life. Told me she wished the best for me in my life. To be honest... it didn't make me feel that much better.. maybe more confused. Link to post Share on other sites
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