meister Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 Ok, I'll try to make this as short as possible. My GF of 2 years recently broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. I got the whole "It's me not you" BS. One problem is that in December I am moving and she always expressed concerns about us after I move and I simply never told her that I always wanted to be with her until the night she broke it off. She said she just needed time to get things together and that it might make us stronger blah blah. We have been both real busy lately and any free time is either late at night with each other or out with me and my friends so she has lost touch with a lot of her good friends. Anyhow, She works with a good friend and right after the break up asked him how I was doing because she "cares about me" and we talked about once a week. Now, last weekend she invited me out to have some drinks with her and some mutual friends, everything went good and when another friend the next night (not knowing of the break up) asked her how we were doing she gladly stated "I asked him to hang out last night and he did" After getting my silly hopes up I asked her to lunch today and she happily came along, everything was "friendly" and I did not mention anything about how I want her back seeing as she knows this. Anyhow, the main question is, is she just staying in touch out of pity or is she truely hoping that being just friends for a while will help us? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 YOU ASK: "...is she just staying in touch out of pity or is she truely hoping that being just friends for a while will help us?" She's looking out for her own emotional butt. You are leaving in December, she's smart not to want to convert a relationship to long distance because those are pretty lame and unfulfilling, so she's letting herself down easy. I don't blame her. You should do the same. This is not going to be a happening thing in five more months. Some people just can't be all kissy kissy huggy huggy in a committment knowing it's curtains in five months. She's a sincere person, she cares for you, she likes being around you but she's way too smart to set herself up for major heartbreak in December. I think she's a pretty sharp cookie. It's too bad you have to move. Link to post Share on other sites
meister Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 Well, basically, it isn't set in stone whether or not I am moving, I am graduated college in Dec. and prior to meeting her, I of course planned to move away from the college town and get a job. She assumed that was how I was going to be too because I never told her that I would stick around town until she graduated, which I will since she'll graduate next may. So, when she did break it off I said that I didnt plan to leave her and didnt want to be without her., but I never really stated that I would stay in town until she graduated and then we would discuss where we went from there. So, seeing as we are broken up, should I tell her that if she does give us another chance how I planned things to be but never had told her. Because I feel that was the main problem when we were together because we lived day by day never really talking about what lyed down the road even though I am sure that we both wanted this to last forever except I messed up and didnt let her know. Link to post Share on other sites
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