jalexy Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 i was wondering...could it be a really bad thing that i go from guy to guy to guy? i really get into my relationships and give my all and when they dont work out, i get sad and so on and then maybe a week later, sometimes longer, im out on another new date. i do this for two reasons: it really helps for me to not feel so sad and depressed about the break up and 2) i just keep thinking that one day, this dating will end and i will meet the one But this time around, i find myself wanting another guy because this break up i had just hurts soooo bad. help! Link to post Share on other sites
Jamie31 Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 Jalexy - I don't think there is anything wrong with what you are doing. I mean, that's what dating is all about, right? It's ok..It might take you dating 20, 30, 40....even 100 guys before you find the right one. And there is nothing wrong with that. When you find the right one, you will know it. It will just hit you like lightning and you will realize that this is "the one". And ya know, it might happen when you least expect it. That's how it happened with me. I wasn't even looking to date anyone when I met my husband. Just give it some time, date as many as you like, or take some time away from men and hang out with your friends. It'll happen for ya, don't worry. Link to post Share on other sites
Gray Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 Originally posted by Nurse_Jamie It might take you dating 20, 30, 40....even 100 guys Holy cow! I don't even know 100 people. Link to post Share on other sites
Jamie31 Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 Figure of speech, Gray.....but yes, it is possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Gray Posted July 23, 2003 Share Posted July 23, 2003 Oooooh I thought you were being serious. Seriously... is there any humor in this forum or what? Link to post Share on other sites
Sunflower Posted July 24, 2003 Share Posted July 24, 2003 Hi Jalexy, I don't think there is anything wrong with dating from guy to guy. But I think you gotta watch out and make sure your next relationship isn't just a rebound from the other one cuz that clouds your thinking and the way you see the person too. And that's not fair to everyone involved. But I do hope you find your one and only. Link to post Share on other sites
Paul Posted July 25, 2003 Board of Directors Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hi jalexy, Originally posted by jalexy i do this for two reasons: it really helps for me to not feel so sad and depressed about the break up Are these really bad feelings? Where do you make time for self-reflection? When do you cope? This sounds like a rather avoidant routine you've gotten yourself into to try and stay away from unhappy thoughts. It's very unhealthy. The period after a breakup is a great time to spend thinking about what aspects of the relationship didn't work for you and what did--to help better define the criteria that make up a good match for you. and 2) i just keep thinking that one day, this dating will end and i will meet the one But this time around, i find myself wanting another guy because this break up i had just hurts soooo bad. help! It's not like boyfriend number 58 is going to step up to bat and be the one for you. Time alone is a great thing. You need more of it. Don't be afraid to explore sad feelings. Best wishes, Paul Link to post Share on other sites
longlegzs80 Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 I don't think your doing anything wrong. That is how you deal with your break ups. And maybe it could be more. Maybe you don't want to be alone. Some people have this problem where they don't want to be alone and figure they would just go from guy to guy to fill in the need of having someone there. I really don't know. All I can say is I am jelous that you can get a guy just like that. I wish I could. Anywho, there is nothing wrong. Just think that your trying to fill in a void. Link to post Share on other sites
skotup Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 its cos ur on the rebound. What ever mistakes u keep making to break up these relationships you havnt realised yet. You need to spend some time single in order to get over the relationship and realise what the mistake(s) is/are. Then If you have done this your next relationship will be alot better for it. Link to post Share on other sites
jalexy Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 actually, its not that. i realize for one reason or another, this guy isnt right for me. i spent two years of my life in a relationship that ended last january, i know exactly what went wrong and what to not do again. same with the last 2 guys i have dated. im not just out there having sex, twirling my hair and so on. i know what i want, and im not going to stop till i get it. but of course, i shouldnt look for it. thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
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