Shygirl15 Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 Guys, I was trying to post my views on this on another website but apparently I was not able to, so decided to bring this topic here. For those who have come across internet dating, it happens just so very often that people lie about their physical features. It looks like women tend to under-estimate their weight while the guys over-estimate their heights. I am a woman (5'7") who went out on 4 dates from online dating; out of which 3 over-estimated their heights. See, bad news is that the minute I notice this, I become soo turned off such that everything else that happens afterwards becomes a blurr. And I'm not turned off because they're shorter than what they claimed to be, but it's the fact that they obviously lack confidence with themselves. I believe I will be speaking for most women if I say, confidence is one of the major attractions women seek in men. Confidence is everything; with all my searching for a taller guy, I ended up dating a person who is not very attractive, and is shorter than me (about 5'6"), but I was really attracted to the way he carries himself with confidence and his great personality. any views, experiences to share will be welcomed, thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 I believe I will be speaking for most women if I say, confidence is one of the major attractions women seek in men. but I was really attracted to the way he carries himself Agree and Agree! I do understand why guys might lie about their height. We want people to give us a chance. I am not such a harsh critic on this. But it is probably better just to be honest the first go around. Link to post Share on other sites
Scottdmw Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 Are you _sure_ they're lying and you're not mistaken about your own height? I'm a 5'8" guy and I can't tell you how many supposedly 5'7" or 5'8" women I've met that were taller than me. It got to the point that I went and carefully measured my height to make sure I had it right, and then decided I better restrict myself to women that say 5'6" or shorter. I think the problem is all men round their height up at least to the nearest inch if not one more, and all women round their height _down_ to the nearest inch or maybe one more. Then there may be the people that out and out lie too, of course. Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 Are you _sure_ they're lying and you're not mistaken about your own height? I'm a 5'8" guy and I can't tell you how many supposedly 5'7" or 5'8" women I've met that were taller than me. It got to the point that I went and carefully measured my height to make sure I had it right, and then decided I better restrict myself to women that say 5'6" or shorter. I think the problem is all men round their height up at least to the nearest inch if not one more, and all women round their height _down_ to the nearest inch or maybe one more. Then there may be the people that out and out lie too, of course. and remember that men tend to stay the height they are - females change height depending on what footwear they're in that day LOL although you may be right - I'm 5'9 1/2 and I tend to say I'm 5'9 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shygirl15 Posted June 14, 2008 Author Share Posted June 14, 2008 I think the problem is all men round their height up at least to the nearest inch if not one more, and all women round their height _down_ to the nearest inch or maybe one more.quote] Not the ones I met. These wonderful gentlemen actually rounded their heights up to the nearest three if not four inches. My advice to the guys is that, if you really want ladies to give you a chance, be honest about yourself, you'll come off cool as hell, the way my short guy did. I'm getting all worked up trying to impress this little gentleman, like who would have expected this? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 Men lie about their height and women lie about their weight.. so it's kif-kif.. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 When I read a profile on a dating site, I look at their height and immediately shave off two inches.... I know from experience that height is an issue with men and that they will tend to round up a tad. I have met quite a few guys that have lied about their height and other things. I once went out with a guy that posted he was 27.... I met him for dinner and he couldn't have been more than 20!! His mom kept calling and asking when he was bringing the mini-van home. He told me he was 22 (I am 38)... but I think he was younger. His picture was taken from far away- so it was difficult to tell. People lie... I put everything out there myself. 38, 5'7"... 120lbs. Take me or leave me. What's the point in lying if you are going to meet someone?????? Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 Are you _sure_ they're lying and you're not mistaken about your own height? I'm a 5'8" guy and I can't tell you how many supposedly 5'7" or 5'8" women I've met that were taller than me. It got to the point that I went and carefully measured my height to make sure I had it right, and then decided I better restrict myself to women that say 5'6" or shorter. I think the problem is all men round their height up at least to the nearest inch if not one more, and all women round their height _down_ to the nearest inch or maybe one more. Then there may be the people that out and out lie too, of course. these women probably are 5'7" or 5'8". You have to remember women measure their height without heels on, but usually wear heels on a date...that adds 1-3 inches Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 People lie... I put everything out there myself. 38, 5'7"... 120lbs. Take me or leave me. What's the point in lying if you are going to meet someone?????? When I dated that dude who said he was 35 but was clearly much older, you explained that you also lie about your age... ??? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1567595&postcount=37 I hate to call you out, D. But... Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 Well some sites won't let you put in the correct height, I kid you not. I've even contacted customer support to reproduce the problem. 3 months later still nada! So I had technically was 1 inch shorter one month and 1 inch taller another! :lmao: That site has since fixed the problem. Still I dislike it when they lie, I can understand a woman being half inch taller/shorter or weight is off by say 10-20 lbs from PMSing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shygirl15 Posted June 14, 2008 Author Share Posted June 14, 2008 Thank you D, that's exactly what I'm struggling to find out. It really doesn't make any sense. I guess from now on I will shave 2-3 inches from what's listed on the profile. I met someone (who had a passport-size photo on the profile), claiming that he's "athletic and toned", while infact in real life, he was skinny on thin or slender!And another who claimed he was 39yrs in profile and shot up to 42yrs in in just a few hours after meeting me! I mean, these things are such a turn off really. I currently chat with this guy on the phone, haven't met him yet, he claims to be 42yrs, but seriously, he sounds like my grandfather, somewhere around 60. I have no desire to meet him at all. I have put it out there too, and correctly: 31, 5'7"... well I don't mention my weight in profiles, but uhmm, well.. 165lbs:) Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 When I read a profile on a dating site, I look at their height and immediately shave off two inches.... I know from experience that height is an issue with men and that they will tend to round up a tad. I have met quite a few guys that have lied about their height and other things. I once went out with a guy that posted he was 27.... I met him for dinner and he couldn't have been more than 20!! His mom kept calling and asking when he was bringing the mini-van home. He told me he was 22 (I am 38)... but I think he was younger. His picture was taken from far away- so it was difficult to tell. People lie... I put everything out there myself. 