Assistance with space

[Petahs116]

i everyone, this is my first post so let me take this moment to say hello to everyone! Currently, I have an issue regarding my long distance relationship regarding me and my girlfriend of a year and a half. Alright, here's the run down:

 

My girlfriend has been at a place called job corps. Most of you probably know what that is. If so, you know that entails staying at the job corps center until your period of education is over. Okay, anyways. my girlfriend has been there since about February. Lately things aren't going well.

 

I keep trying to stress the fact communication is vital and important to our relationship. Due to lack of service, her cell phone rarely has service and she only calls from the center pay phone. She's seeming very odd lately. She doesn't really show any sign of love. Yeah, i know it's a bit difficult from a pay phone. Though, she wont call for days on end and tells me because "she doesn't feel like it". She used to write me all the time and we'd still have a steady form of positive communication. I just don't feel like a priority anymore. Anytime we talk, it's degrading and negative. All i'd like is some respect and some effort in return. I feel i'm doing all I can. I play the role of her care taker practically. I pay for anything and everything she needs since she can't work, bus tickets, phone cards, you name it. I feel like i'm giving so much, but being given so little in return. Anytime I ask her why doesn't she write me or do anything small like that she tells me " i'm not writing you little love notes, i'm not a little kid". She tells me I shouldn't need re-assurance, i know she loves me but after not being shown anything in so long it doesn't feel quite there. Am I at fault here? What can I do to open her eyes and be intimate towards my feelings? Someone please clarify and give me any beneficial response you can.

 

Edit*

We do see each other about every 3- 5 weekends. Usually a brief 2 days. Just so you all know we do see each other.

[kizik]

OMG, that sounds horrible. She's treating you like sh*t (in case you haven't noticed). It's always helpful to get some outside perspective, and here it is: she has probably fallen out of love with you.

 

If that's true, there's nothing you can do about it. Ugh. Do this now: stop calling her. Stop paying for her sh*t! If she has any interest in continuing this relationship (and it sounds like she doesn't), she will let you know she loves you, and she'll treat you better.

 

This thing sounds waaay over though, at least in her eyes.

I'm very sorry for what is happening. What YOU can do is to stop allowing yourself to be abused.

 

This girl sounds like such a bitch!

And NO it's NOT difficult to show love from a PAY PHONE. Look at her actions for what they are: RUDE, MEAN and INCONSIDERATE!!

[HisLove]

Yup, agree with Kizik.

 

Seeing she's not a "little kid", she needs to grow up and take care of herself financially.

 

I wouldn't care if she was my own child, let alone love partner, nobody gets a free ride. She sure is disrespectful to you when you are helping her out.

 

You are being taken for granted, shame on her. But now you're aware of it, shame on you if you let it continue.

[Petahs116]

Thanks for the quick response guys, I really do appreciate it. Do you think it's because of where she's located? She tells me she loves me, and tells me I shouldn't need to see or hear it to know, but it's a nice thing, you know? I went from seeing her everyday, every waking minute, to nothing. I'm sorry but I can't just cut off all interactions until it's convenient for her. She's not like this when she's home, nor was she prior to being there. I must admit, I consider myself very tolerant. Mostly because, I love her. Anytime I engage in this conversation with her all she says is "every thing's my fault, I know". It's a very frustrating thing. I plan to take the following actions in ignoring her until she comes to her senses and can respect me. Thank you for the replies so far <3.