I heard from Denver guy

[Ariadne]

You emailed him first. And he still hasn't emailed you and answered your personal questions. If he was inlove with you and felt what you feel for him, he'd let you know exactly what was going on in his life.

 

Well, that is expected from him.

[Ariadne]

Whether you're joking or not, it would be a realistic comment.

 

After he got together with her he wrote me this:

 

I tell you that you're great and sweet and all sorts of nice things and I mean all of that, too. I don't sit here and think you're annoying or bothering me or anything like that because you're not. I worry about being annoying and being a problem myself.

 

He was just fine writing.

 

And the "day" he got engaged he sent me an email in the morning.

 

After that I never heard from him again.

 

She just wouldn't let us talk. She sent me emails demanding me never to talk to him again.

 

This was obviously not his choice.

[Trialbyfire]

After he got together with her he wrote me this:

 

I tell you that you're great and sweet and all sorts of nice things and I mean all of that, too. I don't sit here and think you're annoying or bothering me or anything like that because you're not. I worry about being annoying and being a problem myself.

 

He was just fine writing.

 

And the "day" he got engaged he sent me an email in the morning.

 

After that I never heard from him again.

 

She just wouldn't let us talk. She sent me emails demanding me never to talk to him again.

 

This was obviously not his choice.

If he loved you or was your soulmate, someone half his size couldn't stop him from communicating with his lady love. He's a grown man with free will. Why can't you understand this?

[Ariadne]

If he loved you or was your soulmate, someone half his size couldn't stop him from communicating with his lady love. He's a grown man with free will. Why can't you understand this?

 

This is the whole mess.

 

He is all proper and compliant and honorable.

 

He'd do whatever she said.

 

If he was a guy that would just go an cheat, write under the table, call on the phone then I'd think that.

 

He is not like that.

[whichwayisup]

If he knew your email address and wanted to be in touch with you, he would have created another email account. Again, or he would have CALLED you on the phone. It's very odd that you two ONLY communicate by email. Nice way to tell people what they want to hear through words...

[Ariadne]

If he knew your email address and wanted to be in touch with you, he would have created another email account. Again, or he would have CALLED you on the phone. It's very odd that you two ONLY communicate by email. Nice way to tell people what they want to hear through words...

 

Once again.

 

Have you guys seen Star Trek?

 

He is like vulcan. Like a samurai. Or something.

[johan]

Why can't you understand this?

 

Because it's a rational thought and it violates the fantasy. You're not dealing with a straight story here. You're arguing with the dreams of someone who only wants to live in dreamland. And you are never going to get anywhere doing that.

[whichwayisup]

If he was a guy that would just go an cheat, write under the table, call on the phone then I'd think that.

 

Okay, with that being said, why hasn't he called? Why didn't he call you as soon as they broke up? Why hasn't he told you anything personal by email in the past week or so?

[Trialbyfire]

This is the whole mess.

 

He is all proper and compliant and honorable.

 

He'd do whatever she said.

 

If he was a guy that would just go an cheat, write under the table, call on the phone then I'd think that.

 

He is not like that.

This has nothing to do with honour. Honour would dictate that if he wasn't in love with Wendy, he wouldn't have strung her along. Same goes for you. It didn't happen that way, did it?

[whichwayisup]

Have you guys seen Star Trek?

 

But ST isn't real......It's fantasy and fiction. Not real life.

[Touche]

Well.... they haven't shared a bed in two years???

 

And she called him all that crap??? et al???

 

Anyway, she posted in her blog that she is moving out or something like that.

 

And that girl that is living with him is Laura. He talked to me about her. They've been friends for ages and she lived in Florida I believe.

 

Seems like she moved to Colorado now and is staying in his house.

 

And Darlene is his lawyer, she lived with him for a year (his house is huge and he has people there sometimes) and they never had sex or anything like that.

 

She was living there the second week that I went to visit. I got to talk to her and all. She's very smart.

 

But, A you haven't shared a bed with him either.

 

And it's very weird for a man of his age to have these "roommates."

 

Ok, now I'm going to say something very controversial and you'll probably never speak to me again but here goes...GASP...

 

I think he's not completely heterosexual. He's either gay or bi. Yep. So many things point to it. The "grandma" furniture...the ballet poises, the jewelry, the not being able to commit to ONE woman by his age...something's really not right here. My "Gaydar" has been going off.

 

There. I've said it.

[Ariadne]

Okay, with that being said, why hasn't he called? Why didn't he call you as soon as they broke up? Why hasn't he told you anything personal by email in the past week or so?

