Boyfriend Trouble...

[Allison Thompson]

Okay I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I made a huge mistake! A few months ago another Guy kissed me and I kissed him back for about 2 seconds. I told my boyfriend the next day and we was very mad and it took him awhile to forgive me but he has. But his friends haven't since they tell him everyday to break up with me. I don't know what to do about this because my boyfriend is sick of being hassled so he just tells them that we did break up. I feel like he is ashamed of me because when I am at his house and someone calls he just says that he is busy and doesn't tell anyone I am there. I know I screwed up but I want his friends to at least be able to hang around me without being mean. If my boyfriend could forgive me then why can't they?

[Ren]

Alison, I'd like to ask you one question.....do you wanna date your boyfriend, or his friends? Assuming that you chose your boyfriend, then it doesn't matter what his friends think, and if your boyfriend loves you, then he will eventually tell them to bugger off, and get off his back.

 

it also seems to me that you've been punishing yourself with this...it was just a simple kiss, and you knew it was wrong..so don't punish yourself about this...and forget about what his friends think of you....it shouldn't matter.

 

Okay I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I made a huge mistake! A few months ago another Guy kissed me and I kissed him back for about 2 seconds. I told my boyfriend the next day and we was very mad and it took him awhile to forgive me but he has. But his friends haven't since they tell him everyday to break up with me. I don't know what to do about this because my boyfriend is sick of being hassled so he just tells them that we did break up. I feel like he is ashamed of me because when I am at his house and someone calls he just says that he is busy and doesn't tell anyone I am there. I know I screwed up but I want his friends to at least be able to hang around me without being mean. If my boyfriend could forgive me then why can't they?

[Nicky]

Alison, I'd like to ask you one question.....do you wanna date your boyfriend, or his friends? Assuming that you chose your boyfriend, then it doesn't matter what his friends think, and if your boyfriend loves you, then he will eventually tell them to bugger off, and get off his back.

 

it also seems to me that you've been punishing yourself with this...it was just a simple kiss, and you knew it was wrong..so don't punish yourself about this...and forget about what his friends think of you....it shouldn't matter.

Allison, your boyfriend is still with you, so it suggests he does still like you. I don't think his friends are going to change their attitude to you, no matter what you say to them. Hopefully they will begin to shut up in time. The only way they are going to shut up now, is if your boyfriend deals with this himself, and says something to them. I don't think he is embarassed by you, but simply trying to keep a low profile with them, by pretending you are not there/ saying he has ditched you. He is just trying to shut them up, but unless he tackles the real problem, it's unlikely they will-at least not for a while.

 

Could there be other issues involved? Is he the only/ one of the few guys in the group, who has a girlfriend? Maybe they feel he is not spending much time with them, since he met you. And by kissing the other guy (which by the way wasn't a good idea, but isn't criminal), you have just given them the perfect stick to beat you with.

 

I can't imagine that they would keep this up, simply over a kiss, which HE has forgiven you for.

[Shirley]

Okay I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I made a huge mistake! A few months ago another Guy kissed me and I kissed him back for about 2 seconds. I told my boyfriend the next day and we was very mad and it took him awhile to forgive me but he has. But his friends haven't since they tell him everyday to break up with me. I don't know what to do about this because my boyfriend is sick of being hassled so he just tells them that we did break up. I feel like he is ashamed of me because when I am at his house and someone calls he just says that he is busy and doesn't tell anyone I am there. I know I screwed up but I want his friends to at least be able to hang around me without being mean. If my boyfriend could forgive me then why can't they?

 

Hi!

 

This is something that you should talk to your boyfriend about. He should be able to stick up for his own feelings about you, even if it goes against what his friends think. All that really matters to you is that your boyfriend has accepted what you've done. But if he is hiding it from his friends, it means that he has not totally forgiven you. When you love someone, you want to show that love to the world. And you're never ashamed to stick up for the one you love.