ahah2322 Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 ok, SB. sorry, A, for being a little out-of-line. i hope everything works out eventually for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 *Takes a deep breath, stretches, and applauds firmly* Haha Yeah, it's kind of bizzarre. And I haven't seen that movie. I'll check it out. Link to post Share on other sites
bootylicious Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 While I'm more than happy to provide NPD links, the diagnosis wasn't mine. It was previously mentioned within this thread by one of his ex-g/fs and with another member, off-thread. Just wanted to clear that up. Oh..My apologies. Thanks for clearing that up TBF. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 Furthermore, how can he respect you, if you fail to respect yourself? Your actions are not romantic, they are undignified. It is one thing to hope he will recognize you, maybe alert him to your feelings..but let it go! What am I supposed to do if I just love that guy and I just don't care about any other guys? It's kind of what it is. I think this is respecting myself, not respecting myself would be to ignore my own feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
bootylicious Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 What am I supposed to do if I just love that guy and I just don't care about any other guys? It's kind of what it is. I think this is respecting myself, not respecting myself would be to ignore my own feelings. You need to realise that this DG does NOT care about you. If he did, then he would not be using you in this manner. You are shutting yourself off from other guys who could be a much better match than DG and treat you with the love and respect that you deserve. You are not respecting yourself Ariadne because you are wasting your love on a man who is not in any way worthy of it. He is not returning your love and he is not respecting you. You are letting him use you and no one deserves to be used in this manner. You have a lot of love to offer..please give that love to someone who will give it back. DG will never love and respect you in the way that you want him to. Why ruin your life in this way? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 She has been asking her son for explicit directions on how to deal with life and lovers since the kid has been 14 (and this is just what I read on this forum). Ugh? Where did you get that? But I'm very close to my son, he knows all that is going on in my life, and we spend lost of time together. After all, he is my only son and the person I live with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 I wish you could see that this man cares about no one but himself. He is selfish, arrogant and in love with himself. This man is not capable of loving anyone else because it is not in his nature to. He is using you to feed his ego because his now ex GF. And where did you get these amazing conclusions from? From visiting his blog and seeing that he has a bunch of pictures there? He far from being selfish or arrogant or any of those things. He is loving and caring. Don't make assumptions on someone because you see a photo. Or listened to a bitter ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 You only need to look at the guys website to work out that the above statement fits him to a T. That's just crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 sorry, A, for being a little out-of-line. i hope everything works out eventually for you. Oh please. Don't worry about it, it wasn't even bad. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 Man I swear, Ariadne. I don't get what you see in this Frankenstein look-alike. He smells good too. And his skin is so soft. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 You need to realise that this DG does NOT care about you. If he did, then he would not be using you in this manner. You are shutting yourself off from other guys who could be a much better match than DG and treat you with the love and respect that you deserve. No, Denver guy is not "using" me in any way. That's another conclusion you got from a couple short innofensive emails, in where he just tells me what he did in the past months. Emails that I waited two years for and was so happy to receive. Link to post Share on other sites
bootylicious Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 And where did you get these amazing conclusions from? From visiting his blog and seeing that he has a bunch of pictures there? He far from being selfish or arrogant or any of those things. He is loving and caring. Don't make assumptions on someone because you see a photo. Or listened to a bitter ex. I am basing this also on what you have been saying. The fact that he emailed you AFTER his ex split up with him shows that he only needs you to feed his ego. If he did care about you, he could've easily got in contact with you if he wanted to be with you that badly. He didn't initiate contact..YOU did. In his emails he only talks about work and the weather. How romantic. The moment you moved away from that and practically admitted that you stalked him, he stops emailing you. Why do you think that is? I'm just sorry that you fail to see what the rest of us can see. I am at a loss for words now and I feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall. I am starting to get frustrated because you are not acknowledging the advice we are offering. A lot of people have responded to this thread because we want what is best for you Ariadne. Please remember that. You need to step outside of the fantasy land you are living in. I honestly don't understand what you see in him. :sick: Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 I think this is respecting myself, not respecting myself would be to ignore my own feelings. "I would be his servant if he let me" is SO not respecting yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
