Tadao Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 Well it happened and there's nothing I can do about it. So maybe I just need to write, because if it stays in my head that ain't too good.. Does anyone have any stories about letting that one you knew was totally right get away? I'm not talking about ex's.. I mean, coworkers, classmates, not just one time encounters. People you spent a good amount of time, but limited time, and that the time would come to an end. So you end it on a hug or a goodbye, but let your doubts keep you from extending contact. Has anyone ever had this happen and somehow ran into them again?? Anyone ever have an unusually rare good experience, like you saw them at a gas station years later and had your chance to say something, and found out your intuitions were right? Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 Hasn't happened to me yet (about the reuiniting part), but I think it'd be cool if it does, especially with the girls whom I've had been friends with in the past. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBlaze Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 Had one that I should've asked out numerous times. By the time I had the guts to do it, she already had a guy (and a baby with said guy was on the way). I haven't seen her since, despite my trying to track her down. Had one I was engaged to, but things happened. I did see her again a few years later, and in retrospect, it was a good thing we split up (at least, from my perspective). Link to post Share on other sites
uncle mike Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 ^^ Man that has to hurt Link to post Share on other sites
Mahatma Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 Only once has one of my relationships been broken because of some event in one of our lives. She had to move because of a job. We had been dating for a while and really connected better than I've personally ever connected with someone before. She moved back this last summer and I was so excited to hear the news when she called me. We met up for some food and the excitement was quickly slaughtered. She had completely changed. Had I never met her again though, I would have always wondered what could have been. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBlaze Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 ^^ Man that has to hurt The first one hurts because I am certain I could've been with her. I talked to her mother a few months ago, and she openly admitted that she always expected that one day I'd be her son-in-law. The girl played her cards close to her chest, but if she liked you, she'd flash this shy smile that could melt Polar Caps. If she didn't, you got this borderline-fake smile. I constantly got that shy smile. Unfortunately, I was young, and didn't clue in until it was too late; at the time, I thought EVERYBODY got that smile! She was the sweetest girl a guy could ever meet. That's what I get for being shy and naive, I guess. She's the one girl I've ever met that, if she came out of the woodwork after all these years and asked me out, I'd say yes without question. When you can feel your heart pounding as you type about a girl you haven't seen in over a decade, you know she truly was "the one that got away". In another post on this board, there is enough info that if she happens to read this, she'll know it's her and who to contact. For the rest of you, it'll provide some background on how close I was, but just couldn't capitalize. Or at least a "thank heaven I'm not as naive as him" laugh. I aim to please. The second one hurt a helluva lot more at the time (as we were engaged and she dumped me for a guy she had met when she was out at a club...WITH ME), but after I saw her a few years and what she had (and hadn't) done with her life, all hurt of losing her vanished. She had a few raw deals and was more than willing to complain about them, but refused to do anything to resolve them. Not only that, but from the moment she initiated contact with me (after the breakup), I got the distinct impression she wanted a baby's daddy - the kid was the child of the guy she left me for and who she had since left. The kid was great, but the mother had become so lifeless, I couldn't do it. I wasn't going to be the white knight who rescued her and restored her to her former glory. I was the nice guy first time around and I got screwed for it (in the bad way). I wasn't going down that road twice. Link to post Share on other sites
MarriedLes Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Absolutely, it was five years ago. She is part of the reason that today I know I am gay. I kept wondering why on earth I could NOT stop thinking about her. It was the stuff you read about. We met at work, and it was the most natural relationship I have ever had. We flirted insanely until one day she kissed me. I have NEVER and i mean NEVER felt like that before. The room went completely silent(we were in a noisy bar), and my legs felt like jello. I could not believe someone made me feel ike that JUST from a kiss( i would hear people say stuff like that and think they were full of it). I called her name in bed by accident, couldn't sleep at night because I was thinking about her so much, she was very special to me. We were involved with other people at the time, so we went our separate ways. I wil ALWAYS regret not telling her how I really felt. I found her on myspace 5 years later (2 months ago), and am way to chicken to write to her. Five years later, she is going to think I am some crazy stalker. Link to post Share on other sites
americanrevgirl Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 Had one that I should've asked out numerous times. By the time I had the guts to do it, she already had a guy (and a baby with said guy was on the way). I haven't seen her since, despite my trying to track her down. I bet this happens a lot, lol. I wonder if she knew you liked her, and wanted to be with her! Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBlaze Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 I'm sure she did. As I've discovered over the years, anything a guy clues into, the girl clued in to 5 years earlier. I'm sure she dropped 300 clues to that effect, but as I just mentioned, us guys aren't exactly the sharpest knives in the drawer. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 While I have some nice/sweet and not-so-nice memories of exes, I have no regrets for moving on from any of them. Living in the past does and can hurt your chances for future relationships, in that if you hold someone in your heart, there isn't much room for anyone else to enter it. Link to post Share on other sites
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