horriblewoman Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 Here's something interesting to ponder...we all lie to our husbands/wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. I'm not saying we all do it on a consistent basis, but at some point we make an omission,bend a truth or we tell a flat out lie, chances are probably more than once. We don't just do it with our signifigant others, we do it with our friends, our co-workers, and our families. I have been reading interesting things about people who say they never forgive a person who lies because they are untrustworthy- yet I'm sure they have been dishonest in some fashion themselves.It is one thing to be a compulsive liar - constantly twisting and manipulating the truth ; but I don't think it makes you a completely untrustworthy person when you lie from time to time not just because we all do it..but because we also still are responsible, mature, and have good hearts even though we choose to do that wrong thing at times. Your thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I can't speak for other people. But to me honesty is a BIG deal. I have never truly forgiven my H for lies he has told me, it really does make me wonder what else has he lied about if he seems to think it is OK to lie to his W. And no, I don't lie to him. I don't beleive you can throw stones when you live in a glass house, so I built mine of stone. Link to post Share on other sites
Isis1808 Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 Im going to have to agree with Porter, honesty is a big deal to me as well. I dont think that its ok to lie to your mate especially if theres no reason what so ever to lie, unless you have something to hide. Im going through this problem right now and i feel like i cant no longer trust my BFs word. Hes lied to me time after time, at this point it just feels like hes hiding something from me and/or doing something. I dont understand why people would lie if they have nothing to hide. The only reason i see someone would lie is if they are doing something they wouldnt want their SO to know about or their SO would disapprove of. In that case, the person being lied to, has right not to trust their SO. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 but I don't think it makes you a completely untrustworthy person when you lie from time to time not just because we all do it..but because we also still are responsible, mature, and have good hearts even though we choose to do that wrong thing at times. Your thoughts? I tend to believe that betrayers are the worst of people. If I give someone my trust and they betray it... I'm done with them. Period. So, take a look at the lies you tell. Did you take advantage of someone's trust? Did you do it for selfish gain? Remember that not all lies are created equal. Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 Yeah, lying is bad... It usually indicates that you screwed up, are aware of it, and aren't strong enough to take responsibity for your actions. If you find yourself lying all the time, then don't do stupid **** and you won't have to lie about it. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted June 20, 2008 Share Posted June 20, 2008 Here's something interesting to ponder...we all lie to our husbands/wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. I'm not saying we all do it on a consistent basis, but at some point we make an omission,bend a truth or we tell a flat out lie, chances are probably more than once. We don't just do it with our signifigant others, we do it with our friends, our co-workers, and our families. I have been reading interesting things about people who say they never forgive a person who lies because they are untrustworthy- yet I'm sure they have been dishonest in some fashion themselves. There is a big difference between lying about serious things, and the little white lies like telling your gf that she doesn't look fat in a particular dress. That was to spare her feelings. Much different than that lies that makes one an untrustworthy jacktard. Link to post Share on other sites
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