38, 5'7"... 120lbs. Take me or leave me. What's the point in lying if you are going to meet someone?????? Well, I am sure you don't lie but I doubt you come out there on the first date and tell everything good and bad about you. It's easier to hide the emotionally bad stuff then the stuff you think is physically bad. And people want to be given a chance. I do understand it but I also do agree that you shouldn't lie anyway. I would say I am much more tolerant of a man lying about an inch of height though then a man lying about his age. I guess age is a more important factor for me. By the way, if that is you in your avatar and your 38, I would have never guessed! You're very pretty. Link to post Share on other sites
crosswordfiend Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I would suspect guys lie about their height for the same reason that women don't post a picture that resembles what they look like in real life... Link to post Share on other sites
Karyyk Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 Well, I've never necessarily lied about my height, but I do round-up (I'm 5' 10 & 3/4", so I usually just say 5' 11"). Works for me. Now, I do remember one time when my ex was trying to tell me that I was 5' 8", so I literally went and checked it right then (although it's important to note that she always said she was 5' 7", but she had to be closer to 5' 9" than that...some women fudge on it in the opposite direction). For some guys it is a point of self-consciousness. I'd never really experienced it until she said that, and apparently I made quite a fuss about it (similar to her reaction to saying she was taller than she admitted to). There just seems to be a negative connotation to being "short," and even if you're not (I don't consider myself to be), if someone says it, there's going to be some kind of reaction. Why that reaction has to be lying about something so obvious seems kind of stupid to me. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 Most men lie about thier height for the same reason women lie about their weight or age Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shygirl15 Posted June 19, 2008 Author Share Posted June 19, 2008 Well, had another new 'online' date yesterday. We were supposed to meet up for lunch. Profile claimed to be 5'11" and 34yrs. Thanks to a previous poster, I removed 3 good inches from his profile height, and added 6 years on his age. So when he showed up with all of his 5'7", 40ish-looking body, I wasn't too dissapointed, because exactly what I expected, happened. Had a good lunch, good conversation, and made a point to myself not to contact him again. Link to post Share on other sites
Adamagnet Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 What are the rounding rules in this online dating game? I'm 6' 4.5" tall, so can I claim 6'5"? Would I even want to? Also, is it wrong to lie about your age by a few months? I hate giving out my real birthday to any database that can be compromised. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytie TV Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 When I dated that dude who said he was 35 but was clearly much older, you explained that you also lie about your age... ??? I hate to call you out, D. But... No you don't. You love calling people out. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 I went out with a guy once that was all about telling me how active he was and he was looking for a girl to keep up. At this point I was a little concerned because while I am active and exercise regularly, I was thinking this guy was die-hard. I come to meet him and he is about 20 pounds over-weight and tells me how he needs to exercise. He even almost got a cookie at the Starbucks we went to. Okay dude, whatever. The even funnier part is that at the end of the date he thought we would be better friends and he said it in such a way that he seemed to think I would be heart broken. I played it up and was like "oh okay I understand", but in my head I was like "you are kidding me, you couldn't pay me to see you again sweetie". On the plus side, there was a really hot guy in the cafe that I got to make calf eyes at while we had our coffee. Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 When I read a profile on a dating site, I look at their height and immediately shave off two inches.... I know from experience that height is an issue with men and that they will tend to round up a tad. So... if I've listed my actual height of 5' 11" and age of 40 in pretty good shape...recent pix and all. So it'll be assumed I'm actually closer to 5' 8" and 45 with a bag of wet corn flakes in the gut? funny... so if most women are now making these assumptions and have a strong preference for men of a certain height I'll almost have to lie to get responses??? lol.. how strange the world gets sometimes. I'm honest in my profile... sometimes I think that's why my response rate is low. I think the girls must think I'm BS... maybe too good to be true? Then again I haven't really been trying too hard at all. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 I'm 5'6" and have put 5'7" on dating sites. It's not out of self-consciousness but in an effort to up my numbers. I've noticed that a lot of women have their lower bound set at 5'6" or 5'7" so if I put 5'7" then it increases the number of searches I show up in. Men lie about their height and women lie about their weight.. so it's kif-kif.. Agreed. Too many 200+ lb-ers put "Curvy" as their body type. I also learned through experience to never meet up with a woman who didn't put a full body shot up. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 Actually, I lie too ! I am really only 5 ft tall, 100 lbs, but thats sounds SO small, like medical midget territory, and I'm not one of those bird boned chicks, I have very nice curves for my size, and most people think I'm at least 5'2, so...... Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 Actually, I lie too ! I am really only 5 ft tall, 100 lbs, but thats sounds SO small, like medical midget territory, and I'm not one of those bird boned chicks, I have very nice curves for my size, and most people think I'm at least 5'2, so...... I would never want to be with someone who lies to me... Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 I'm 5'6" and have put 5'7" on dating sites. It's not out of self-consciousness but in an effort to up my numbers. I've noticed that a lot of women have their lower bound set at 5'6" or 5'7" so if I put 5'7" then it increases the number of searches I show up in. Agreed. Too many 200+ lb-ers put "Curvy" as their body type. I also learned through experience to never meet up with a woman who didn't put a full body shot up. 5'6" is perfect....5'7" too tall for me Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 5'6" is perfect....5'7" too tall for me How tall are you? Link to post Share on other sites
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