The most beautiful creature on the planet.

[burning 4 revenge]

It's ME! Me again! I'm in love with (we're all aging so that one doesn't count IMO) a fat, balding guy. His body looks a lot like this: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/1/18/Kung_fu_panda_poster.jpg

 

And oh yah! GD absolutely has a genius mind and mad sex skills. He's not a big fat man, he's MY big, fat man. I think he's dishy.

 

So who is lacking tolerance here?

 

Carrot

your husband looks like a cartoon karate panda bear?

 

maybe there is hope for me

[carrotgirl]

Below a certain level of attractiveness, the superficial isn't just a part of the attraction equation...it's the most important part...like multiplying all the other variables by zero...because without it there's no way of getting your foot in the door no matter how great your character is.

I'm sorry if this is all old and boring to some of you. I can't let this go. People, not everyone is like this. I don't give a rat's a$$ what people look like, although I do care very much that they are clean and tidy. And as far as initial attraction goes, I don't give it almost any consideration at all. I don't date anyone who isn't well set in the friends zone first. That's right. If you want a beautiful man or woman on your arm, you might try being friends with him or her.

 

Carrot

[carrotgirl]

your husband looks like a cartoon karate panda bear?

 

maybe there is hope for me

GD is my ex-current-ex-current boyfriend ... It's just easier to call him GD. So not even a husband and I don't care about his size as long as he remains healthy. Yah. His body bears (!) a very strong resemblance to a the cartoon panda bear. It was kind of uncanny really.

 

Carrot

[Trialbyfire]

Everybody is superficial to a degree and it's silly to argue otherwise. I'm sure few if any of the women on here would date an obese, balding, old guy even if he had a heart of gold and the mind of a genius. And if you claim it's because you have no tolerance for people who don't take care of themselves, imagine that his obesity is caused by some sort of incurable hormonal disease. Below a certain level of attractiveness, the superficial isn't just a part of the attraction equation...it's the most important part...like multiplying all the other variables by zero...because without it there's no way of getting your foot in the door no matter how great your character is.

Oh stop being a purist. Yes, most of us start with sufficient attraction that we're not repulsed by the person, that much is obvious. Beyond that, the person gains or loses attractiveness based on personality and core rot or core beauty.

 

I've dated men who friends have said "WTF?" until they've gotten to know them and realized what great people they were. I've also dated some drop-dead gorgeous men. Some have been amazing, others have been jerks.

 

Judge by what's on the inside, not the outside.

[sedgwick]

Wow, a girl goes outta town to shake some ass, and look what she misses!

 

I would just like to say that Adriana Lima is totally boring looking to me. She looks like all the other freakishly skinny models I see walking around NYC all the time. Supermodel pretty is the most yawn-inducing look in the world to me.

 

You know who I think is breathtakingly hot? Sherilyn Fenn. Remember her, from Twin Peaks? Someone told me today I had Sherilyn Fenn eyebrows and I remembered how hard I used to try to achieve that.

 

The other hottest woman in the world is Suhaila Salimpour, with whom I took a workshop yesterday. Type "Suhaila" into youtube and gape in awe.

 

The man I love is a skinny bald stinky nearsighted hillbilly. I think he's the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen.

 

Anyway, carry on.

[pr-girl]

You're as bad as the men who generalize. Do you have something against beautiful women?

Nope. Not at all. I myself am an attractive woman. I apologize if I wasn't clear. I was speaking of the "type" of beautiful women who treat men badly; NOT that ALL beautiful women do. I, for one, am very kind, but always get hurt. Ha.

 

Read again what I typed. If some men that treat the b*tchy beautiful women like gold could change their ways, then those women would eventually have to learn to be kind in order to keep a man. Living in Vegas, I see this a lot. Do I make sense now? This is aimed at the meanies, Trialbyfire.

[pr-girl]

[Knocks head with hand.]

 

Now why didn't I think of that? Oh! Oh! I know! I never learned how to form a personality because I've been catered to for all of my needs. And thanks for clearing up the mystery surrounding my relationship. We're on again off again because I'm beautiful, ergo, I'm a meanie.

 

When will I learn? Oh yeah. Not until I stop being beautiful or men stop [cough] catering to my needs. My beautiful, uncaring heart can't "keep a man." I might as well just give it up now. I ain't nevah gonna catch a husband.

 

Regrets to you Tri. I have to disagree. Coming from the sisterhood, this is worse than the men who generalize.

 

Carrot

 

Wow. I guess you really didn't get what I was trying to say. I meant the beautiful women who turn into the meanies. Not ALL beautiful women, for gosh darn sake. Fortunately for you, you didn't let it affect you.

 

Has no one out there met or seen the women I speak of? Those who expect everything handed to them because they are gorgeous? Not all pretty women fall into this superficial hole. But, some do - and I call them meanies.

[kizik]

Of course I know what you mean. But I'm apparently not allowed to voice it, because I'm a man and therefore sexist if I say ANYthing about women, or select groups of women.

[burning 4 revenge]

Of course I know what you mean. But I'm apparently not allowed to voice it, because I'm a man and therefore sexist if I say ANYthing about women, or select groups of women.

Dont you know in the emerging America men are the servants and women are the masters?

 

If you were gay and talking about c*cksize theyd eat it up, but make any disparaging comment about a womans body and your some type of neanderthal

[pr-girl]

Of course I know what you mean. But I'm apparently not allowed to voice it, because I'm a man and therefore sexist if I say ANYthing about women, or select groups of women.

