JustinWolf Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Wow, 5 months later I'm feeling mighty fine and everything's going good for me. Except for one small thing, I always have this feeling that I should contact her... Say hi, whats up, whats new... 5 months of NC and I'm still wondering whats going on, on the other side. I wonder if she still thinks of me even though she's got that other guy. Hmmm... Should I contact, now? Link to post Share on other sites
wareagle Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 NO!!!! You say you are doing great why ruin it? Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 Wow, 5 months later I'm feeling mighty fine and everything's going good for me. Except for one small thing, I always have this feeling that I should contact her... Say hi, whats up, whats new... 5 months of NC and I'm still wondering whats going on, on the other side. I wonder if she still thinks of me even though she's got that other guy. Hmmm... Should I contact, now? We all think of our exes in generic ways even though we have someone new. Someone who became a part of our life, we just don't forget about in the immediate future. So with that said... Why do what you feel you should do? You want to be friends with her now? Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinWolf Posted June 2, 2008 Author Share Posted June 2, 2008 I still love her, thats why. But If I go and talk to her I know I won't hope for anything between us and I'll keep it strictly to friendship. If anything happens after, then good but otherwise I wouldn't have lost a friend. Thats what I think, I mean I haven't ever felt this way for anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 You seem to be over it. Some LS-ers might disagree with me, but: If you're over it, saying Hi is ok. Determine how that makes you feel. If you feel fine after: you truly are over it. Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I wouldn't even bother. Why should you when you're doing just fine now? What if you said hi and then you realise you're NOT over her and that you have to start all over again... Link to post Share on other sites
justine4 Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 You seem to be over it. Some LS-ers might disagree with me, but: If you're over it, saying Hi is ok. Determine how that makes you feel. If you feel fine after: you truly are over it. I don't think he is over it kizik. He said he still loves her and that if anything happens then good. He'smaybe found himself at that place where it maybe doesn't hurt just a much? I wouldn't even bother. Why should you when you're doing just fine now? What if you said hi and then you realise you're NOT over her and that you have to start all over again... It is a big chance to take, as you'll be back to square one if/when you see her when you still have the feelings there. Imagine if she has moved on and has someone else - how gutwrenching would that be? However, it could be that she too is feeling the same way and whats meant to be is just that. You'll never know if you don't try (words I'm trying to practice as well as preach in my own position). It'll mean laying yourself on the line - and if this was a fairytale we'd all know the outcome - she'd welcome you back with open arms. However, its real life, and things don't always go to plan. I wish you the very, very best. You will open yourself up to possible hurt if you contact her and she knocks you back, but in my opinion, better to do that rather than live a life of wondering what if.... Link to post Share on other sites
Grimmjow Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I can appreciate your position. I broke up about a month and a half ago and I'm wondering if I'll ever feel like calling her. I think about it sometimes but I know I'm not ready. However, in your case it sounds like you're doing fine. I think it's worth a shot. It's one of those things where you'll never know if you don't try it. I say give it a go and let us know how it went. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinWolf Posted June 2, 2008 Author Share Posted June 2, 2008 This is it. I've sent a message. Just saying "hello how are u? wondering how was school and how ur doing, let me know." kept it short. anyways we'll see how it goes from there. I'll keep you guys updated edit: I just really wanted to send the email because its been a long time and I've grown stronger compared to before and if I feel something is wrong and I just shouldn't contact or whatever, which I seem to be able to sense better, I will just back away. Link to post Share on other sites
Stella Sleepwalks Posted June 11, 2008 Share Posted June 11, 2008 You know what, think if its what you wanna do then do it! I got in touch with my ex after 3 months, got a lovely reply, felt lots beter, got a bit of closure and I am healing more now that I have done it. Tip though.... Only ask how they are not what they're up to. You don't wanna hear about a new romance etc. Good luck x Link to post Share on other sites
claycald Posted June 12, 2008 Share Posted June 12, 2008 yeah dude... go ahead and talk to her. im speaking to me again after 8 months and she is really happy i decieded to come back (she left me after being together for 2 years, we were each others firsts). what sucks as all get out is she has a new boyfriend and has been with him for 7 months. but she has agreed to hang out with me. so go ahead give it a shot and see what happens Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustinWolf Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 Well I did, and no replies, no worries though, I don't feel hurt at all lol ^^ Link to post Share on other sites
ButtHead Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Well I did, and no replies, no worries though, I don't feel hurt at all lol ^^ Good! You didn't need it anyways. Link to post Share on other sites
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