guest Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 "The other thing is that i lied to my wife only to protect her feelings." How considerate. Gee, maybe we should get you a medal. You truly are a pathetic excuse for a human being. Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 "The other thing is that i lied to my wife only to protect her feelings." Just wanted to add this: you lied to her to protect your ass and then you made her feel like it was her fault you cheated. My God, what lies you must tell yourself just so you can look yourself in the mirror. I thought I was being a bit harsh calling you a pathetic excuse for a human being, but I'm not going to recant that. You're a lying, cheating scumbag and until you face up to what you've done and make things right you deserve to be alone, unhappy and miserable the rest of your life. You disgust me. Link to post Share on other sites
Been there Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Tell your wife and let her tell her husband. Both of you should leave your marriages and let your wife/husband get on with their life. You should be talking to your wife about the children issue kissing holding hands and if you feel you can't or don't want to then you ow it to her to tell her there is someone else you have already gone to far you don't have to have sex to have a affair. Link to post Share on other sites
Author platonic Posted November 13, 2003 Author Share Posted November 13, 2003 Wow - there is some tough love in this room. I am not trying to make excuses for myself. What I did was wrong. But if we were all honourable, there probably wouldn't be much to talk about on this site. So yes, I remain the other man in my lover's life. I sold my house this week, and my wife will be moving out in January. I will move out in February and that will be the end of it. I still love my "EX-wife, and in the end I came clean and told her just about everything that has happened. She knows that I still see my lover, and I am completely honest about it. My wife and I remain friends, despite all of the awful things I did. I read many of the above comments and would add that my wife for the last 10 years has said that she didn't think that she wanted children. Whenever I asked her, she wouldn't rule it out, but would say the time is not right. Well, when she hit 40 years of age, I had to act. I still don't think I left her for the other woman, but I don't think I could have left her without the other woman. As selfish as it is, it made it easier for me to do, but of course, it made it so much more unbearable for my wife. It is easy to call me a scum-bag etc., but my intention was never to hurt or harm. Yes, I knew my actions could result in that, and that is why I tried to keep it secret at first. At any rate, I expect more arrows to be shot at me for this, and that is fine. I deserve it, and am certainly not looking for any pity here. My lover remains with her husband for the time being, as he is seeking some counselling for his drinking. Recently, when she was away on business and he was to be watching the kids, he got smashed and passed out. The oldest child (6 years), woke up in the night and had a panic attack when she couldn't wake her father. He also slept till around noon, and didn't get the kids off to school that day. Interestingly, he came home from the counsellor, and stated that the trigger for his drinking was not getting enough sex, and the counsellor suggested that he get sex almost every night. Either this counsellor is F**Ked up, or he is lying. At any rate, she wants to exhaust all avenues before she breaks up the family, so we figure it is just a matter of time. We don't see each other, or email each other as much now, nor have we met to make love in almost a month. Yet, we are still very much in love with one another and spend most of our time together talking about music, literature and politics. As scummy as you people may think I am, and as tainted as some of you think our relationship is, there is a strange purity and honesty to it. We will be together one day, though it may be a matter of a few months, or a year or so. But I will wait for her. Link to post Share on other sites
GuitarScho Posted November 18, 2003 Share Posted November 18, 2003 Oh, platonic, buddy. Ever hear the term "you reap what you sow"? You strung out your wife, and you are now being strung out in return. Just for future reference - if the activity you wish to engage in means you will have to lie to your spouse/partner to engage in it - then, YES, IT IS WRONG. Words to live by in the future, I suppose. We're sorta closing the barn door after the horses have run away here. - GS Link to post Share on other sites
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