Trialbyfire Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 Her hair is undone and her pose in unflattering, if you simply look at her face you see that she is still breath-takingly beautiful. No she's not. She has full lips, decent eyes and a nice face shape. The rest is like painting on an empty canvas. Link to post Share on other sites
carrotgirl Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 Thanks for killing that for me. Shallow. Seriously. Just what exactly was killed for you? Your fantasy that someday Miss Adriana would drive over to your place in a spanky new convertible, hand you the keys while offering you a sip from her Big Gulp and then you two would drive into the sunset together? Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 Back to the OP's post... Iwish, you are definitely still in the "pedestal" stage. This girl is not as amazing as you thought; there are reasons on HER END, things she did to you selfishly, why it didn't work. Once you realize she's not so perfect, you can begin to get over her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iwish Posted June 9, 2008 Author Share Posted June 9, 2008 I'm getting over her, more and more each day. It's just a roller coaster ride at the moment. This is the longest i've been with NC in the 4 months since the first break up. And today is a total of 4 days! She possibly has a new guy now and all i can think is, i'd rather be him than me. Lucky git! Stupid i know, but hey, that's part of the ride i guess.. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 I'm 3 weeks NC. 4 1/2 since break up. It IS possible. The first days NC are the hardest. If she has a new guy already.. OMG what a needy person. You don't want THAT anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iwish Posted June 9, 2008 Author Share Posted June 9, 2008 Yeah and the worse thing is, i was sleeping with her 8 days ago. In the most expensive hotel in the world!! (payed for by me of course!). Now she's getting it from some one else, whilst i'm writing on Love Forum's!! What's wrong with that picture?! Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 Dwelling on that stuff will only hinder your progress. You were LUCKY to experience good times with her. There is no pleasure without the contrast of pain. Happiness comes in cycles. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iwish Posted June 9, 2008 Author Share Posted June 9, 2008 Yep and tonight's the pain! . I think it's because it's my birthday this Friday and she wont be spending it with me. But instead with some other guy. And i'm wondering if she'll even wish me Happy Birthday. God i'm a wuss!! Well tomorrow's anther day.. A better day . Link to post Share on other sites
JustPassingThru Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 Shallow. Seriously. Just what exactly was killed for you? Your fantasy that someday Miss Adriana would drive over to your place in a spanky new convertible, hand you the keys while offering you a sip from her Big Gulp and then you two would drive into the sunset together? Wow, you're spot on.... HaHa, I love how bent out of shape some of you get over the most trivial of things. Are you not guilty of shallow thoughts? At least I'm honest. Link to post Share on other sites
pr-girl Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 Now, i'm no longer with her, i don't think i can ever be with someone so beautiful again. I don't think i will ever find someone so attractive again. It sounds to me as though she was the most beautiful woman you'd ever seen when you saw her, but she was the ugliest woman you'd ever known when you got to know her. To me, she doesn't sound "attractive." You were doing what a lot of other men have been doing for years with beautiful women. If men stopped catering to every beautiful woman's needs, then they wouldn't be such meanies. They would have to learn how to form a personality and a caring heart in order to keep the man. It sounds like all she had to do was do you the right way and you were happy. Wow. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 That's funny, PR, the women on the board crucified me earlier when I suggested that gorgeous women who have their egos stroked by every male within 100 miles eventually, and almost certainly, become hardened and/or mean. Thanks for inadvertently backing me up. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 To me, she doesn't sound "attractive." You were doing what a lot of other men have been doing for years with beautiful women. If men stopped catering to every beautiful woman's needs, then they wouldn't be such meanies. They would have to learn how to form a personality and a caring heart in order to keep the man. You're as bad as the men who generalize. Do you have something against beautiful women? Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 I know. I'm with TBF. The superficiality displayed here is appalling! Word. I really hope all men aren't this shallow... Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 Subjective!!! http://www.bastardly.com/archives/2007/11/18/2007-victorias-secret-show-adriana-lima-without-makeup?page=0,0 personally, I always found her teeth, nose and mouth a bit funky...I guess beauty really is subjective. