serendip Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 It's just been over a year since the break up. It's been almost 3 months of pure NC(from me...she contacted me in early May - I ignored her) which has really helped me to heal. I am not fully heal but perhaps I will never fully heal from her cheating and my in ability to walk away. Perhaps this is as good as it gets. I sometimes find myself still having emotional thoughts of her but they are dull and seem to come from a distant place... ...like I still care one moment...then ...a little resentment and anger at her cheating (but this is a lot better then before when I was really angry...thanks to NC...it has help) Then there are some days I don't have feelings for her at all. What has really help me in the process of healing...is doing healthy activities like camping, hiking, scuba diving, rock climbing, sailing...etc Also I met this girl....we aren't dating...but I do activities with her. I don't want a relationship with her b/c I know in the long term it won't work(we are 2 different people)...but for some reason when I'm with her...the whole world disappears and I am just in the moment...I don't think about anything else but living the moment. So I think that has help me not to analyze my break up with the ex so much. Link to post Share on other sites
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