funny biz Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 this is my first post,so hello guys.I have been with my current girlfriend for about 9 years,but we are soon to get married. A couple of weeks ago i found out she had 3 condoms missing.she first got the condoms when she went to the clinic to get here monthly tests done.keep in mind we have three kids together.when she first brought the condoms home i took it upon myself to count them and it was 16 of them.i asked her about it and she said her sister and her brother may have taken them.also keep in mind im not always at her house b/c we both live in our own houses 4 now.what should i think.and i dont even want to ask her sister or brother about them cause i know they would lie in a heartbeat 4 her. Link to post Share on other sites
SeraBella Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Do you have other reason to believe she would be cheating on you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author funny biz Posted June 15, 2008 Author Share Posted June 15, 2008 well we have had times where we would have fights and not see each other 4 a few days.and she met this guy at work and i found out she had been calling him and she said he was just a friend,but when i found out about it she denied it at first until i pulled her phone records.and come to find out she has been talking to this guy for 11 months behind my back,but she swears she only talks to him when we have a bad argurment or what not.she swears they never had sex,but when i found out she made it here business to call this guy and tell him she wasnt gonna be calling him anymore cause i found out.and keep in mind alot of these calls were made at one or 2 oclock a.m.what should i think? Link to post Share on other sites
Author funny biz Posted June 15, 2008 Author Share Posted June 15, 2008 she also made a dumb statement about the condoms missing and said and i quote "If i was going to cheat on u dont u think i would atleast stop and think to myself and say he might be counting these condoms so i better buy some".This statement by itself made me extremely suspicious Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I constantly give condoms to friends, kids, anyone i think might need them ! She said she didn't do that, but there could be so many explanations. Kids love to play with condoms : balloons ! Just ask her and watch her eyes and behaviour. Link to post Share on other sites
Strawberry Cane Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Clearly you can not trust your girlfriend, otherwise you wouldn't be on here asking for opinions. It sounds sketchy to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author funny biz Posted June 15, 2008 Author Share Posted June 15, 2008 what sounds sketchy.this is how it went down. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 this is my first post,so hello guys.I have been with my current girlfriend for about 9 years,but we are soon to get married. A couple of weeks ago i found out she had 3 condoms missing.she first got the condoms when she went to the clinic to get here monthly tests done.keep in mind we have three kids together.when she first brought the condoms home i took it upon myself to count them and it was 16 of them.i asked her about it and she said her sister and her brother may have taken them.also keep in mind im not always at her house b/c we both live in our own houses 4 now.what should i think.and i dont even want to ask her sister or brother about them cause i know they would lie in a heartbeat 4 her. Condoms and going the clinic to get her monthly tests? Got a question, why are condoms used during a clinical test? Condoms are used in movies, did she try something from the movies? She might be telling the truth as in the brother and sister taking them. I had an ex that kept some on her just in case the mood hit. It is not like we were in the bedroom when the mood hits. I constantly give condoms to friends, kids, anyone i think might need them ! She said she didn't do that, but there could be so many explanations. Kids love to play with condoms : balloons ! Just ask her and watch her eyes and behaviour. Could also be used as chewing gum as demonstrated in the movie, Coneheads. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 she met this guy at work and i found out she had been calling him and she said he was just a friend,but when i found out about it she denied it at first until i pulled her phone records.and come to find out she has been talking to this guy for 11 months behind my back,but she swears she only talks to him when we have a bad argurment or what not.she swears they never had sex Straight from the cheater's handbook. "If i was going to cheat on u dont u think i would atleast stop and think to myself and say he might be counting these condoms so i better buy some". So is this sort of thing. she made it here business to call this guy and tell him she wasnt gonna be calling him anymore cause i found out This is what the cheater tells you. The cheater tells the OP "we need to be more careful" and they simply hide it better. EA + lying + covering ass + missing condoms = cheating. The simple answer is usually the right one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author funny biz Posted June 15, 2008 Author Share Posted June 15, 2008 here in arkansas if u go to the clinic for a checkup they ask you do u want a box of condoms.and thats where they came from. please by a show of response how many of u think she is cheating.i certainly think she is.who has any suggestions.and by the way i forgot to metion that i saw the guy and he wouldnt talk to me he jumped in his car and as he was driving off he said i will talk to u later.i even tried calling him but he wont answer my calls.why wouldnt this guy be a man and talk to me. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Cheater..definitely. But she is good, you will be hard pressed to get more evidence than you already have. Just curious though, what do you mean "monthly tests"...does she get tests every month?? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Here's an idea, since it sounds like the two of you don't use the condoms. Take all the condoms and put very tiny pin holes in them. If she gets pregnant, ask for a paternity test on the baby. Problem solved... Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I doubt this girl is going to use those condoms no that she knows he is counting them. She is now going to do exactly what she said she would: go out and buy some. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I wasn't serious... But if I was, he should find her new stash and do the same! Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Here's an idea, since it sounds like the two of you don't use the condoms. Take all the condoms and put very tiny pin holes in them. If she gets pregnant, ask for a paternity test on the baby. Problem solved... Oh man, you are cold , TBF ! