Found out a secret by mistake

[Walk]

I'm really starting to think that the OP is the woman on the side, and this other chick has been this guy's girlfriend for much longer.

You know it all already, don't you? The bf has been dating crazy girl for 4 years, and only dating littletoes for little less then 3.

[porter218]

chill out Walk. Vivrantflo is on point in this thread. If she has been with her man for 3 yrs then it is more then plenty time for all his Xs to get over him. This is a woman being strung along by him( the OW). I have been in the exact same situation as her and it turned out my bfs(now husband) mom was covering for him. His X came around acting just as crazy, only later did I find out that this is because he still would sleep with her every once in a while so it made it hard for her to ever get over him. His mother lied for him because she wanted me to stick around because I was better for him. I also later found out that his X would contact him though his mother so that I wouldn't know that they were still communicating. And eventually I did call her and she provided proof that she was still in contact with him and evidence that they had still been sleeping together up until the week before our wedding. So with the right approach calling the OW is helpful in knowing the whole story you are dealing with.

[vivrantflo]

Yeah, my hubby went to his crazy ex's house.

Just curious, did you get cheated on recently? Cause you seem really defensive about my post. Its almost as though you feel like you're the one who was wronged in all this, and you feel I need to be put in my place.

 

No, I haven't been cheated on, but two years ago I was the perpetrator.. And the actions that he is portraying, is one of someone thats not trustworthy at all.

 

My frustration with your post, stems from the position you're taking. That this guy can't possibly be so bad that he would pull something like that. And that his parents cant possibly cover for their son. All the evidence points to guilty, and turning a blind eye to his behaviour doesn't mean he's not guilty of two timing.

 

 

 

Depends..

Littletoes has been with her bf for nearly 3 years now (that's what she posted in a seperate thread). He's done some shady things, and Littletoes has side stepped confronting him about it in the past. Not that I blame her for that.. I think I would've reacted the same way.

 

She's been with him for 3 years, and he's been known to act shady. She has sidestepped confronting him about these actions.. so chances are, he feels he can get away with screwing his GF over by two timing, cause he's not getting confronted!

 

Everything that happens in darkness comes out in the light at one point. And what happend at his family function, was all of his shady and dirty laundry coming right out in the open.

 

It's from a thread she started a while ago. Along with how she freaked because she found a light colored hair and he said it was his mom's hair.

 

It's simply amazing how this guy has an answer for everything

 

 

 

Littletoes doesn't trust her bf, and because there is a lack of trust then the relationship is going to fail. That was all I was trying to say. Her bf probably is cheating, and littletoes has every reason not to trust him as far as she can throw him... but doesn't change the facts. She doesnt' trust him. She either needs to dump him and move on, or try to get this bf to fess up to reality so they can work on a better relationship.

 

Littletoes doesn't trust her BF, cause he's a lying piece of garbage.. and because she loves him and wants to hold on to the relationship, she's turning a blind eye to all of his crap. She knew the guy was shady throughout the relationship, and then this incident happens at her man's house...The guy is a player.. and all players get theirs at some point.

 

The tone of your response appeared to defend the BF more than re assuring that something is NOT right with the situation. I personally think she should call this other chick. She can gauge A LOT just by her reaction. Porter is right.. she just has to approach her properly.

[Shygirl15]

It really doesn't take a rocket scientist to know a) this guy is a cheater and a liar, and b) littletoes is in denial.

 

I'm suprised that some posts here are in favor of this guy or this relationship to continue. Littletoes, the sooner you gather your confidence and move away from this ass&ole, the better. You have wasted enough time already.

[Trialbyfire]

Walk, you might want to read this thread from littletoes:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t146732/

 

Here's the opening post:

 

I have online evidence is this cheating

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HI there. I just found out that my boyfriend of 2.5 years has been online all of this time chatting to women on dating sites and asking them out on dates. Please help me. I'm not sure how to appraoch him on this. I just found out today and I'm devastated. Also we have been having issues for the past few days. Has anyone out there exp the same if so please help.

[vivrantflo]

Thank you for that link Trialbyfire.. I've never read that thread before....

 

And after reading that.. there's really not much more to argue about here...

 

The chick that flipped out at the family gathering is either...

 

a) my first guess.. a long time GF before the original poster... or

 

b) a woman he met online that he had been dating sinceMarch.. since that original post was made in March. That woman was attached to this guy enough to ask "who this other girl is?" and to scratch him in the face.

 

He very well could have had the OP, this other woman, and maybe more on the go.. depending on how often he was utilizing the sites.. and how long he's had them.

 

This guy is filthy.

[Trialbyfire]

You're welcome vivrantflow. This guy has issues with monogamy. I'm uncertain why the OP continues to trust him in any way.

[nicki]

You will probably keep giving the benefit of the doubt until you have "proof" of what he is doing.

 

So, either follow him, or go to the Spy Store (if they have one there) and buy a voice activated recorder. Hide it in his car, under the seat. Or in his room behind the headboard. Get the proof you need to move on.

 

I would also get his mom to crack. Go to her in a quiet moment when you two won't be disturbed. Hug her or hold her hand and say "I know." Then close your mouth until she begins to speak. I would bet she will tell you everything. And you won't like it.

 

I agree with the other posters. He is up to no good. Women don't act like that without a guy giving them reason to. A true stalking situation would have played out differently. He would not have left to "calm her down." That's a big fat lie.

[I Luv the Chariot OH]

The information in your posts contradict each other:

 

I knew something was up because I couild see the guilt written on his moms face.

and then:

his mother reconized her and did look annopyed her actions were full of discust

 

U know what really hurt while they were talking b 4 going away she kepted asking him who I was so he told her that I was his neighbour

and then:

He told me that he told her that he's involved with me and he wanrs her to leave him alone and me he told her that he doesnt want her and has a girl friend and thats when she scratched him.

(Of course, in front of you, you're the "neightbour", but when you can't hear it and have no evidence other than his saying so, you're the "girlfriend"!)

 

It's pretty obvious to any objective observer that something is going on. And even if you don't want to admit, I think there's a part of you can see it too (otherwise you wouldn't have posted this in the cheating section). This guy is the scum of the earth. Please don't waste another minute on him.