uncle mike Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 Hi! I'm new 'round these parts and I have an all too common problem and lotsa questions.. 1) OK, heres my problem, I can start conversations with girls but I don't know how to keep 'em goin' any advice? 2) How can I reignite friendships with girls I used to know, and now see often(Almost on a daily basis)? 3) Is there any way I can incorperate what I wrote down there into my conversation? By the way a quick bio: +I can cook +I love art +I love to talk, but I'm kinda quiet (Yeah go figure huh? ) +I ain't exactly the tallest guy in town, but I do work out... And believe me, whats heavy for me isn't heavy for you:laugh: +My favorite types of music aren't really heard of, but I am open to all genres! +I have an ok job +I'm learning how to drive +I like cats and dogs. +I paint +I weld +I do graphic design +I Like roller skating, but I suck horribly:cool: +I don't really look at myself as a great person. I joke about myself +I do photography More questions later! And thanks for at least reading Link to post Share on other sites
Myst Posted June 14, 2008 Share Posted June 14, 2008 Hi! I'm new 'round these parts and I have an all too common problem and lotsa questions.. 1) OK, heres my problem, I can start conversations with girls but I don't know how to keep 'em goin' any advice? 2) How can I reignite friendships with girls I used to know, and now see often(Almost on a daily basis)? 3) Is there any way I can incorperate what I wrote down there into my conversation? By the way a quick bio: +I can cook +I love art +I love to talk, but I'm kinda quiet (Yeah go figure huh? ) +I ain't exactly the tallest guy in town, but I do work out... And believe me, whats heavy for me isn't heavy for you:laugh: +My favorite types of music aren't really heard of, but I am open to all genres! +I have an ok job +I'm learning how to drive +I like cats and dogs. +I paint +I weld +I do graphic design +I Like roller skating, but I suck horribly:cool: +I don't really look at myself as a great person. I joke about myself +I do photography More questions later! And thanks for at least reading For 1 and 3 For both, once you start the conversation with the girl, just ask about what music they're in to, their family, hobbies. Maybe compliment them on what they're wearing, what their jobs are. You can easily incorporate your bio if you happen to have the same things in common with them or if its totally different, just go "Oh that music you listen to sounds interesting, i listen to <your fav music here>..." For 2 If you're a bit shy, I guess you can add them on Facebook if you havent done so as its more casual. You can post messages on their wall and maybe eventually ask them out that way for a casual drink, who knows where it might lead. Although you can do what i said for 1 and 3. It would work for that. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 the artsy type huh? well most artists are usually shy, contemplative, moody individuals Being the artsy type gives you many advantages, girls love to see what type of art you do (as it reflects more of the emotional, creative, and "true" side of your personality) and feel that you're ability to see the world more maturely is quite appealing. Also, girls like to have themselves be subjects of art as it makes them feel more important and attractive (that the artist views the girl as a work of beauty/mystique/blah blah blah), so they like that idea of an artist drawing/painting them. You say you don't have a problem starting conversations, yet its hard for you to keep them going? the goal is to ask the questions that'll keep them talking, yet also asking questions that'll keep you talking as well. Focus on open-ended questions, "what do you like to do" "why do you like to do that" "what type of music are you into" "Have you ever heard of this type of music?" " Where are you from? or what school do you go to?" "What type of job do you have?" "Do you enjoy it?" The other key to keep a conversation going is to listen for branching off points. A girl that is genuinely interested or involved in a conversation will drop off little branching points for you to go off on. When you ask her for what music she likes, she may list off a couple of bands that are relatively well known or not, if she does, this is where you ask why she likes them, or if you know them, you can agree or disagree and list your reasons why. From there, you can say, well if you like that music, you'll love (enter genre/band) because. . . and now you have a conversation going in which both sides are involved. Being a good conversationalist is knowing and listening for the branching points of dialogue as well as having an arsenal of questions to help keep the conversation going. This takes practice as well as meeting the right people (not everyone can be friendly and talkative to everyone else) to do this with. Also remember to not dominate a conversation, then its all about one side listening and be bored by the other (think of a boring lecture). oh and don't be too self-degrading about yourself, a girl likes talking to people with some air of confidence in themselves. . . not a self-loathing joker. Heres some questions/conversation starters based off your personal interests: 1. What type of foods do you like? and can you cook? (good to ask in a restaurant/eatery location) 2. Have you ever been to (local museum)? I really love the art there I hope to be as good as one of those artists, I know I suck but hey at least I'm trying. 3. I love animals. Especially cats and dogs, they're so playful and fun! (best used if you see a dog pass by) Link to post Share on other sites
shanny Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 You seem like a great guy... no need to be shy! You have a lot of great conversations to have based on your interests. As an animal lover myself I am always interest in talking about animals with someone. One thing I wanted to comment on though is the fact that you say that you joke about yourself a lot... be careful with that. If you do it too often you can portay yourself as having little confidence and low self esteem. To a lot of girls, confidence is very important (myself included). I'm not saying to stop doing it completely because it's always good when a person doesn't taken themselves super seriously, but just be careful. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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