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 No she's not. She has full lips, decent eyes and a nice face shape. The rest is like painting on an empty canvas. I would say that her eyes and coloring are breathtakingly beautiful. The rest not so much. Her lips are too full, imo, and her nose too puggish. But maybe that's a matter of taste. The only perfect face I can think of belonged to Gene Tierney. http://farm1.static.flickr.com/219/450528160_4f9327b56e.jpg http://www.celebritypicturesarchive.com/avatars/220x220/g/gene-tierney/gene-tierney.jpg Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 I was just illustrating to jpt, that beauty is subjective. Btw, I'm not beautiful and have never claimed to be. Attractive yes, beautiful no. This isn't why I defend "beautiful" people. I just hate it when people judge solely based on the superficial. There's a lot more going on in a person than what they look like. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 I was just illustrating to jpt, that beauty is subjective. Btw, I'm not beautiful and have never claimed to be. Attractive yes, beautiful no. This isn't why I defend "beautiful" people. I just hate it when people judge solely based on the superficial. There's a lot more going on in a person than what they look like. For a large percentage of men looks dictate how "in love" they feel with a woman....character aside. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 I haven't read the whole thread.. but for me.. the exterior is just as important as the interior.. in fact, it's a little 'more important'.. If the guy is really nice but is ugly... with bad teeth, bad case of acne, etc... I don't care how nice he is.. If the guy is drop dead gorgeous then I will forgive a few 'bad' things about him.. I am shallow.. I know.. but IMO I can afford to be shallow.. cause I am NOT looking for relationship material.. I'm looking for great looking guys (hunks) to have fun with... I am good looking.. manipulative and selfish.. do I care about what people think? NOT one bit.. Go with your own set of standards.. never mind what other people think.. it's your life.. and it's too short to live it for others.. Link to post Share on other sites
carrotgirl Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 If men stopped catering to every beautiful woman's needs, then they wouldn't be such meanies. They would have to learn how to form a personality and a caring heart in order to keep the man. [Knocks head with hand.] Now why didn't I think of that? Oh! Oh! I know! I never learned how to form a personality because I've been catered to for all of my needs. And thanks for clearing up the mystery surrounding my relationship. We're on again off again because I'm beautiful, ergo, I'm a meanie. When will I learn? Oh yeah. Not until I stop being beautiful or men stop [cough] catering to my needs. My beautiful, uncaring heart can't "keep a man." I might as well just give it up now. I ain't nevah gonna catch a husband. Regrets to you Tri. I have to disagree. Coming from the sisterhood, this is worse than the men who generalize. Carrot Link to post Share on other sites
carrotgirl Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 For a large percentage of men looks dictate how "in love" they feel with a woman....character aside. Tripe! Drivel. More myth perpetuation and blatant man bashing! This is so very wrong. Carrot Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 There's nothing I like more than a man who has a great, big, giant .... BRAIN .... and knows how to use it! Carrot Me too... I like them with two huge heads.. and they know how to use both.. Link to post Share on other sites
carrotgirl Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 Me too... I like them with two huge heads.. and they know how to use both.. MmmAhhh. Lizzie! Rather think the whole board knows my preference .... don't we? I may lack personality and a caring heart (did she really say that? I still can't believe it) but by by golly, I'm a sizist and proud! Carrot likes a BIG, talented man! (For all those needs that need catering to.) Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 MmmAhhh. Lizzie! Rather think the whole board knows my preference .... don't we? I may lack personality and a caring heart (did she really say that? I still can't believe it) but by by golly, I'm a sizist and proud! Carrot likes a BIG, talented man! (For all those needs that need catering to.) Hahaha.. Lizzie likes a big carrot too.. oups a big talented guy too.. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 Everybody is superficial to a degree and it's silly to argue otherwise. I'm sure few if any of the women on here would date an obese, balding, old guy even if he had a heart of gold and the mind of a genius. And if you claim it's because you have no tolerance for people who don't take care of themselves, imagine that his obesity is caused by some sort of incurable hormonal disease. Below a certain level of attractiveness, the superficial isn't just a part of the attraction equation...it's the most important part...like multiplying all the other variables by zero...because without it there's no way of getting your foot in the door no matter how great your character is. Link to post Share on other sites
carrotgirl Posted June 10, 2008 Share Posted June 10, 2008 Everybody, including those who claim moral superiority, is superficial to a degree and it's silly to argue otherwise. I'm sure few if any of the women on here would date an obese, balding, old guy even if he had a heart of gold and the mind of a genius. It's ME! Me again! I'm in love with (we're all aging so that one doesn't count IMO) a fat, balding guy. His body looks a lot like this: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/1/18/Kung_fu_panda_poster.jpg And oh yah! GD absolutely has a genius mind and mad sex skills. He's not a big fat man, he's MY big, fat man. I think he's dishy. So who is lacking tolerance here? Carrot Link to post Share on other sites
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