i'm still in love with my ex...do i have a chance at getting him back?

[kirrikiki288]

i had my first serious relationship about 5 years ago and it lasted 2 years. my bf broke up with me (3 years ago) and we both went our seperate ways. i left for college and dated someone else, he didn't date anyone the entire 3 years.

 

about 6 months ago (after i was already single), my first ex and i started talking again and he told me he still loved me and wanted me back. i was not ready for a new relationship right away and told him i needed time. he misinterpreted this as a rejection and now that i'm ready, he says he has nothing left and has been seeing someone else for about 4 weeks

 

it hurts me so much!! then everytime i mention having lost him forever, he says "never say never..life always gives you more opportunities". We still chat occasionally online. His sister (my best friend) told me that he said to her that he made this new girl seem a lot more serious to me then she actually is. He's told his sister that this new girl isn't even really his GF. (P.S.- this new girl is a coworker, 4 years older then him, and previously married). so now i want him back and i don't know what to do? lay off or fight for what i want? help!

 

 

other things he's said:

 

-he's always poking fun about his new gf, clearly trying to get a reaction from me.

 

-he makes fun of me and jokes around

 

-he's asked me how my BF situation is

 

-i've told him my feelings twice already. both times he tells me that life is long and gives more chances. but he also says that time heals everything.

 

-when i asked him how he got over me so fast (because 4 months ago he told me again he still cared about me), he said he replaced me.

 

-there have been several days when we talk online while he's at work or when he comes home for about 3 or 4 hours, just talking about random things.

 

-he also went as far to mention that he'd like to visit the Northeast again (he visited me for the first time in Nov) and would probably go to Boston (which is where i go to school).

[Sw3etdev1L]

I think he is trying to make you think abouot him, but doesn't want you back...just wants to make you angry about the situation. It doesn't sound like something healthy to me.

What I would do in your situation would be....let him go.

Let another 6 months pass... Tell him straightforwardly " the truth is I like you and I'd like to go back with you, but like you are not willing to give us a second chance, then I have to say goodbye because this relationship is going to hurt me and I am sorry".

Let time pass by...... u never know what surprises the future might bring.

Million men, you've dated how many? A hundred???? so many guys left to date.....