Hmm.. last day seeing her

[kodts]

I known this girl for just a little while, maybe few months? We seemed to hit it off really good especially at the beginning.. something different, not just, oh she's cute and we talked for like 15 minutes!.. there was something different. I could be wrong, but my heart tells me.. and it usually never lies right? Well, mine has before. many times

 

Anyway, few weeks into it, I started getting a little obvious about how I felt, and she busted out with something about her boyfriend. Like she just threw in that word, it was totally obvious, the rest of the sentence didn't even make sense.

 

But I got the picture. I didn't see it as a rejection, I saw it more like, maybe she did like me? But she's with him.. just bad timing, whatever. I didn't feel it was in any way a rejection or anything bad at all. She seemed really distressed too. The next few days she seemed more attentative and kept looking at me with this look on her face. Like she was constipated haha.

 

But after I just kept it friendly with her, I still got those vibes. Sometimes I'd just see her eyes and could swear she was trying to tell me something. But I let it go. That's too much for me. I need someone 100% available. Can't deal with the games. But I still really like her. She's awesome. She has a bf, so what. Don't plan on getting with her, but I genuinely like her.. unconditionally. I could love her. There's no question, it's never been clearer in my mind.

 

So this weekend we're gonna be parting ways. I don't know how I'm going to react. I have a feeling I'm gonna play the safe bit, do the friendly aww gonna miss you guys thing, and be on my way. I won't be distressed cause I already have the mindset of moving on.

 

But I'm wondering, am I really being TOO.. uhh dunno the word, but you know.. over this? I know there's no harm to just be upfront with her but truth is I'd rather not know. I'd rather see if she makes a last resort move, and if she doesn't I'll chalk it up as yeah she wasn't feeling anything.

 

I'll move on.. but I won't find someone like her that's for sure. There were just too many things on my extremely long list of wants that was checked off with her.. so many I was like damn!? I only made this list (mental list, of course) with all these options cause you figure you'd only get half of them. But damn like all of them were checked off, except the one I forgot to list which is being available.

 

So what you think?? Should I just do what I said, see if she brings something up, like wanting to "stay in touch". I know she won't straight out confess her dying love, but maybe will do so passively, and that's what I'm hoping for. But I shouldn't actually do anything, right?? Not at this stage?

 

p.s. I only ask cause I seriously think she's not into the dude, okay? If they were like some serious couple I wouldn't even bother. But, yeah, I do completely understand the 'she's got a bf forget it' thing.. this just feels different..

[Suiyobi]

Sorry to hear that kodts, I'm actually on the same boat as you. I'm gonna keep trying though, until she actually rejects me. I know this may seem strange for some people, but I feel that if I'm going to go all passive about it then I may lose my chance of her deciding to go with me instead of who she has her eyes currently set on. I don't mean to "steal" her or anything, but I'm leaving the girl the option that I am available if she's not happy with who she's with at the moment. So to put a long story short, you COULD keep trying, but if your heart tells you that it's best to keep her off-hands then perhaps you should do just that.

[Sarita12385]

You could take a more subtle approach about it and casually say something along the lines of "just so you know..." and then however you feel. You're not really asking her how she feels, just stating your own feelings, therefore giving her the chance to react one way or the other, you see? Sort of like an suble invitation. You're not asking her for a reply either, so it won't really put her on the spot so to speak.

 

Best of luck