I was doing so good too... until now :(

[EMBeee]

Well, it's now been 2 full days and nights that I haven't heard from my LD bf. I was doing so good until just now. I wasn't worrying or anything like that was actually enjoying some quiet time. But now I really miss him ALOT! I tried calling him the last 2 nights at my regular time (he knows what time I am to call him) and there was no answer nor did he ever call me back. I have to call his home phone because his cellphone is cut off for the moment. Usually his mom answers and then she'll let him know I called, but she didn't answer either. I guess I am just really missing him right now. Just feeling really down because I haven't heard from him. I guess I'll just be waiting by the phone. I am not going to attempt to call him this time. He should know by now that I have been trying to call him. It's really hard to not dial his number because I really really miss him right now. But when I don't hear from him for long periods of time, I feel that my day is ruined and then I ruin everyone else's day as well. I am supposed to be going out with my friend tomorrow night and i have been so excited about it for the whole week... but now I feel like I don't even want to go because I'll just make her night a downer since I won't be much fun and I'll be down myself.

 

This is the very first time we've ever went 2 nights (3 tonight if I don't hear from him) without any type of contact. I feel like downing a bottle of tequila all to myself. I just feel so worthless and unimportant.

 

Thanks for listening anyways

[summer101]

Hey girl. I know it's easy to get in an instant "sad" or "bad" mood if you haven't heard from your bf in a while. I definitely used to get that way sometimes too. But, I hardly ever call my bf as I like to leave it up to him to do the chasing...Hah. Trust me, it works.

By allowing your mood to change because of a lack of contact from him, you are giving him way too much control. Get out of the house, go work out, get your nails done, do something for YOU. He's obviously taking some time for himself and doesn't have time for you sometimes, so by all means, take the opportunity to spend time with friends, do YOUR own thing, etc. It will feel so much better if, when he calls, you are out doing something instead of sulking at home thinking of the next time he's going to call. Then, he will also know that you independent and ok without him all the time. Men find that attractive! Hang in there!

[konfuzd]

Wow, I find it pretty sad that your whole perspective of happiness revolves around this guy. You need to get a life on your own. So what if you don't talk to him for a couple days? Is that something that's really worth stressing about, and getting all down for?

 

I really don't think co-dependancy is a healthy or particularily attractive attribute. Why don't you go out with your friend and have a good night, so you have something to talk about instead of telling this guy that you sat around and sulked since the last time you talked to him.

[EMBeee]

Everybody here is right! Thanks soooo much for your replies! I have sat and thought about this one and life is just too short to wait around in misery by the phone to see if I'm important enough for someone to call me! I have realized I am better than that... I have endured enough in an abusive relationship in the past and right now all I need to do is focus on myself and quit living for someone else. If I am important enough to him, then he will call me... if he really loves me like he says he does, then all I gotta do is trust his word.

 

So I will do just that, I will go out with my girlfriends and have a blast... no man is worth my tears... and the one that is won't make me cry!

[TMichaels]

Everybody here is right! Thanks soooo much for your replies! I have sat and thought about this one and life is just too short to wait around in misery by the phone to see if I'm important enough for someone to call me! I have realized I am better than that... I have endured enough in an abusive relationship in the past and right now all I need to do is focus on myself and quit living for someone else. If I am important enough to him, then he will call me... if he really loves me like he says he does, then all I gotta do is trust his word.

 

So I will do just that, I will go out with my girlfriends and have a blast... no man is worth my tears... and the one that is won't make me cry!

 

Good for you, EMBee!

 

Enjoy your time out with the girls and don't forget, "what's for you won't pass you."

 

All the best,

TMichaels

[D-Lish]

Please go out with your friend tomorrow night!

Staying in and lamenting over this will only make you more upset.

It's important to pick yourself up and go out when you feel bad.

 

I have made the mistake of caving when I am upset - but it never makes me feel better.

 

Go out, have a good time! Sounds like you could use the distraction.

[mattea]

Hey EMBeee,

 

Thanks for replying to my other post. It does sound like we go through similar struggles!

 

I just wanted to say good for you for picking yourself up! Go out and have a good time I was really busy up until my finals were over, and now I'm off school for the summer. BUT I'm making lots of social plans now that I have free time. Good to stay close with your friends and stay busy.

 

I agree with what's been said by a few people on here - I don't think my guy makes himself crazy or worries if I don't call him back right away - I think he just goes about his life and is happy to hear from me when I call him the next day. I don't think it much occurs to him that my feelings have suddenly changed or I've found someone else. So why do we do that to ourselves?? Oh, long distance is hard!

 

Anyway, I hope you get to talk to your guy soon, but I also hope in the meantime you do things that bring you joy and enjoy your life