tofplac Posted June 8, 2008 Share Posted June 8, 2008 I suppose she became my ex for a reason but since I never really fell out of love with her I've just ignored that important little saying because I'm stubborn. I'll spare our entire history but basically me and my ex dated for 4 years, broke up 2 years ago because she cheated on me then recently started talking again. During this time she moved all the way to Texas, gotten married, then divorced. (Yeah, I know and not even to the guy she left me for!) So we talked for about a month before I decided to ask If I could pay her a visit. She was pretty excited about it and before you know it I'm leaving O'Hare for Austin to spend the week. While I was over there we "hooked up" as the young people say and everything seemed to be going great. (Haven't you always noticed that that line usually comes before a "but") BUT it's been a month since I've come back and I haven't been able to talk to her over the phone since. I figured I'd try to call just once a week. We only talk through texts and whenever I try to call her she's "sick" or "busy" Womanspeak for "I don't want to talk to you" I definitely still love her and want her back but I've decided not to call or text her anymore because I'd rather use my rollover minutes calling people who'd actually answer. Although, I seem to be going a little bit crazy not calling her because she's confused the hell out me. So loveshack forum, did I freak her out by calling so soon after? Should I just wait for her to contact me even though the wuss in me feels like she never will? Should have I just wasted the $400 on booze or at the casino? Any advice would be much appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 8, 2008 Share Posted June 8, 2008 I get the feeling that hooking up with you was more about assuaging her feelings of incompetence over a failed marriage, rather than simply wanting to start something up again. Because as you say, an ex is an ex for a reason, and rarely do estranged couples successfully reunite. There's a huge maturity factor that needs to be involved for that to happen. I've only ever tried doing that once, because I was horny. After all was said and done, I came to the conclusion I'd known all along: He sucked in the sack. To this day, I really don't think he realizes that was my intention, I'm sure that in his vanity, he thought that I really wanted him, not look for empirical evidence of his poor ability as a lover. not saying that was why your ex wanted to hook up, just pointing out that her reason may be completely different from yours. time to just let her go, and to tell her no whenever she contacts you in the future, because it's really not about "you and her," but about her stroking her ego for whatever reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tofplac Posted June 8, 2008 Author Share Posted June 8, 2008 I hadn't really thought of that actually, thank you. To think she made me fly all the way to Texas just for that would be pretty bad though. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted June 8, 2008 Share Posted June 8, 2008 She has fkd and chucked you babe! Sorry but she is not interested, dont call her or text or anything, you deserve so much more! Dont regret is just learn from it! Link to post Share on other sites
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