bootylicious Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 "I would be his servant if he let me" is SO not respecting yourself. I agree 100% with this statement. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 And where did you get these amazing conclusions from? From visiting his blog and seeing that he has a bunch of pictures there? He far from being selfish or arrogant or any of those things. He is loving and caring. Don't make assumptions on someone because you see a photo. Or listened to a bitter ex. A photo? The guy has practically his ENTIRE life in pictures on that website. All of them are . esp the pictures of him bodybuilding- one of the most narcissistic activities there is. Assumptions about him? Or assumptions about you? I have seen both of you today. And note that I am only criticising him. His ex didn't sound all that bitter to be perfectly honest, and there was MORE than one of them saying the same thing about it. That's just crazy. Uh, OK. So now I'm crazy for pointing out that he is obsessed with himself. The only reason you LOVE that website is because it provides you with more than enough fodder to feed your obsession too. Two people are obsessed with DenverGuy. You, and DenverGuy. Nobody is obsessed with you except maybe Wendy. What part, exactly, is NOT crazy? There is alot to pick and choose from on this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 I am basing this also on what you have been saying. The fact that he emailed you AFTER his ex split up with him shows that he only needs you to feed his ego. If he did care about you, he could've easily got in contact with you if he wanted to be with you that badly. He didn't initiate contact..YOU did. So, I did the contact. The fact that he responded shows that he is using me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 "I would be his servant if he let me" is SO not respecting yourself. What's wrong with being his servant? I'd love to fold his clothes, cook for him, and clean his house. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 What's wrong with being his servant? I'd love to fold his clothes, cook for him, and clean his house. Never going to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
bootylicious Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 So, I did the contact. The fact that he responded shows that he is using me. So you acknowledge that he is using you am I right? Man..this is messed up. What's wrong with being his servant? I'd love to fold his clothes, cook for him, and clean his house. I can't handle this thread anymore...So you are willing to be his slave? I am actually laughing in disbelief. Ariadne...Sweetie, where has your self-respect disappeared to? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 A photo? The guy has practically his ENTIRE life in pictures on that website...esp the pictures of him bodybuilding- one of the most narcissistic activities there is. See, that doesn't make any sense. His ex didn't sound all that bitter to be perfectly honest, and there was MORE than one of them saying the same thing about it. The ex is bitter. He supported her for two years, bought her thousands of dollars in dolls, and instead of being grateful she puts his name on the mud. The only reason you LOVE that website is because it provides you with more than enough fodder to feed your obsession too. Well, I prefer to read his old posts in forums. Link to post Share on other sites
zicke Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 I hate to say this, but I kinda agree with Ariadne---we really do not know anything about this man, only from his website and from an ex-girlfriend or two. Despite how the evidence is overwhelmingly pointing to the fact that the man probably has quite a big ego, we just do not know. I guess I am looking at it from my perspective. I recently got out of a 4 year engagement as well, and while I will bitch about the guy, I would never go to the extent that the ex's on this thread have. When you are "outed" publicly like this guy is being outed, it has gone too far. The man is being diagnosed, made fun of, belittled, and we all know who he is. If we did not have access to his website, or name, or anything that identifies him, sure, blast away. But we do. And that I lay firmly at Ariadne's feet. It wouldn't take many people too long to figure out who she is talking about...and it didn't help that Dollgf all but linked her blog. I am just as guilty, after all, I did go to the site, and did bring up the 9 dining rooms. While, again, not my kinda guy...but he still is human. Link to post Share on other sites
tinke Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 too funny, once again! the HE I was referring to with "how can he respect you if you don't show self-respect" is your son! not everything is about DG! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 So you acknowledge that he is using you am I right? Man..this is messed up. No, I didn't. I contacted "him" and your conclusion because he responded is that he is using me. That doesn't make any sense to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 20, 2008 Author Share Posted June 20, 2008 I hate to say this, but I kinda agree with Ariadne---we really do not know anything about this man, only from his website and from an ex-girlfriend or two. People jump to conclussions that someone is a "Narcissist" because he doesn't love them. What if Denver guy simply didn't love the ex's? When someone doesn't love someone back, people are fast to say that he is an emotionally unavailable person. He may be simply emotionally unavailable to them as romantic partners. Link to post Share on other sites
bootylicious Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 No, I didn't. I contacted "him" and your conclusion because he responded is that he is using me. That doesn't make any sense to me. Well when he was with his GF he could've contacted you then without his GF's knowledge. If he loved you, he would not have gone with Wendy in the first place. Why has he not said he loves you? Simple..because he doesn't! It is not healthy to pin all your hopes on this one human being. He isn't willing to get into a relationship with you and let's face it..he never will. If you want to live in fantasy world then that is your choice, I have said my piece. I am done with this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
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