WTF? He's not that into me?

[kendallawaits]

He's not being dramatic. You are. I don't see a post from him. You may think he is throwing out hints, but he may not see it that way. Look, this is going nowhere at this point. Find a man who is available and willing to do the work. Me personally, I would want a man who makes an effort.

 

 

He mentioned having movie passes and wanted to use them. Thats not a hint? He hangs at my desk all day and flirts with me. I'm not going to be nasty. I will let you do that for me.

[D-Lish]

Sorry about the new info. How was the interview?

 

We'll see! But this post is about you!

 

I still wanna know if you want to dig into this shy guy or not...

[kendallawaits]

He's not being dramatic. You are. I don't see a post from him. You may think he is throwing out hints, but he may not see it that way. Look, this is going nowhere at this point. Find a man who is available and willing to do the work. Me personally, I would want a man who makes an effort.

 

 

One more thing. I'm no longer, looking to go after this guy. But it does make me feel better to talk and vent about it. This is a forum for just that. If you don't like how I feel about it, than I suggest you go "troll" around someone elses thread.

[kendallawaits]

We'll see! But this post is about you!

 

I still wanna know if you want to dig into this shy guy or not...

 

Believe me D, I don't want to crush on him anymore, I reallllllllly don't. I'm trying not to but it's difficult. I'm too old for this though. My brain doesn't get that I shouldn't want a guy that doesn't want me.

[Star Gazer]

What exactly is he/has he done that you consider "flirting"? Perhaps you're just really misunderstanding his intention, and is acting weird because he can't understand why you're responding the way you are...

[kendallawaits]

What exactly is he/has he done that you consider "flirting"? Perhaps you're just really misunderstanding his intention, and is acting weird because he can't understand why you're responding the way you are...

 

 

I know what flirting is. And he is doing it. It isn't friendly coworker banter, it goes beyond that. He mentions have "movie passes" and needing to use them. This was a totally random comment. If he felt "weird" around me, he wouldn't be around me. He is around me ALL THE TIME. I don't hang out at his desk. I don't make constant conversation with him. This is all him, ESPECIALLY this week. The man is just weird.

[zicke]

He mentioned having movie passes and wanted to use them. Thats not a hint? He hangs at my desk all day and flirts with me. I'm not going to be nasty. I will let you do that for me.

 

 

Wow, passive aggressive much? A bit of an insight as to your work environment?

 

For someone asking for advice, you sure are angry.

[kendallawaits]

This thread carries a huge message for all men, and if you've read this far without catching it, that should be a huge red flag to you.

 

What do we have so far...18 pages or so?

 

Wow.

 

To merit that kind of attention, this guy must be some sort of Adonis...a totally ripped, suave super-stud.

 

But of course, he's not. He's kinda dorky and shy.

 

So then he must've been super, super cool to her and asked her out a bunch of times before she finally said yes.

 

But of course, he didn't. He seemed somewhat interested but also somewhat "whatever"...so she asked him out.

 

Okay fine...but once she asked him out, he must've been really careful to make sure the first date was everything a woman could want from a date...I mean, after all, we're talking 18 pages here!

 

But of course he didn't. Instead, he made plans with friends for after the date, and when the date conflicted with those plans, he canceled the date, as opposed to changing his plans with his buddies.

 

Yet here we are--18 pages and counting.

 

And what's more amazing by far is the number of guys who see all of this happening before their very eyes and will nonetheless continue to insist that the best way to win the girl is to "connect" with her by being really nice, trying really hard to show her you care, pay her lots of attention, bend over backward to make her happy.

 

Let me ask you guys a question: when was the last time that approach got you 18 pages in a dating forum? When was the last time it got you laid?

 

If you think that "connecting" with a woman is the way into her heart or her pants, perhaps it's time to read through this thread again, and do some brutally honest rethinking.

 

 

This is a forum, isn't it? Unbelievable.

[zicke]

This thread carries a huge message for all men, and if you've read this far without catching it, that should be a huge red flag to you.

 

What do we have so far...18 pages or so?

 

Wow.

 

To merit that kind of attention, this guy must be some sort of Adonis...a totally ripped, suave super-stud.

 

But of course, he's not. He's kinda dorky and shy.

 

So then he must've been super, super cool to her and asked her out a bunch of times before she finally said yes.

 

But of course, he didn't. He seemed somewhat interested but also somewhat "whatever"...so she asked him out.

 

Okay fine...but once she asked him out, he must've been really careful to make sure the first date was everything a woman could want from a date...I mean, after all, we're talking 18 pages here!

 

But of course he didn't. Instead, he made plans with friends for after the date, and when the date conflicted with those plans, he canceled the date, as opposed to changing his plans with his buddies.