 

I don't think he considers himself broken up.

 

She has been saying that lately because she's mad.

 

She got pissed because he won't get rid of Darlene I believe.

 

He still considers himself engaged.

 

I was very surprised he'd write that time.

[Ariadne]

This has nothing to do with honour. Honour would dictate that if he wasn't in love with Wendy, he wouldn't have strung her along. Same goes for you. It didn't happen that way, did it?

 

Wendy a few days ago posted this video in her blog, and said that it reminded him of her relationship with him.

 

Coin Operated Boy:

 

[Ariadne]

I think he's not completely heterosexual. He's either gay or bi. Yep. So many things point to it. The "grandma" furniture...the ballet poises, the jewelry, the not being able to commit to ONE woman by his age...something's really not right here. My "Gaydar" has been going off. There. I've said it.

 

That's the first thing my father and mother said when I went to stay in his house and he didn't want to have sex with me.

 

No. He is not.

[Touche]

I don't think he considers himself broken up.

 

She has been saying that lately because she's mad.

 

She got pissed because he won't get rid of Darlene I believe.

 

He still considers himself engaged.

 

I was very surprised he'd write that time.

 

The man considers himself engaged yet moves another woman in and still leads you on. Nice.

 

Yep, and my gaydar is still going off...the tight jeans that are so outdated with the butt shots...the bleached blonde fake hair. The really weird fake "ballet" poses.

[whichwayisup]

And it's very weird for a man of his age to have these "roommates."

 

They are probably FWB's.

 

Or maybe he is a-sexual, doesn't have sex.

[whichwayisup]

I don't think he considers himself broken up.

 

She has been saying that lately because she's mad.

 

She got pissed because he won't get rid of Darlene I believe.

 

He still considers himself engaged.

 

I was very surprised he'd write that time.

 

Well, then he's a fool. Because it certainly seemed like she and him were over and she isn't going to marry him.

 

How do you know he STILL considers himself engaged?

[Trialbyfire]

I don't think he considers himself broken up.

 

She has been saying that lately because she's mad.

 

She got pissed because he won't get rid of Darlene I believe.

 

He still considers himself engaged.

 

I was very surprised he'd write that time.

If he still believes he's still engaged, then who broke up with whom? Also, if he still felt he was engaged, wouldn't his "honour" have prevented him from responding?

 

Wendy a few days ago posted this video in her blog, and said that it reminded him of her relationship with him.

 

Coin Operated Boy:

 

What does this tell you? He's sadly lacking in emotions. How can this be your soulmate, how can he feel love for you?

[Ariadne]

The man considers himself engaged yet moves another woman in and still leads you on. Nice.

 

Like Wendy said, he can't say no.

 

He can say not to sex etc, but when it comes to helping friends he has a hard time.

[Ariadne]

They are probably FWB's.

 

Or maybe he is a-sexual, doesn't have sex.

 

..............

[Ariadne]

How do you know he STILL considers himself engaged?

 

I'm pretty sure. Plus, she is still living in the house.

 

His sense of loyalty is enormous.

[Touche]

That's the first thing my father and mother said when I went to stay in his house and he didn't want to have sex with me.

 

No. He is not.

 

How do you know he's not?

 

You should listen to your mother and father, A. I think he's as queer as a two dollar bill.

 

(Not that there's anything wrong with that.)

 

I can just picture him prancing around in Miami Beach. He'd fit right in.

 

Surely you can do better.

[johan]

He sounds perfect. Has anything you've read on this thread changed your mind about him at all, Ariadne? Even a little bit?

[Ariadne]

If he still believes he's still engaged, then who broke up with whom? Also, if he still felt he was engaged, wouldn't his "honour" have prevented him from responding?

 

 

What does this tell you? He's sadly lacking in emotions. How can this be your soulmate, how can he feel love for you?

 

I believe "she" broke up with him because he had the lawyer, and I believe because he doesn't feel it with her. He is detached. But that's just my take (and my fantasy).

 

And he was not lacking in emotions with me. He grinned like a child and was the most loving "ever". He'd just touch me and kiss me constantly when we were together.

 

I know, is all a far as hell shot and I don't think I have a chance in hell.

 

But I still love him and I believe in my fantasy still.

[Trialbyfire]

How do you know he's not?

 

You should listen to your mother and father, A. I think he's as queer as a two dollar bill.

 

(Not that there's anything wrong with that.)

 

I can just picture him prancing around in Miami Beach. He'd fit right in.

 

Surely you can do better.

Don't beat around the bush Touché, tell us what you really think!