sid3 Posted June 6, 2008 Share Posted June 6, 2008 yep, whether you want to get back with her or not, she knows she can affect you in one way or another. The replies from the other posters are the overwhelmimng majority, silience is a killer. Her ego has been stroked by your reply. Wouldn't it have been a better feeling to let her wonder why you didn't respond. Exes are often times some of the most evil people we will ever know. Link to post Share on other sites
brightskies Posted June 6, 2008 Share Posted June 6, 2008 The only sad thing about this board and relationship "meeting places" like this is that the significant other could be getting the very same advice. So here we are telling one guy NC NC NC, then she's somewhere else hearing the same BS. Where does that leave things? Like Russia and the USA in cold war era. My feel is, if you really love your woman/man, listen to your heart sometimes and even if you break this silly "NC" once in a while, big deal. Sometimes you will feel better to spill what's in your heart, whether your pissed or whether you just want to say I love you. Bottom line is you shouldn't have to rely on NC when it starts to cross that line and causes you undue frustration or sadness. The thing is, the OP does NOT want the girl back. And he shouldn't, since she treated him badly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted June 7, 2008 Author Share Posted June 7, 2008 The thing is, the OP does NOT want the girl back. And he shouldn't, since she treated him badly. yep, whether you want to get back with her or not, she knows she can affect you in one way or another. The replies from the other posters are the overwhelmimng majority, silience is a killer. Her ego has been stroked by your reply. Wouldn't it have been a better feeling to let her wonder why you didn't respond. Exes are often times some of the most evil people we will ever know. The only sad thing about this board and relationship "meeting places" like this is that the significant other could be getting the very same advice. So here we are telling one guy NC NC NC, then she's somewhere else hearing the same BS. Where does that leave things? Like Russia and the USA in cold war era. My feel is, if you really love your woman/man, listen to your heart sometimes and even if you break this silly "NC" once in a while, big deal. Sometimes you will feel better to spill what's in your heart, whether your pissed or whether you just want to say I love you. Bottom line is you shouldn't have to rely on NC when it starts to cross that line and causes you undue frustration or sadness. OK...one massive reply to these... I simply emailed her and asked "what happened...why did you ignore me??" and then the walls came falling down...sorta,kinda: She actually wrote me a significant email....long story short, it was a combo of things but "wouldn't get into it on that site and might send me an email....".......:lmao: So she now thinks that she has ME hanging waiting but in actuallity I don't care...couldn't get an answer then and obviously she's still hung up on me and can't give me one now.....guess nothing has changed...same stuff different situation....LOL I don't care if i ever get an answer...i asked and she couldn't/wouldn't so obviously she's not mature enough to talk it out like adults....such childish antics..... I wouldn't have been better had i left it alone....silence is a killer on both ends sid3, she did it to me first and I was the bigger person by at least responding....what goes around comes around....i think i deserve answers, she has them (or will bs me ) and that's that.....IDK what she's thinking nor do i really care....I made peace with my soul long ago that I wouldn't let her hurt me anymore and so far all she's done is put up a smoke screen to hide from my question....so obviously her ego is bruised and she can't muster to face the facts.....that she messed up the communication between us and won't set things straight....i think it's amazing how some people can jsut let it go and not care to chase after it....but even if she had chased...i would have put on a jet pack (like the one from Thunderball) and gone away..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted June 8, 2008 Author Share Posted June 8, 2008 yep, whether you want to get back with her or not, she knows she can affect you in one way or another. The replies from the other posters are the overwhelmimng majority, silience is a killer. Her ego has been stroked by your reply. Wouldn't it have been a better feeling to let her wonder why you didn't respond. Exes are often times some of the most evil people we will ever know. Ain't that the truth...she won't stop emailing me and everytime she finds a way to get under my skin...I'll just have to fire off another nasty-gram and then block her....i HATE having to dread opening my inbox not knowing if it's her or not....I just want it to end...it's as if i opened Pandora's Box...what in the world was i thinking..i shoulda not opened it (like EVERY poster said) and just gone on with life....i just fell back a month or so and NOW i have more stuff to deal with.... Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 No nasty-gram. Just block her. That's it. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she's gotten under your skin. Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 I'm sure there is a way to block her email. CG is right about the nasty grams, it is not the way to go. N/C........BTW not sure if it applies; if you don't read/open a text message, after a few days in gets sent back to the sender. That really pisses off an ex, because it takes away their control. It also sends a strong message. Unfortunately we won't always get the answers we would like from people. Besides, they will see things the way they want to, shifting blame and such as needed. Sorry to hear it set you back, we all seem to learn lessons the hard way. Don't let her get to you, you do that by not sharing your feelings with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted June 9, 2008 Author Share Posted June 9, 2008 No nasty-gram. Just block her. That's it. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she's gotten under your skin. I'm sure there is a way to block her email. CG is right about the nasty grams, it is not the way to go. N/C........BTW not sure if it applies; if you don't read/open a text message, after a few days in gets sent back to the sender. That really pisses off an ex, because it takes away their control. It also sends a strong message. Unfortunately we won't always get the answers we would like from people. Besides, they will see things the way they want to, shifting blame and such as needed. Sorry to hear it set you back, we all seem to learn lessons the hard way. Don't let her get to you, you do that by not sharing your feelings with her. ok..no nasty gram unless she starts in on my personal email....then the gloves are comming off...lol.....that would be a REALLY long email.... I can block her on both my personal and my 'friend space' where she's been emailing me through....although she sent me one a few hours ago and she got all heated because I wouldn't take an a/c unit i gave her back....she's messed up over this whole thing....told her i appriciated the jesture...i can't totally be a jerk if she doensn't push my buttons....but she avoided my answer to the question she asked-"are you sure you want to call what we had a 'relationship' "- I flipped back and said "isn't that what you called it too ??"- no response at that..... I hate the games....yet she still tries to get me to play with her...and i'm not gonna do that... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted June 26, 2008 Author Share Posted June 26, 2008 Update !: So my ex (joking refered to now as the "Exedous"...my both my self and me "girlfriend" {it's complicated} ) contacted me the other day again and wants to be friends....and being one not to hate someone forever...I let her email me and whatnot...and were able to have a conversation without any anger or hostility....and the real kicker was that she said she was sorry....which is a big step for her....and that maybe our relationship was " too much too fast.."....so we are working on the whole 'friends' thing.....but keep my distance becasue i know she wants to get back together..but i don't/ won't do it....i won't even call her to talk....that's how much i don't want to be with her...emailing is just fine by me... She called me and left a voicemail.....but i didn't call back....not really planning to at this point...lol:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
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