jalexy Posted July 22, 2003 Share Posted July 22, 2003 Hello all, I am 21 and I have dated quite a few guys so far...some last long some don't. Anyways, I find myself letting things go that I shouldnt. My standards get lower and lower it seems. For example: I dated one guy who was really sweet, treated me like a queen, yet he was a felon. But did I leave him because he was a felon? No, but eventually it took its toll. and I did. The last guy I dated told me he used to be heavy into drugs, cheating and betraying. But he did not treat me badly and he has a future so I kept dating him, hoping things would be ok between us. I was wrong again, his past just couldn't stay away from my mind. How do I get myself to say bye to a guy politely once I hear that they have done something or are something that I could never agree with? Why do I just pass it by and say hey, maybe what he has done doesnt matter? It always bites me in the butt, I can never give myself the respect to accept the best for myself. anyone have this problem? I also make the stupid choice of not using protection sometimes because I trust the guy's word that he is clean, been tested etc. Even when i ask for him to get tested, he just says "i have been" and expect me to be ok with that. this is ALL my fault. These are my choices, i accept full responsiblity. BUt i need to change these, im being stupid, immature and reckless it seems.=( Link to post Share on other sites
Jamie31 Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 WEll, it's true that bad things happen to good people and some of these men may have just made mistakes in the past and are truly a different person...or maybe not. You just need to find out what they are really about and take some time to get to know them better. But there are plenty of guys out there who will treat you good AND have a clean record..you may just have to sacrifice a little in the looks dept. I mean, you can't get the whole package, we all know that. But if you look hard enough, you can get damn near close. And about not using protection - always do, please..unless you have the test results in your hand that says they are clean. Guys will tell you anything to get you in the sack. It's not like they would say "yeah, I have genital warts, now let's get busy!!" They will always say they are clean..but better safe than sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
abarabarea Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 goodness, jalexy, me too! if you find out the answer, let me know. I think it's because (augh! dont' want to admit it!) I'm rather desperate. oh well. i'm a loser Link to post Share on other sites
Baldy Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 Me too! I suppose the older I get the more panic sets in and I start to settle for people I would normally walk away from. I also (for personal reasons) moved to a new city and because I didn't know anyone I ended up single for 2 years, and the thought of being single for that amount of time again scares me! Take for instance my present situation. I am trying to reconcile a relationship with someone who lives over 100 miles away, is older then I would like, says she wouldn't move from her city, I would HAVE to move to her, has just written to me basically slating the way I look and dress (I have never had complaints before) and says that she still fancies another guy and needs to get him out of her system. The only part she does like is that I have the best personality she has ever come across, makes her laugh, treats her with respect, holds doors open for her etc and because of this she wants to see if we have a future???? WTF??? Now any normal person would have more self respect and walk, sorry run away as fast as they could. But I am actually thinking about trying again. Oh yeah, she has also finished with me twice... I might change my user name to 'sad desperate loser' Link to post Share on other sites
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