 

Yet here we are--18 pages and counting.

 

And what's more amazing by far is the number of guys who see all of this happening before their very eyes and will nonetheless continue to insist that the best way to win the girl is to "connect" with her by being really nice, trying really hard to show her you care, pay her lots of attention, bend over backward to make her happy.

 

Let me ask you guys a question: when was the last time that approach got you 18 pages in a dating forum? When was the last time it got you laid?

 

If you think that "connecting" with a woman is the way into her heart or her pants, perhaps it's time to read through this thread again, and do some brutally honest rethinking.

 

 

Nice try--but most women wouldn't ask the guy out in the first place. So, there you are, with all this insight into women, and you still have to ask them out. Most women would expect a man to make an effort in the first parts of dating. Even with my ******* ex, he made an effort. This cunning plan only works once you have the woman hooked, and then most owmen would tell you to **** off. Good luck with that though.

[kendallawaits]

Wow, passive aggressive much? A bit of an insight as to your work environment?

 

For someone asking for advice, you sure are angry.

 

 

No actually, I'm not angry. You are trying to shove YOUR opinion down my throat. I disagree with it. You don't know me, AT ALL. What you have read is ONE situation in my life. You think this ONE situation makes me who I'am? It doesn't.

 

I posted here because I was looking for advice and I got some great advice from some great people. I got some advice I expected and some I didn't. I kept posting because it was an outlet for me to express my frustration about the situation. I don't understand why it angers some people so much. I just feel that if someone doesn't like it, than they can pass by it, to something else.

[kendallawaits]

This thread carries a huge message for all men, and if you've read this far without catching it, that should be a huge red flag to you.

 

What do we have so far...18 pages or so?

 

Wow.

 

To merit that kind of attention, this guy must be some sort of Adonis...a totally ripped, suave super-stud.

 

But of course, he's not. He's kinda dorky and shy.

 

So then he must've been super, super cool to her and asked her out a bunch of times before she finally said yes.

 

But of course, he didn't. He seemed somewhat interested but also somewhat "whatever"...so she asked him out.

 

Okay fine...but once she asked him out, he must've been really careful to make sure the first date was everything a woman could want from a date...I mean, after all, we're talking 18 pages here!

 

But of course he didn't. Instead, he made plans with friends for after the date, and when the date conflicted with those plans, he canceled the date, as opposed to changing his plans with his buddies.

 

Yet here we are--18 pages and counting.

 

And what's more amazing by far is the number of guys who see all of this happening before their very eyes and will nonetheless continue to insist that the best way to win the girl is to "connect" with her by being really nice, trying really hard to show her you care, pay her lots of attention, bend over backward to make her happy.

 

Let me ask you guys a question: when was the last time that approach got you 18 pages in a dating forum? When was the last time it got you laid?

 

If you think that "connecting" with a woman is the way into her heart or her pants, perhaps it's time to read through this thread again, and do some brutally honest rethinking.

 

It is because of men that there are forums like this. Most men don't bend over backward.

[zicke]

No actually, I'm not angry. You are trying to shove YOUR opinion down my throat. I disagree with it. You don't know me, AT ALL. What you have read is ONE situation in my life. You think this ONE situation makes me who I'am? It doesn't.

 

I posted here because I was looking for advice and I got some great advice from some great people. I got some advice I expected and some I didn't. I kept posting because it was an outlet for me to express my frustration about the situation. I don't understand why it angers some people so much. I just feel that if someone doesn't like it, than they can pass by it, to something else.

 

I am only as invested as my last beer is, in a sense, I would give a flying **** about your dilemma with the man who is not interested. But, you are just so dang resolved that your behavior is not inappropriate. I've got time to kill, and I have an opinion, so I am giving it. I am not the person posting my dilemma about some guy who is only half interested. You are. I will be frank, I think your attitude sucks, and I think that you have no sense of how your behavior is passive aggressive. Google it.

[MrsHellnoFire]

You're absolutely right.

 

That's why there are so few threads on this forum with women seeking advice on how to hook that unattainable guy who seems clearly uninterested in them.

 

Not.

 

It's also why there are so few threads on this forum with men wondering why they can't get girls despite how cool and nice they are to them.

 

Not.

 

Wake up, guys.

 

it can work both ways- with men as well. you act like women are nasty creatures who normally treat nice guys like shi#. the truth is that this "nice" guy HAD THE DATE!!! she just couldn't make the time and thats when things got twisted.