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Oh man, you are cold , TBF ! Hence my ice princess avatar. I do enjoy negative stereotype role playing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author funny biz Posted June 15, 2008 Author Share Posted June 15, 2008 she just goes in for monthly check up for stds and i do also but i just dont get condoms.how would u guys go about getting the truth about the condoms.i know its been a while since they have been missing but this has just been eating me up Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 You can't get the truth unless she wants you to know.sorry. It is good that you guys get tested so often, but why do you do it so often. Are you two in an open relationship?If you two are only sleeping with each other and been together for a while, then I am just plain confused about how you think you are going to get an STD. I don't understand how you just mention this in passing like it is normal for 2 people in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
theobserver Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 LOL from the whole conversing with several men in secret on the phone and only admitting it when shown evidence to the guy that's a "friend" who wont even talk to you? What the hell man? I would be absolutely looney if my partner was doing this. I would be absolutely convinced she was having an affair. I'm glad you think so. As for taking constant STD tests that is highly unusual are you both porn stars? You have 4 homes too? Maybe you are porn stars... I'm sorry but unless there is some huge hillarious misunderstanding she's clearly having some sort of affair (most likely physical but possible emotional at the least). Find out for sure this week, hell tonight even. Get some explanations NOW you appear to have some balls to question over the condoms but with all the past crap that's happened it would be the final straw to me. Why would her brother and sister cover for her I haaaate family that would cover over an affair, I suppose it's the whole not ratting out blood thing... maybe I can understand maybe you could ask in a way that if they tell you the truth you wouldn't mention they said a word. Have a good read about the forums, don't for one minute think (if she's having an affair) that the amount of years you've been together or the fact you have children mean jack ****. Too be quite honest what eats me up also about this situation is the guy who wont even talk to you. I read something you typed earlier; "she swears she only talks to him when we have a bad argurment or what not" first of all this is a big no no, always always have your guard up if your partner is spilling the bad parts of your relationship to the opposite sex again read the forums this is how many of the cheating partners started before they got physical, first comes the emotional affair (running to him for advice, enjoying his company) then it's the final plunge sex. If the guy is a skirt chaser she's just gave him all the things he has to avoid (from the fights shes mentioned and generally anything she hates about you) to make her happy and get those panties off. Judging by his reaction when he saw you I'd say he already has. He could either not be wanting to talk to you because he thinks you know about the affair and want to confront him for a fight or explanations OR he just thinks your a big jerk not worth talking to very possible he's been telling her to just ditch you for his own personal gain or possibly for your girlfriends personal benefit (if he feels she's not happy). Best of Luck whatever you do. If I can ask one favor please try to update us on the situation, obviously nobody expects a reply after any revalation especially if there is pain, hurt and anger but it's still nice to get some closure for other people out there in similar situations. Link to post Share on other sites
SeraBella Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 she just goes in for monthly check up for stds and i do also but i just dont get condoms.how would u guys go about getting the truth about the condoms.i know its been a while since they have been missing but this has just been eating me up Do you have an open relationship? Monthly STD exams just don't sit right with me in a 9 year relationship...if I was in a 9 year relationship with someone the only reason I'd be getting tested for any STD is if one of us was with another person. The need for monthly exams here would be the first sign to me that someone is unfaithful (unless you have an open relationship, I guess). There really is no way to get the truth about the condoms since it doesn't seem like there is anyone honest involved. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 when she first brought the condoms home i took it upon myself to count them and it was 16 of them. Why is the heck would anyone count condoms randomly ?.. I have a pile of condoms in my dresser drawer that my wife and I use and I couldn't tell you how many are in there even if my life depended on it... I also can't ever remember counting condoms in my entire life.. You obviously cannot trust your GF and if you cannot trust her to the point that you randomly count condoms then I would suggest finding a new GF that you can trust.. Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 A 9 year relationship, with 3 kids, and the both of you are having monthly STD check ups? I'm not going to lie, she's definately cheating on you, but something sounds fishy on your end too. Neither one of you must trust each other, if you are having STD tests on a regular basis. To tell you the truth, that's absurd, married couples that have been together for over 25 years don't get checked that often or at all! Seriously, what's the reason behind all these monthly tests? Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 ...Dont marry her. I have never heard of a woman going to get constantly check out for STD"s every month unless she's very sexually active. If your the only man in her life why all these tests! doesnt that sound shady to you?! Trust me she's cheating. matter of fact get your ring back and tell her you want full custody. I bet you the truth will come to light! Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 Cheater..definitely. But she is good, you will be hard pressed to get more evidence than you already have. he doesn't need any more evidence to put her on the street where she belongs. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I have never heard of a woman going to get constantly check out for STD"s every month unless she's very sexually active. Or works in the medical field. Or is a blood donor. Could this be the case? Link to post Share on other sites
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