submeow Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 When you know she's doing it based on you not meeting her needs, or her being jealous of something you are doing. Example: her messaging other guys on social networking sites so they respond on her wall for you to see. This occurring out of the ordinary and you know she is bothered by something you did. Also if you accuse her, she replies claiming she has no idea what you are talking about, followed by her playing the "you don't trust me" card. When you know she's doing it to get a rise from you, when she wants to see if you will go crazy. What's the best method to respond that will let her know you know what she is doing? Something that will teach her that is not the way to communicate when she has a problem. You have tried talking to her about this before and she just gets pissed and denies doing it on purpose. Link to post Share on other sites
GPFan Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 Then ignore her when she does this. If you can, find a reason to calmly leave or move to another room and engage in a favourite activity. You won't be satisfying her need to see a jealous display. If you remove yourself from her presence each and every time, she will experience the opposite of what she desires. Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 When you know she's doing it based on you not meeting her needs, or her being jealous of something you are doing. Example: her messaging other guys on social networking sites so they respond on her wall for you to see. This occurring out of the ordinary and you know she is bothered by something you did. Also if you accuse her, she replies claiming she has no idea what you are talking about, followed by her playing the "you don't trust me" card. When you know she's doing it to get a rise from you, when she wants to see if you will go crazy. What's the best method to respond that will let her know you know what she is doing? Something that will teach her that is not the way to communicate when she has a problem. You have tried talking to her about this before and she just gets pissed and denies doing it on purpose. Then break up with her, that ish should not be tolerated. Link to post Share on other sites
Siphon9a Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 If she denies it and you know it to be truth and keeps lying. Well I'd just kindly explain if she can't talk with you honestly like an adult and wants to play games, you will just let her be so you aren't lied to anymore and she can message all the guys she wants with a free conscious and doesn't have to lie anymore. That way she can get all the attention she wants without any attachment to someone who might actually give a damn about her. GOD I hate that school girl crap!! Link to post Share on other sites
SpikeyChick Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 When you know she's doing it based on you not meeting her needs, or her being jealous of something you are doing. Example: her messaging other guys on social networking sites so they respond on her wall for you to see. This occurring out of the ordinary and you know she is bothered by something you did. Also if you accuse her, she replies claiming she has no idea what you are talking about, followed by her playing the "you don't trust me" card. When you know she's doing it to get a rise from you, when she wants to see if you will go crazy. What's the best method to respond that will let her know you know what she is doing? Something that will teach her that is not the way to communicate when she has a problem. You have tried talking to her about this before and she just gets pissed and denies doing it on purpose. The first thing that you need to do is to realize that her behavior is CRAP and the second thing that you need to believe is that you have been a pussy for tolerating ONE second of this juvenile crap. You do this - YOU WALK AWAY without another word. Young women like this are unfit to be in relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 If she denies it and you know it to be truth and keeps lying. Well I'd just kindly explain if she can't talk with you honestly like an adult and wants to play games, you will just let her be so you aren't lied to anymore and she can message all the guys she wants with a free conscious and doesn't have to lie anymore. That way she can get all the attention she wants without any attachment to someone who might actually give a damn about her. GOD I hate that school girl crap!! This might have an effect. Call her on her behavior and explain how it is unacceptable and why. If she gaslights you or makes you seem unreasonable then give her the consequence of not rewarding her games by continuing to date her. Back it up with a consequence. Ignoring it might only cause it to escalate, or this behavior will just resurface again at some other point. Exhibiting the same behavior to her (i.e. messaging other girls or what not) will only reduce you to a level you probably would regret stooping to. She might not want to admit to herself that her behavior and poor communication skills are hurting her relationship with you. If that is the case then you may have to cut bait. Link to post Share on other sites
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