sleeplessinsandiego Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hello everyone! I'm new to this message board, but I've read a few posts and I see there is some great advice being given out there. Ok! here goes... I'm a 19 year old college student and I'm currently going to summer school. At my school they have a tutoring center, where I go to get help with my homework. I met this girl who works there as a tutor and have become friends with her. She is 19 and from what I can tell is single. She is very smart as well as really [color=red]beautiful![/color] Well my problem is, I can't tell if she is flirting with me or not! Sometimes I think she might be, but other times I think she is just being a nice person. (it is so subjective I know) I love talking with this girl! I just wish I had more chances to! For example: The other day she asked me for a ride home, because her sister couldn't take her home from school. When I said yes, she said "your such a sweet guy" and put her hand on my knee. But It almost sounded like when a girl says "your're a nice guy." (referring to how when people say nice guys finish last. I hope that makes sense) Well of course I accepted, and I took her home. It was great! On the way home I asked if she wanted to go to star bucks or out to eat. Well she said she had laundry to do, but said "another time." Then she made this big deal of bringing me some Chinese tea (she is of Asian decent) to thank me for the ride home. However the next day she didn’t bring anything (which is understandable because I don’t know how she would anyway. I can’t see her hauling a thermos around all day.) Taking her home really made my day! But i dunno about these mixed signals.. Example II: Also a few days ago, I come into the tutoring center, and wait to get my question answered by one of the tutors. Well the tutor I like comes in, to start her shift and comments on my haircut. (I had it cut the day before) Her: "Did you get a haircut?" Me "yeah, I got it cut yesterday" Her:" It looks good" then we chatted for a bit more on other random stuff. A) She could just be saying that as a friend or B) maybe that was a subtle hint or something (I dunno ) Now ok, I plan on asking her to the movies tomorrow. I know that I have to because if I don't I would regret it! My only hang up is, I don't see her that much outside of the tutoring center.(once or twice passing in the halls) So I will have to ask when she is not busy helping someone. Also the tutoring room can sometimes be really quiet, so it might be a little awkward. Since it is her JOB to be a tutor, I don't want to "hit on her" because that smile she gives me, could be the same smile she gives everyone else. I think I will start by saying "are you lost, because heaven is a long way from here"....just kidding of course! But seriously I really hope she says yes! I just don't know what she will say. I have no idea what to expect. She seems very focused on her school, and somewhat religious. I once saw her reading her bible in the tutoring center. Now there's nothing wrong with that, but she might be too focused on school to want to go out! I dunno I can think of a million things like this. I haven’t dated in a really long time! (since high school) It’s been a long single year and I'm starting to wonder why this is so difficult. I believe I am just your average 19 year old (6'3" 170 lbs, with average looks, spikey hair etc, ) I have been trying too! Well that’s my story! Thanks for reading all this. I appreciate any advice you have to offer. This post has helped me sorta vent all my anxiety over this awesome girl!!! Thanks SleeplessinSanDiego p.s. (im not really sleepless, but that movie inspired my name choice..lol) Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 Just go, man. No matter of analysis and fret is going to get her...but it can certainly lose her. You going to state? UCSD? USD? Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted July 26, 2003 Moderators Share Posted July 26, 2003 Definitely agree with Ryan... Just Ask Her...Waste no more time messin' about. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
Author sleeplessinsandiego Posted July 30, 2003 Author Share Posted July 30, 2003 Hey everyone, Well first, I want to thank everyone for their advice! I didn't get to ask out that girl on Friday in the tutoring center because she always seemed to be busy helping people. Any-who, this morning I found her in the halls (going to her next class) and casually asked her to see a movie this up coming weekend. It was a lot easier than I thought too! Well she said "yeah, just give me a call this weekend. I'll give you my number in the tutoring center." We said our goodbyes and then she went to her next class. Well that definitely made my day. Now flash forward to the tutoring center later in the day. She comes in and we say hello to each other and have casual conversation about something. Then I mention "so you still want to see a movie this weekend" to hopefully remind her that i would need her phone number, to call her. Then she's like "oh i remembered that my sister's birthday is on Sunday" Then she said something like "I will have to prepare the party on Saturday " (-i cant remember her exact phrase) So without skipping a beat, I was like "oh how old is your sister going to be?" (I didn't want to look like really sad, that our date was not't going to happen) her: "shes going to be 14" Me: "oh thats cool, well maybe another time" her: "yeah, thanks for offering though" Now I know she has a younger sister, since she has told me about her before, so this is a valid excuse. But I still feel kinda of sad. I was hoping that maybe she could of said "heres my phone # anyway" (thats wishful thinking i know). This is the last week of summer school and I will not see her after until the start of fall semester. I know I shouldn't feel bad because I tried and thats all i can do. Also I know that even if she said "no" I shouldnt take it personally because there could be a million reasons as to why (not wanting a bf or something). But oh well. Thanks again people! I'm going to a jc right now so I can transfer to CSUSM. -Sleeplessinsandiego Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted July 30, 2003 Share Posted July 30, 2003 I know I shouldn't feel bad because I tried and thats all i can do. Also I know that even if she said "no" I shouldnt take it personally because there could be a million reasons as to why (not wanting a bf or something). Absolutely. Good for you for going for it. Now you don't have to wonder about it anymore... Link to post Share on other sites
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