armywife915 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Just a question. Men or women: Does your spouse hang out with single people and how do you feel about it? Especially if those single friends are promiscuous and always looking for the next "lay". Thanks for all the input.
tinktronik Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 We have a few mutual single friends, but they tend to be nice people whom we can both relate to. I would be uncomfortable with my spouse hanging out with friends who had a negative effect on him / us.
angie2443 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Just a question. Men or women: Does your spouse hang out with single people and how do you feel about it? Especially if those single friends are promiscuous and always looking for the next "lay". Thanks for all the input. Hanging out with single people is fine so long as they're good, decent people. If their promiscuous, or always into activities that just don't fit into a married life, then they'd probably turn in to a problem. There's a saying that goes something like "if you lie down dogs, you'll get flees". Well, you get the idea.
Author armywife915 Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 That's the problem...our one single friend is basically a perv and all he wants to do is drink. That is not the kind of life I want and I don't want my husband doing it either. He would be the kind of guy to take my husband to a bar and just talk about how hot the girls are and dance with them all and try to get my husband to do so as well. Very frustrating.
porter218 Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 My husband had one of those friends. I didn't like him from the start and began to hate him more with time. He was the kind of degenerate that had 5 kids by 4 women and would sleep with anyone..YUCK! Well, eventually I started to find out that my husband behaved very badly when with this friend. Needless to say that friend had to go or I would. It was a hard pill for my husband to swallow being that they had been friends for 17 years and when this ultimatum was made we had only been together for 2, but he chose me. Ever since then I have had to be OK with his single friends for them to stay around. The bottom line is their goals are not going to match with what your husbands should be and they need to go!
monkey5 Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 Did YOU write off all of YOUR single friends when YOU were married? just thought I'd ask. Allow your husband to maintain his friendships. He's married to you for a reason...if you can't trust him, then why would you marry him in the 1st place. No need to feel threatened.
tinktronik Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 I'd have to say that we took a different approach. One of adoption our single friends into our fold, inviting them over, making them get involved in cooking or clean up or grilling or bringing the movie or playing with the kids. We just stopped going out all together and if our single friends want to spend time with us they come to us. Most of our single friends say that coming to our house is like going home to family.
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