Can't get over him

[jsulli78]

I dated my guy, very seriously, for one year. We had problems, I felt like he wasn't trying anymore, he had issues with me, etc. I was OK when we broke up because it was mutual.

 

About a month later, he tells me about this girl who he fell in love with and how she broke his heart. He knew her before we broke up and admitted that he didn't try towards the end because he wanted to see where things went with her.

 

I find myself having feelings for him again and want to be with him. He says he's not ready for a relationship with me or anyone, but wants to work on being more than friends with me.

 

I'm afraid he'll hurt me again, but I think he's worth the risk. Do I just wait for him to come around, listening to him talk about this other girl who he's trying to get over? He knows how I feel about it all and that I want to be with him.

 

What should I do? Be just his friend and help him through this or cut things off completely? Help!!!

[jalexy]

well simply it looks like to me that you want him again because someone else had his heart, etc. and of course he doesnt want you. how can you want to be with someone else that was trying to get with someone else while you were together? i cant even answer the rest of your questions because this situation is so simple. hes a crap head

[crzybeautifl88]

He knew her before you broke up? was he cheating on you? I think the best thing for you to do is to move on. Your just going to cause yourself more heartache. How do you know that he won't be falling in love behind your back again?

 

I know that it's hard, but you may need to cut off all contact for awhile. At least until you know that you can talk to him as a friend, without all your old feelings coming back.

 

Do you really want to listen to his sob story's about this other girl? It dosen't sound like a lot of fun to me. It sounds to me like he just dosen't want to be alone right now, or he's looking for someone to bed up with.

 

I hope everything works out for you.