[kendallawaits]

I am only as invested as my last beer is, in a sense, I would give a flying **** about your dilemma with the man who is not interested. But, you are just so dang resolved that your behavior is not inappropriate. I've got time to kill, and I have an opinion, so I am giving it. I am not the person posting my dilemma about some guy who is only half interested. You are. I will be frank, I think your attitude sucks, and I think that you have no sense of how your behavior is passive aggressive. Google it.

 

 

Ok. ............

[kendallawaits]

it can work both ways- with men as well. you act like women are nasty creatures who normally treat nice guys like shi#. the truth is that this "nice" guy HAD THE DATE!!! she just couldn't make the time and thats when things got twisted.

 

Why are there so many people beating up on me? I don't think I did anything so horribly wrong.

[zicke]

You're absolutely right.

 

That's why there are so few threads on this forum with women seeking advice on how to hook that unattainable guy who seems clearly uninterested in them.

 

Not.

 

It's also why there are so few threads on this forum with men wondering why they can't get girls despite how cool and nice they are to them.

 

Not.

 

Wake up, guys.

 

Ohhh..sarcasm!

 

You do have a point----I will concede that. However, people learn. And once they do, all games are off. Unless you really, really want to be with someone you need to be "on" with all the time. That's tiring and..why bother? There's just as many people who will be honest and themselves with you. It will all come out eventually.

[zicke]

Ok. ............

 

See? Did you google it yet????

[kendallawaits]

See? Did you google it yet????

 

I'm not arguing with you anymore. Thanks for your advice and opinion, if even though I disagree.

[kendallawaits]

Go back and read the thread again, more carefully this time.

 

Yes, the nice guy got the date...the nice guy who also just happened to come across as indifferent to whether he got the date or not.

 

Newsflash: minor details like that are in fact not minor details at all.

 

 

You are so right.

[zicke]

I'm not arguing with you anymore. Thanks for your advice and opinion, if even though I disagree.

 

Still. Why so defensive? (See, passive aggressive...do you get it yet?)

[zicke]

Go back and read the thread again, more carefully this time.

 

Yes, the nice guy got the date...the nice guy who also just happened to come across as indifferent to whether he got the date or not.

 

Newsflash: minor details like that are in fact not minor details at all.

 

For most women this would be a turn off and you know it.

[Star Gazer]

I know what flirting is. And he is doing it. It isn't friendly coworker banter, it goes beyond that. He mentions have "movie passes" and needing to use them. This was a totally random comment. If he felt "weird" around me, he wouldn't be around me. He is around me ALL THE TIME. I don't hang out at his desk. I don't make constant conversation with him. This is all him, ESPECIALLY this week. The man is just weird.

 

I dunno, all of my co-workers in the past have sounded like yours....male (married and single) as well as women - including dealing with going to a movie. I never assumed just because they mentioned going to a movie together or spend time chatting at my desk that they were romantically interested in me (i.e., "flirting").

 

Thing is, you've waffled quite a bit about his feelings for you and his intentions: "He likes me, who knows if he likes me, he doesn't like me, he's flirting with me..." It's clear that you have no idea what he thinks, what he feels, or what his intentions are. You say things like that he's been flirting with you only when you're engaged in a cat fight with a member here when that member questions your judgment. But let's be honest: To say he's flirting - which implies a certain intent - is presumptuous and arrogant at this point, isn't it?

[kendallawaits]

Still. Why so defensive? (See, passive aggressive...do you get it yet?)

 

 

I have to say bye to you Zicke. I'm putting you on IGNORE. Have a good night!

[kendallawaits]

I dunno, all of my co-workers in the past have sounded like yours....male (married and single) as well as women - including dealing with going to a movie. I never assumed just because they mentioned going to a movie together or spend time chatting at my desk that they were romantically interested in me (i.e., "flirting").

 

Thing is, you've waffled quite a bit about his feelings for you and his intentions: "He likes me, who knows if he likes me, he doesn't like me, he's flirting with me..." It's clear that you have no idea what he thinks, what he feels, or what his intentions are. You say things like that he's been flirting with you only when you're engaged in a cat fight with a member here when that member questions your judgment. But let's be honest: To say he's flirting - which implies a certain intent - is presumptuous and arrogant at this point, isn't it?

 

Ok, you are right. thanks.

[MrsHellnoFire]

Go back and read the thread again, more carefully this time.

 

Yes, the nice guy got the date...the nice guy who also just happened to come across as indifferent to whether he got the date or not.

 

Newsflash: minor details like that are in fact not minor details at all.

 

whats the difference. he made that reaction AFTER he got the date, and then didnt even follow through, so what the hell was the point? there was none.

what do you think is the way normal people accept date invititations? jump up and down and let the other know how excited they are ? give me a break.. nobody shows that much vulnerability right off the bat.