No worries, kizik. Just don't cater to women just because they are pretty on the outside. Now if they are physically pretty or not, but have inner beauty and treat you kindly, then treat them well. Outer beauty fades, but inner beauty usually sustaines. I would love for a man that I committed to to appreciate me for all of me. It's a dream of mine.

 

You can always have an opinion on LS. Some will attack you, but some may not. I don't let the attacks get to me, because usually I'm just misunderstood. Let it out and maybe, just maybe, you'll get some good advice.

[JustPassingThru]

 

Has no one out there met or seen the women I speak of? Those who expect everything handed to them because they are gorgeous? Not all pretty women fall into this superficial hole. But, some do - and I call them meanies.

 

Sounds like my last three girlfriends.

[LikeCharlotte]

Eek. This thread has gotten HOT. Being attracted to someone matters. Pretty girls have problems too. There are meanies of all shapes and sizes. Some people just suck! That sums up my opinion.

[Trialbyfire]

Nope. Not at all. I myself am an attractive woman. I apologize if I wasn't clear. I was speaking of the "type" of beautiful women who treat men badly; NOT that ALL beautiful women do. I, for one, am very kind, but always get hurt. Ha.

 

Read again what I typed. If some men that treat the b*tchy beautiful women like gold could change their ways, then those women would eventually have to learn to be kind in order to keep a man. Living in Vegas, I see this a lot. Do I make sense now? This is aimed at the meanies, Trialbyfire.

Okay, I do agree with what you're saying but I will also say that it's like everything else. If you act like a doormat with anyone, regardless if the person is beautiful or not, you're going to get it back in spades.

 

So that you understand where the misunderstanding happened, I've quoted the line that caused it.

If men stopped catering to every beautiful woman's needs, then they wouldn't be such meanies

[pr-girl]

Eek. This thread has gotten HOT. Being attracted to someone matters. Pretty girls have problems too. There are meanies of all shapes and sizes. Some people just suck! That sums up my opinion.

 

I couldn't agree more.

[pr-girl]

So that you understand where the misunderstanding happened, I've quoted the line that caused it.

 

Yes, I went back and saw how I was misunderstood. I guess I was thinking aloud. A hazard with online blogs, texts, emails, huh?

 

What I really meant was, "every beautiful woman who treats you badly and expects everything handed to her." But, I also agree with your comment as well. It's not just pretty women. They come in all shapes and sizes.

[burning 4 revenge]

I like the curves of the girl in my avatar

[iwish]

Yes, I went back and saw how I was misunderstood. I guess I was thinking aloud. A hazard with online blogs, texts, emails, huh?

 

What I really meant was, "every beautiful woman who treats you badly and expects everything handed to her." But, I also agree with your comment as well. It's not just pretty women. They come in all shapes and sizes.

 

Yeah but who's to say she treated me badly. It's like i forgive her for not wanting to be with me. I mean just because she didn't treat me good, doesn't make her a bad person. Does it? So she preffered weed over me, so she texted her ex about missing him, after waking up with me. So she lied to me about seeing certain guys. So she used me for sex and money. So she is now with another guy a week after our last bit of passion. So she believed a lie told by her ex about me ringing him and also believed in her own precious little mind that i followed her.

 

Is she bad or just mental? Or am i bad/mental for missing her?!

[carrotgirl]

I mean just because she didn't treat me good, doesn't make her a bad person. Does it? So she preffered weed over me, so she texted her ex about missing him, after waking up with me. So she lied to me about seeing certain guys. So she used me for sex and money.

Iwish? These are not helpful hints about a person's character. These are in your face flags. The drug love especially. I would hope the woman you love above all else loves you the same way right back.

 

TrialByFire has a way of putting things that makes it hard for me think differently and even though my guy doesn't choose drugs over me. He chooses isolation over me which is still not choosing ME.

 

Does treating you badly make your ex a bad person? Not necessarily. But her bad behavior is what it is ... BAD. Not acceptable. We all deserve not only the absence of bad. We deserve to be treated well!

 

Carrot

[pr-girl]

 

Does treating you badly make your ex a bad person? Not necessarily. But her bad behavior is what it is ... BAD. Not acceptable. We all deserve not only the absence of bad. We deserve to be treated well!

 

Carrot

 

I completely agree. It doesn't make her a bad person, but her actions are bad.

 

Iwish, why would you want to stay with someone that doesn't treat you well? Wouldn't you just rather be alone and do what YOU want? It sounds as though you may have low self-esteem and self-respect issues. That doesn't make you unworthy of receiving genuine love and adoration, but it certainly makes you a target for these kind of women.

 

Chin up! Realize you ARE good enough to receive love and affection. Once you begin loving yourself, the genuine love from others will follow. (I have to tell myself this every day.)

 

I was told a story by someone very wise years ago:

 

A jerk walks into a bar. There are 2 women at the bar: one standing and one sitting. The one standing has a smile on her face, she's joking with the bartender, she has a great posture, she takes care of herself physically, and she seems as though she has no care in the world. The other woman sitting down is not smiling, she is crying, her hair is falling over her face, she is hunched over the bar and is timid.

 

Who do you think the jerk walked over to?

 

Of course, the girl sitting down. Why? She was the easier target. He could walk up, ask her what's wrong and pretend to be her friend. She most likely would accept and eventually, fall into a bad relationship or maybe even just a night of fun (for him) - which then, in turn, makes her feel even worse. The woman standing was way too confident and intimidated the jerk because he knew she would've seen through his motives.

 

You see, if you send off the "take me, I'm yours" signals, you will attract the mean girls. Do what YOU want in your life, not what all the pretty girls want. If you meet a pretty girl that happens to be good to you, then, HECK, you've hit the jackpot, right?!?